how do you deal with hurt in your life

[Huwee]

Hurt is hard not to deal with,Maybe there is no way to handle it.How do you not go threw it...you can't.You have to manage it and control yourself in the process.I always had it since birth...I have no family,well it's only 6 of us an 3 are my Kids.Family is not big,to much hurt in my family...no survivors.No one to tell me an my brother why us...we grew up an learned it's just Life.Some get it good some do not some work for it all some get it handed to them...Life.No point on blaming anyone anyways it's your life live an do what u want.Sometimes we have to bare the pain of the hurt,Stand Strong.

[Annella]

I will be praying for you aggie.  It's not easy to watch our loved ones forget who we are or where they are, etc. The disease is unforgiving and a horrible thing for those around them to watch.

There was a lady I knew with Dementia, and she could not remember her husband had died 6 years previously. She kept asking for her husband, and the family would tell her that he had died 6 years ago. She would suffer over and over again anew each time they told her.  I finally told them to tell her he left for awhile.  She seemed to accept this and go on to another topic. It's frightening to get lost and not know where you live or your family. It's horrible to witness this as the disease takes it's toll. The upside.....is that most Dementia/Altzheimer patients have moments of clarity, and remember at times.

It's okay to cry and grieve the "loss". However, your mom is still around and however far her mind seems, she is still the mom you love.  She's the same woman that took care of you, loved you, etc. Now it's your turn to be the mom and the strong one for her. Yes, it's sad, but you still have her.

[patycake56]

Im really not sure how to answer that cause im still dealing with the death of my baby sister,she took her own life in dec,her dr,said she was depressed.So i wishni could help somebody deal with pain its just bnot nthat easy.

[samiole32]

Thank God she is still there and you can still hear her voice and feel her, I lost my father 4 years ago and I wish I can hear him talking to me I wish I can feel him beside me even if he can't do anything. I miss him a lot maybe I never though it would be like that before I lost him. I feel so lonely without him in my life. I Love you Dad

[Annella]

Im really not sure how to answer that cause im still dealing with the death of my baby sister,she took her own life in dec,her dr,said she was depressed.So i wishni could help somebody deal with pain its just bnot nthat easy.

Dealing with a loved one that has committed suicide is very difficult.  I had a very close friend take their own life and you can't help but feel "what went wrong?" There was no indication that they were on the brink. They seemed perfectly fine. There are "signs" that a person is suicidal, but most people are not familiar with them, or there is nothing....and it leaves everyone in shock when it happens, and nobody had a clue.

Suicide victims leave such a swath of sorrow and pain for those left to deal with the questions, guilt, and shock. You must realize that if the Doctor said she was depressed, then there was a problem there. Many times those who are left "torture" themselves with "if only I had done or said such and such". It's just not true.

Your pain is fresh, and you need time to heal.  You will heal, but we can't turn off our memory. The best thing right now is to rally around your support network (parents, relatives, friends, etc.). All of you (including your sisters friends), need to draw strength from each other.  If you are not in a support group for suicide survivors, get in one. Your own emotional and mental health right now is priority.

Pour this out in prayer (and you don't have to profess to be a Christian to pray), take this to the Lord and lay it at His feet.  He can heal the deep wounds of our fragmented spirit and soul. The Bible says the heart is the seat of our emotions. It doesn't mean that muscle that pumps our blood, but that deep place where our upmost desire or sorrow resides. That place that nobody sees or knows, but God.  I'll be praying for you.