Friendship Traumas

[Mizzkizz7]

Everyone have gained friends and lost them. Some grow apart, fall apart, break away and never speak again. Some go through troubles talk about it, and mend their friendships.
 
Overtime, I have been very cautious on who to call a best friend or a friend in general. You can actually have your heart broken when a friend decides one day to start acting different with no communication and just abandon you. That hurts, so with myself experiencing that in the past I am fully prepared and guarded about who I allow in my space and I expect them to change. I try not to get too mentally invested and get comfortable with my own company.(myself) Loving myself, uplifting myself without any validation from a so called friend or friends. I don't believe in titles anymore with people I meet. Associates, maybe but friends/ best friends are very difficult to come across.

[ktheodos]

Good perspective....friendships come and go unfortunately...truer friends are hard to find...

[Nancy5]

That is so true.  I have seen, as I’m sure most people have, friendships end.  I know I am very lucky, I have two best friends who I know have my back 100%.  There is nothing we can’t tell each other.  We have laughed cried, and been there for each other in sad, upsetting times.  We have been there when we all married, our kids were born, watched the grow, watched them marry.  Thankfully our husbands all get along, maybe not best friends, but like each other.

[ghunter]

I agree with what everyone have said, my best friend is my husband and I still a a childhood friend.

[stevensm4]

It's only now as of late that I decided to re-evaluate that by using Aristotle's three types of friendships as a standard and realized the so called friendships I have are more so superficial ones born out utility for me.

If there were friendships of the good I had (mutual respect for one another), it would be from the perspective of the other party and that's maybe because I don't think I ever really wanted friends as well as not really having respect for people in general.

Maybe I should feel bad about that but even within this core group high school friends that I'm a part of, to me, it doesn't seem like there is deep respect for some people there as well.

[judylucas]

My husband was my very best friend but I also have a friend from 1st grade and one from high school that have remained friends for many years

[linderlizzie]

I'll be your friend Mizzkizz7.

BTW, we're supposed to love everyone and to be forgiving. Just be who you want to be and be your best. 

[ssarber]

When my son died, I quickly found out who my real friends were. My husband and a select few others. Actually, my church family was more supportive than some biological family. I find that being a good friend and listener is what draws people to you.

[Mizzkizz7]

I'll be your friend Mizzkizz7.

BTW, we're supposed to love everyone and to be forgiving. Just be who you want to be and be your best. 

Sounds good lizzie. Thanks :-)

[teresa3200]

I had the best friend in the world and she died of leukemia 11 years ago.

[cathy37]

My best friend in high school unfortunately died in a car crash.  She had got married and had a small child and had moved out of town.  I never saw her again after she moved and I wish I had been better about staying close to her.

[debidoo]

I have never had friendships that lasted.  Just for one reason or another.  Things I blamed on them and things I know were my fault.  I am ok like I am a loner.

[Mizzkizz7]

I have never had friendships that lasted.  Just for one reason or another.  Things I blamed on them and things I know were my fault.  I am ok like I am a loner.

Oh, I can relate.

[Mizzkizz7]

I had the best friend in the world and she died of leukemia 11 years ago.

So sorry for your loss

[mrsmere]

You are right.  My hubby is my best friend and been that way for 40 years.