being a better mom

[vonche79]

what is too much disapline when it comes to chesstizing your kids

[LADYJ53]

it crosses over the line when you begin to verbally abuse ex; saying negative things that can lower ones self esteem and physical abuse is when u begin to hit slap or knock your child in ways that you would fight an outsider another adult or when marks are left on them.

[username823]

It really depends. I would suggest confiscating belongings and other things that they value so they learn that through stupid actions come consequences.

[cloudsoup]

i think too much discipline would involve directly hurting
a child's ego - or like someone else said, lowering their
self-esteem. maybe reflecting on your own childhood and
discipline &remembering how certain things made you
feel, will help you to better understand your own children...

i remember a lot of times, my punishment was a week
without the computer. to me, this was the harshest!
think about if you took the cell phone away? its amazing
the remorse that can be felt when denied something
we "love" in light of a wrong we've caused. a lesson
teaches itself, rather than a lecture from mom or dad,
in which they're half-listening anyway.

treating kids like their opinion matters, maybe? talking to
them about exactly why they're being punished - and
enforcing it. not just throwing around "you're grounded!"
every time something comes up and by the next day,
everyone's forgotten about it, or you feel guilty and end
up letting it go. this only teaches them that they can do
it no matter what &you don't really mean what you say.

i don't have kids but i watch a lot of supernanny, and i've
always wanted to be a child psychologist or something  lol.
hope this helps...

[smylyfayce]

In my opinion, too much chesstizing your kids can lead to your kids having more fear of you than actually seeing that you love them and only wants what is best for them. When you constantly chesstize your kids, it can make them eventually just turn a deaf ear to whatever you have to say to them because you have lost their respect as a parent and a as person. But don't get me wrong, chesstizing is okay to a certain extent. But when you constantly chesstize your kids about every little thing, it is too much. You may need to ease up just a little bit. Give them some breathing room and let them know that you trust that they will make the right decisions based on what you have taught and instilled in them thus far.

[eap12]

i think that being firm and raising your voice is good enough sometimes