Can you love a baby .....

[SarahPunk]

In response to the comment of removing the bad genes. That is a completely different discussion because who's to say that it's bad genes and not just a bad life, it's Nature Vs. Nurture. I believe that nurture decides who a child will become. Anyway, pregnancy is hard speaking from experience and in this case the conception was hard too. However, maybe when you see the child, it'll all be worth it. Who's to say that a bad experience can't cause something truly amazing. Who knows maybe this child could be the best thing that ever happened to you, or it may be the constant reminder. I say have the baby and then decide if you want to keep it or not.

[dmalsbury]

How can you not love a baby? all babies are loveable and precious. their origin they are not aware of.

[catdula]

II as in that situation, I would opt for open adopition. This way I can still be a part of the babies life, but would not have to put the baby through bad times when it got older and had questions. And the adotped parents could help the baby to understand with lots of help for the agencies and religous leaders and counselors. I would never abort.

[celinesweets]

For me personally, I wouldn't because every time you look at the baby you remember that horrible time, but if you decide to bring the baby then you have to love he/she, the child is still yours no matter what and it's innocent.

[lily_24]

You would have to be very brave to keep the baby.  Beeing raped is never the victims fault because u never ask for that to happen to you.  Now the baby is not asking for the abortion...he/she is an innocent victim too. 

[mrstina08]

That is a hard pill to swallow. You really cant relate. If it has never happened to you. I love kids. I have two of my own and one on the way. Kids are loveable and to be adored. God forbid. What a tragedy.

[sadblueyes1]

she will be able to love the baby after he or she is born.

[bigedshult]

having the an abortion is the wrong thing to do if u don't wont it there lots of familly that can't have kid for some reason that will take and love it with all there harts

[BabyMamaBoutique]

Of course I could love the baby.  I could love any baby. Adoption is definitely viable.  That baby may be the product of a horrible act, but life itself is too valuable to throw away for anything.  The baby is the only good thing that could come from the situation. 

[jkhanson]

This would be a very difficult situation.

I don't believe in abortion so I would be leaning toward adopting the baby.  Someone mentioned Open Adoption so they could remain a part of the baby's life.  That is worth considering because the baby is still "your" baby too.

Counseling for the mother would be important.   

Answering questions the child has about "dad"  later will be very tough too.

[makedoughonline]

yes. I do.

[amyrouse]

To ask a rape victim/survivor to carry a pregnancy resulting from her rape to term so that she can give the child up for adoption is of the most cruel things I have seen.  I am a rape survivor of four and a half years, and I have received counseling, and I still have nightmares.  I still suffer from PTSD.  I would have had an abortion had I gotten pregnant.  The emotional turmoil a rape survivor goes through is unreal, to ask more of them than to heal is absurd.  They experienced a life altering event where they just did everything they could to survive and were violated in a way that no human being can imagine if they have not experienced it personally.  Add to that the traumas of pregnancy, the restrictions of pregnancy, and the loss of privacy of pregnancy, and you're just violating the victim again.  It amazes me when people casually mention adoption in the case of rape... when pregnancy is one of the last things a rape victim needs to worry about.  They have to re-learn how to live.

[JessieKateRose]

It's her decision. If she thinks she can still love the baby, alright. I hope she has still at least considered abortion and adoption as options for herself.

It really depends on the person and situation.