is it wrong to break up with someone because...

[niko2895]

it breaks there heart 

[Tresbn00]

It is wrong.   Intimacy is an important part of marriage.  Abstinance was thought to be acceptable in past, ,ore puritanical, generations and may even be accepted in cult-type religions. I would suggest seeking counseling and discussing it with a third party and if all else fails look at starting a new life with a new partner. Life is two short to be unhappy and lack of intimacy would certainly cause unhappiness.

[Tylershotmomma]

honestly YES it is!!!! sex shouldnt matter

[mh874892]

You said that you two are engaged, is he just wanting to wait until you are actually married? If that's the case, then I think you just have to deal with it until that time, no matter how hard it may be. However if he is not planning on ever having sex, but you obviously do and may want kids later, then something has to be done. Try talking to him about what he wants/needs from you and try to make him see that you just want to understand what is going on better. If he will partake, then try a couples counselor and hopefully you will get to the root of his issues. Like others have said, he may be looking elsewhere for sex and hoping that you will end it to let him off the hook. I hope this is not the case. Good Luck!