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tantricia44

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Why doesn't the woman just kick his *bleep* out & take all the money she could get out of him for breaking the marriage contract?

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Maybe they believe they can't do any better, or they love the person so much they're willing to be treated like a doormat.  I could see trying to forgive someone for a one time mistake, but not repeated cheating. 

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Because they can change him.

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Why doesn't the woman just kick his *bleep* out & take all the money she could get out of him for breaking the marriage contract?

Because females are mammals and they put up with anything because they are apes and there is no such thing as a marriage contract! Also it is in guys nature to cheat and reproduce and populate the Earth....gotta love Science!


I am sorry I don't agree with you, and also the man who was cheating he was cheating with another woman so it's not a man or a woman issue it's what kind of a man and what kind of a woman, when a woman forgive she do that because she love and care about the man and the family but sometimes woman doesn't forgive so it depend plus breaking a marriage will not be fixed if the woman get everything she can get and will never make her feel any better if she gets everything she can get
I think a cheater doesn't desurve to live with his other faithful half no matter the cheater was a man or a woman

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Forgiveness..is one of the main reasons, some want to seek revenge by making the man suffer and remind him that the unjustly action he has taken destroyed the relationship with not only the woman but everyone else involved.  Some stay to keep to the family together, so the children are raised by both parents, some just think they can't do any better and wont be able to find anyone else or perhaps she thinks she won't be able to support herself or her children.  I guess the decision depends on the womans self esteem or the way she was raised or her beliefs.

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Forgiveness~OR Codependancy!!! :wave:

Okay, let me elaborate a little, that was way too vague!!!(audience sighs and face-palms!)

Those are some of the reasons I feel that women go back, but it could be many different things, fear of starting over, feeling that they can change them, understanding why they did it. Or they are just a glutton for punishment-if their husbands do it again, and again, and again.

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Why doesn't the woman just kick his *bleep* out & take all the money she could get out of him for breaking the marriage contract?
If the situation was reversed meaning the wife cheated and was caught, should the man do the same thing? Should he take her back?

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My husband cheated on me. I forgave him, and our marriage is stronger than ever. Amazingly I trust him more than I ever have and it opened up an ability to be honest with each other. Of course the way I found out probably had something to do with it. He confessed it to me, I didn't have find out about it myself.

The way I see it is (and of course this stems from my christian faith) the devil comes to "steal, kill and destroy" and he starts with a family, because messing up a family has a great deal of domino effect...hurting more than just each other. Well, I figured my husband made a mistake but so have I....I have made many mistakes and God is faithful to forgive me. It is my responsibility to forgive him. And I also felt extremely honored that he trusted me enough to tell me that and risk destroying our relationship by being honest with me.

This probably sounds like insanity to people who are not christian but quite frankly, I don't care. Because I have a wonderful marriage with a man that I love with all my heart and I could have lost all of it for something that in the big picture doesn't matter all that much.


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Women are strange, strong creatures.  We are emotionally strong.  A woman would give her life ten times over to save the lives of those we love, and we can't even begin to explain why we love who we love.  A woman will set aside her own feelings and forgive and forgive.  Women have been socialized to ignore what our guts/intuition tells us, and to be "the woman behind the man."  If you disagree...take a quick look at our country.  Election season 2008 is a good example.  People who didn't like Sarah Palin had a tendency to knock on her gender rather than something else.  How about Hillary Clinton?  Why should we be surprised that a woman would claim that she'd never stay with a man that cheated on her, but when faced with the scenario, she stands by her man?



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Why doesn't the woman just kick his *bleep* out & take all the money she could get out of him for breaking the marriage contract?

Because females are mammals and they put up with anything because they are apes and there is no such thing as a marriage contract! Also it is in guys nature to cheat and reproduce and populate the Earth....gotta love Science!


Please don't use that bull *bleep* about guys can't help it because it's in nature to screw everything to pass on the genes crap. Wolves mate for life. The alpha male & alpha female mate for life. It's understood that no other female will mate with the alpha male ever! How much more for male humans who can't keep that tiny brain between their legs in. So human males are have no morals & animals like wolves do? That's what I call pop (bs) science! Yes, there is a marriage contract that's why when you go through divorce the woman get's half of his & half of hers depending on who broke the marriage contract. Believe it, I know some ex-married couples that fought over who gets custody of  the dog. I think the one species that got the never will cheat on  their woman right are the Black widow. He'll never cheat on you because, after mating, he becomes  a meal for his darling black widow spouse. Now, that's what I call a real man giving her everything he's got (I mean e v e r y t h i n g) & never be able to look for another mate again. A one time deal. But hey, he gets to pass on his GENES!!!!  Haaaaha  :P

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I don't know why....some variation of the Stockholm Syndrome, maybe????

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