I've been with my guy for almost 5 years.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

And we're still not married.  We have a 2 1/2 year old, a baby due late April, and we are looking at houses.  It never really bothered me before, but lately (like this past month) I finally decided he is definitly the person I want to spend my life with.  I never want to lose him.  I am only 20, I'll be 21 in April, so am I too young to get married?  I ALWAYS told myself I HAVE to be with the person for 5 years before I even think about getting married, and that 5 year mark is right around the corner.  Everyone is always asking me when we're getting married and why it hasn't happened yet.  I don't want him to ask me because I pester him to ask me but I'm just wondering WHEN he's going to ask.  I know he loves me, it shows in everything he does - so what's the hold up.  I know other couples have been together for a long time and are still not married, so I know I'm not the only one.  Is there anyone else who's been in a 4+ year relationship that is still in dating mode?

[JessieKateRose]

If you've been together 5 years then you are not too young.

[surveydad]

I don't think your too young at all I was married at 21 and I was with her 4 years before we got married we have been married 8 years now.

You have a child and one on the way and are looking for a home, I would say your ready. Maybe he just wants to get into a house first.

Good Luck 

[luvh8tragedy87]

I haven't been in a relationship that long but I don't think 21 is too young for you to get married. You already have kids together, you're looking for a house so why not? 

[MaraKyle]

If your not too young to have had a child how are you too young to be married?  Having a child you are responsible for for the rest of your life is a much bigger thing than marrying someone who even if it does not work out (hope yours does work out), you can divorce and move on anyways.  If you break up now you would still have to split custody and possessions so why not marry?  I've been with only one guy who I've been with 2 and a half years now.  I think that I'm too young to get married but once i am 19 or 20 and have lived with him (living at home because college is expensive) for a year or so I would be okay with marrying him.

[tzs]

You got to have money to get married, and even a small wedding will break some folks. Understand that you have 1 kid and one in the oven, the last thing that your man is thinking about is getting married. He's thinking about taking care of you and the kids in the future.

Don't worry, its not like marriage licenses are gonna dissapear in to thin air.  If he really has a marriage issue, thats something you seriously need to discuss with him, otherwise, do you really think ya'll are financially set to have a wedding right now??? Trust me, If you are both commited in this relationship, he is thinking about all of this constantly!

[1969fine]

I've with my guy since 1967. We've been married almost 42years. Maybe your guy hasn't asked because its been so long he might have forgotten your time table. He might be waiting for you to asy something. If you want to get married say something. He might surprise you and say "What Took you So Long". Try it, what can you lose? Just mention it once and don't keep asking. That way he knows your ready and if he isn't let it go.

[Tresbn00]

5 years together (and still getting along), one child(another on the way), and buying a house together...to me it sounds like you are married sans decree and ring.  Is there a huge age difference between the two of you?  Have you been living together for five years?  Do you get along with each others parents? If you have lived together for 6 months, in Colorado, you are considered married.

[heartofphila]

Maybe he heard you say tht you wont get married till you are with a guy for at least 5 years.  And that is why he hasn't asked.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

All good answers - and yeah I want to wait until we can afford a nice wedding but just having that ring and saying fiance instead of boyfriend I think is what I want next...

[marcar1008]

  men  My boyfriend LOL 11 yrs. Finally after all that time, saying until I find a good secure job.... I had to ask him for a final date, cause if we wanted this musicians playing at our party they needed a day before they got booked. YESSSS 11 Years...finally wedding bells  Happily married with one son 

[Hurricanekiz]

When he feels it is really time to change the way he shall live, thats when it will happen.  Put yourself in his shoes and also think about how men go through certain changes before they decide they want to get married. As long as you, you,  stay faithful to him it will not hurt you  in the long run.  being together each day and standing strong without the papers shows that you both are strong. It will make you even happier the day of your wedding,  to know that you remained faithful. Just set short goals for now and let marriage come when time allow. 

[marieelissa]

And we're still not married.  We have a 2 1/2 year old, a baby due late April, and we are looking at houses.  It never really bothered me before, but lately (like this past month) I finally decided he is definitly the person I want to spend my life with.  I never want to lose him.  I am only 20, I'll be 21 in April, so am I too young to get married? 

That's really sad and funny at the same time. You're asking if you're too young to get married but you have 2 children already 

Why do people always look at what society does, instead of just doing what they want?

[Storm61115]

yes been with my man for 5 yrs but we havent had the time or the money to get married. our schedules are the same but once we get home we dont wanna SHIII. i do love him.