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Guys who think they can hit their wives or girlfriends are wimps. I was in a bad relationship for years and would get beaten by my husband for every mistake I made. Not just that I would get beaten if the kids would get hurt because it was my fault that I wasnt watching them. And then a miracle happened. He fell in love with another woman and left the house. I took advantage of the situation and changed locks and never let him back in again. I didnt have the courage to walk out on him but now I would never let anyone like him come near me. I help other women who are in the same situation.
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And it's never OK for women to hit men.
Nobody, man or woman, should stay in a relationship with an abusive partner.
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I don't think its right for a woman to get hit, or the children. But I would never pick a woman over a man because there is help for men who have aggressive behavor. I a big strong person in the bible it does not say God put woman with woman, or man with a man, it says God made them male and female, they will leave the mother and father and stick together as to oneness. I am sorry that happened to you but the bible also says the man is the head of the household including the wife and children, and the head of the man is Christ, and the head of Christ is God, and I know Gods Name. PS 83:18 KJ not the newer version it has take it out, but the older version has it still in it.
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Its never OK to hit another human being...People who do that are punks
Since when has defending one group of people from being harmed been more important then defending another group? All individuals, all human beings have the right to be secured in their persons unless they did something to have their rights taken away (such as hitting someone.) If people want to truly stop criminal violence they need to stop grouping individuals and realize that the only way to achieve peace is to treat all groups on the same level. This means that one must defend the rights of all individuals over the rights of certain individuals. In any discussion of rights where the main focus are a certain group of people, it undermines all other groups and makes them seem less important. If we are ever to advance beyond all the racism, sexism and general bigotry of our species then we MUST stop focuses on grouping people entirely. We're not men or women, we're not Asian, Hispanic or any other race, we're not Americans, Canadians, Africans etc., we're human beings. There is nothing that will change that.
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It's never ok for a man or a woman to abuse their partner by any means! All abuse isn't physical but it all causes pain that sometimes never heals. All people aren't strong enough to leave an abusive relationship because of various reasons. However, that person must think of all of those people who truely do love them and of their well being too. Just because you feel stuck in any situation doesn't mean that you are. They are always choices and always a better way to do things. If a man or woman truely loves someone as much as they say they do, they wouldn't abuse them and make excuses for being wrong in the first place.
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Men who hit women are immature, insecure, weak and shameless.
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i do not think it is ok to hit a woman u can not raise some one already grown like they are your child
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Amen. :)
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There is more abuse than physical abuse and I have been put through all of them. A man that hurts a woman or children doesnt deserve to be the leader of a family and I dont believe in a God who would go for that way of thinking. tmjdnj095 please think about what you said because you are saying that no matter what we have to put up with it because he is the head of the household. I know women who have died because they stayed with the head of the household. I speak to women all the time about getting free of the abuse and I will for the rest of my life.
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I don't think its right for a woman to get hit, or the children. But I would never pick a woman over a man because there is help for men who have aggressive behavor. I a big strong person in the bible it does not say God put woman with woman, or man with a man, it says God made them male and female, they will leave the mother and father and stick together as to oneness. I am sorry that happened to you but the bible also says the man is the head of the household including the wife and children, and the head of the man is Christ, and the head of Christ is God, and I know Gods Name. PS 83:18 KJ not the newer version it has take it out, but the older version has it still in it.
It also says in the Bible that the husband is supposed to love his wife as Christ loves His Church, and died for Her. Nowhere does it say that he shows his love by beating her. And it says that they are "two in one flesh," not that the wife is the slave of the husband.
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If my man ever hit me his a** would be out on the street. That is for sure.
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To me it seems more wrong for a man to ever hit a woman. But a woman shoudn't hit a man either.
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why is anyone hitting someone else? If youre to the point of hitting, then someone should move out.
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I agree...What pisses me off is when people make excuses like 'She hit him first' or 'What did she do to make him beat her'...Stupid sh-t like that.
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Guys who think they can hit their wives or girlfriends are wimps. I was in a bad relationship for years and would get beaten by my husband for every mistake I made. Not just that I would get beaten if the kids would get hurt because it was my fault that I wasnt watching them. And then a miracle happened. He fell in love with another woman and left the house. I took advantage of the situation and changed locks and never let him back in again. I didnt have the courage to walk out on him but now I would never let anyone like him come near me. I help other women who are in the same situation.
If your a man and you hit woman your a week looser any woman who stands for it needs serious help with insecurity problems I watched the movie ''Whats love got to do with it'' too many times thanks for waking up Tina :)
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I believe no one should ever get beaten harassed or violated in any way based simply on their gender, race, or any other based on sterotyping
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I would grab a baseball bat if I ever catch a man hitting a woman and I would break every bone in his hands and arms. Then, he won't be able to hit another woman for a while.
