Do kids actually want to be spanked?(!)

[aslouie]

OK, OK, OK: I'm not here to spark controversy for the sake of it, but there's something that's been causing me to pause and wonder, for all the conventional wisdom, forbidding us to spank (our) children out of fear of serious, long-term psychological repercussions, I've been told by some parents, with their "boots-on-the-ground" experience, questioning if kids misbehave because they want to see what their boundaries are. By doing so, kids with their respective development issues can see what's right vs. what's wrong, so as to be more secure with themselves... and by being more secure with themselves--thanks to their parents' guidance/supervision, they can feel loved by mom and dad. So by direct accounts, does that provocatively mean children will feel unloved if they don't get spanked? I mean, there's something to be said about why kids, or for that matter, adults, still seek outrageous ways of getting (loving?) attention!

[candyterrius]

I don't think any kid wants to be spanked in general.

[Rexyrexerton]

I remember being a kid worried about being spanked because my dad hit REALLY hard 

[Falconer02]

Hey good thread here, aslouie. Well-worded.

So by direct accounts, does that provocatively mean children will feel unloved if they don't get spanked?

Do you mean in the long run? As they mature?

[JHNSONLEEANN]

I think that all kids really what is some attention, whether it be positive or negative.

[muush88]

well as a kid i pushed the limit to see how far i could go.  but found out wasnt me pushing the limit it was mood of parents at that particular time. So its not do they want to be spanked, its more will they get spanked

[Rastov]

When my girlfriend is testing me to see what I'll put up with, is she hoping I'll hit her?
There's the answer to your question. Testing limits does not mean "Please hit me".