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I agree no one should be in a relationship if the only way they communicate is through violance. When thier is children involved than they don't need to see or hear it. People should seperate if they can't get along without hitting each other. If their is love and repect in a relationship this should never happen. I know in relationships their is always going to be disagreements but there is other ways to work it out. Raised my son never to hit a women but I also told him she should never hit you either, if the relationship can't work get out especially before kids come into the family. I have seen people who are abused by a spouse or relationship partner and it never works out unless they both decide to make changes. My grandmother always said she would not go to bed mad, that her and grandpa would work it out. I believe that communication with words and not physical is always the be route to go.
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I wish a guy would hit me but of course that wouldn't happen cause I am with a girl. :heart:
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>:( No women should never be hit, and me should respect the women because they are the ones who help bring them into this world.
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I would grab a baseball bat if I ever catch a man hitting a woman and I would break every bone in his hands and arms. Then, he won't be able to hit another woman for a while.
What would you do if you see a woman attacking a man?
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Guys who think they can hit their wives or girlfriends are wimps. I was in a bad relationship for years and would get beaten by my husband for every mistake I made. Not just that I would get beaten if the kids would get hurt because it was my fault that I wasnt watching them. And then a miracle happened. He fell in love with another woman and left the house. I took advantage of the situation and changed locks and never let him back in again. I didnt have the courage to walk out on him but now I would never let anyone like him come near me. I help other women who are in the same situation.
i dont agree with abusive men hitting women.. i feel theyre a less than human.
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I wish a guy would hit me but of course that wouldn't happen cause I am with a girl. :heart:
Why would you wish a guy to hit you? D:
And always keep in mind that girls can be abusive too. (Not saying that she is though)
And it's never OK for women to hit men.
Nobody, man or woman, should stay in a relationship with an abusive partner.
Exactly. I even saw on some show "What Would You Do" where they shown the guy being rough (Not even hitting) the girl and everyone and their mother came over to yell at him and call the police but when the girl was beating on the guy, nobody did anything and one girl even made a "you go girl" gesture. When asked, people said they assumed the guy did something wrong and deserved it which is a complete BS excuse anyway.
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I agree that if you are with someone, neither one of you should be putting your hands on the other. I have known/know abused women and men. I HAD a husband that only became abusive when he drank. NOTICE the "HAD" in my last sentence. I left we got divorced. Since then I made it clear to every man I had a relationship with that if he EVER laid a hand on me, that to remember he has to sleep some time. I have had no problems since. My present husband is a sweetheart, but we both spend weekends at the range and he sees how good my aim is so I think that helps ;D
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And it's never OK for women to hit men.
Nobody, man or woman, should stay in a relationship with an abusive partner.
i think when a man hits and beat on a woman he is afraid of his own counter parts and takes it out on a woman the one and only precious gift for men. so be a man not a coward.
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I don't think its right for a woman to get hit, or the children. But I would never pick a woman over a man because there is help for men who have aggressive behavor.
That's very interesting. I wonder why there isn't help for women in this area?
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Never stay with a man who hits, slaps, or verbally abuses you. They'll never stop it no matter what they say or beg! It is abusive for children to witness this behavior in the household.
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I don't think it is ok for anyone to be abusive to another human being. I raised my son not to hit women and my girls not to take abuse from any man but I think that could also be turned around. My best friend's son was in an abusive relationship where she would be abusive to him and I am not talking about her hitting him but emotionally and spiritually.
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And it's never OK for women to hit men.
Nobody, man or woman, should stay in a relationship with an abusive partner.
i think when a man hits and beat on a woman he is afraid of his own counter parts and takes it out on a woman the one and only precious gift for men. so be a man not a coward.
Many things can be considered precious gifts to men.
I don't think its right for a woman to get hit, or the children. But I would never pick a woman over a man because there is help for men who have aggressive behavor.
That's very interesting. I wonder why there isn't help for women in this area?
If a woman hits a man, could it be that many people assume the man did something first to deserve it?
Never stay with a man who hits, slaps, or verbally abuses you. They'll never stop it no matter what they say or beg! It is abusive for children to witness this behavior in the household.
Also, a man should not stay with a woman who will hit, slap, or verbally abuse her partner.
To have children with an abusive partner, or to bring an abusive partner into the lives of children from another relationship shouldn't be happening.
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My present husband is a sweetheart, but we both spend weekends at the range and he sees how good my aim is so I think that helps ;D
LOL
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Guys who think they can hit their wives or girlfriends are wimps. I was in a bad relationship for years and would get beaten by my husband for every mistake I made. Not just that I would get beaten if the kids would get hurt because it was my fault that I wasnt watching them. And then a miracle happened. He fell in love with another woman and left the house. I took advantage of the situation and changed locks and never let him back in again. I didnt have the courage to walk out on him but now I would never let anyone like him come near me. I help other women who are in the same situation.
Good for you,its never ok for a man to hit a woman at all.
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nover hit a women in my life but peolpe who do should be let go
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i got slapped by a girl for calling her a *bleep* she was alot older than me i dont remember if it was hard b/c it was a long time ago and i was drunk it was in like 2008 but im pretty sure it was :'( :-[
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My ex husband use to hit me until he did it once to often then I turned around and got him too when he least expected it...after that I filed for a divorce....I agree nobody should be hitting anybody but I needed to give him some of his ouw medicen and then walk away, enough was enough...THE END!!
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I would grab a baseball bat if I ever catch a man hitting a woman and I would break every bone in his hands and arms. Then, he won't be able to hit another woman for a while.
What would you do if you see a woman attacking a man?
I will just watch until it gets out of control and then, I will call the police to deal with her.
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I wish a guy would hit me but of course that wouldn't happen cause I am with a girl. :heart:
Why would you wish a guy to hit you? D:
And always keep in mind that girls can be abusive too. (Not saying that she is though)
And it's never OK for women to hit men.
Nobody, man or woman, should stay in a relationship with an abusive partner.
Exactly. I even saw on some show "What Would You Do" where they shown the guy being rough (Not even hitting) the girl and everyone and their mother came over to yell at him and call the police but when the girl was beating on the guy, nobody did anything and one girl even made a "you go girl" gesture. When asked, people said they assumed the guy did something wrong and deserved it which is a complete BS excuse anyway.
That is true, but I knew a girl who got upset because she thought her boyfriend was flirting with another girl and beat the poop out of him at the mall and tons of people called the cops. I feel like people shouldn't be okay with violence, no matter what!
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I agree!!
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I totally agree...no one should hit anyone...male or female.
Just a silly note -- I was reading through some stuff on dumblaws dot com the other day and ran across this one:
In Huntington WV it is legal to beat your wife as long as it is done on Sunday and on the courthouse steps
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wonder how old that one is..
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Its never okay to hit period......this is stuff you learn in kindergarten.....
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There is more abuse than physical abuse and I have been put through all of them.
I have been there myself. In my situation it was a lot of mental abuse. Getting things thrown at you. I only physically got hit 4 times in the 13 years I was with him. But you learn to duck and some times that is not enough. Friends were not allowed unless they were already his. He cheated on me and raped me. Got told one time that the only reason a guy marries a fat woman is because no one else will want her so you never have to worry about her cheating on you. Yes it took me 13 years to leave him. The final straw was when he still refused to get a job when I was getting laid off from mine. He worked 3 out of the 13 years. I have been away from him for 3 years now and am still trying to get through the issues.
I do know that it does not matter the sex abuse is abuse and it is wrong. We are all suppose to love and care for one another and love and care for ourselves which is what I am having to relearn.
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Works both ways. Its never ok to hit anyone, unless we're talking about self defense. Its about respect. I was in one relationship where I was hit once. I didnt give him the opportunity to do it twice.
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a man should never hit a woman. I put up with it for 8months then pne day I decided enough was enough . I left and didnt tell my now ex that I was done.
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I agree No man should EVER put his hands on a woman no matter what! Growing up I was in an abusive household where I would have to witness my mother be savagely beaten regularly and feared for my life for many years. And he used to treaten my mother that if she ever tried to leave him he would kill us and he almost did.
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I am so sorry to hear of the abuse you suffered at the hands of this low life. No woman has to put up with physical or verbal abuse for a man. Women who stay with men who abuse them are only endangering their own lives and their children if they have them. They are only fooling themselves if they believe his lies that he will never do it again, because he can't control himself. He needs professional help. If he agrees to get it then you can decide if you want to stay with him or not after he has completed his counseling and therapy and proves he is a different man and makes amends for the damage he has caused to you. But, don't take the abuse any more from him one more day. Get out while you still have your life or stay and take the risk of losing it at the hands of a man who never learned how to control his anger. You deserve better and so do your children. My prayers are with you.
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My first husband like hitting me but we devorced and i wasn't going to put up with it. We had three children together and we were high school sweet hearts, but he was brought up different than I his family was drinking all the time where I had a decent family and we stayed together until my youngest was 6 months old and slip I didn't remarry until my children where adults and it better not the greatest but better.
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Well I'm a woman and I don't think its right for a man to hit a woman. I do not believe in violence in general. However, there are women who go out of their way to physically attack men. I've seen women in public screaming at their boyfriends or husbands, put their hands in their face, hiting them, pushing them etc.. Now I don't agree with the man hitting the woman but these women really need to stop hitting the men as well.
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I would say only in self defense. I have seen some women viciously attack men. I have 7 brothers. If a woman were beating on one of them, to where they felt their lives were in danger. I say clock here one good time and get away to call the police. I do not agree with either sides brutually beating each other.
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It's not OK to hit ANYBODY... it's NEVER OK to HIT for any reason...
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Yep guys who do that will never make it in the real world they are very sad indiviuals that need a good butt whipping. Been with a guy like that for 5 years and finally one day enough was enough and became stronger and smarting then him and got out. Anyone can walk away if you want to. :BangHead:
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I think it so low of a man to hit a woman. I have had it happen to me and know what it feels like.There is no excuse for it at all. I think they are afraid to beat on a man so they do it to a woman instead.
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I think its awful that men still hit women in this day and age.
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it never o k fro a man to put his hand on a female, remember ladies u must value yourselves more than he does, if he get away with doing it once remember he will always do it again,because you gave him permission to think n believe its okay. one can only do to the other :angel11: as they allow it. guard your heard and set limits and bounderies.