Do you have grown children who try to boss you around

[debidoo]

I have a grown son who lives with me and he has issues which I can deal with for the most part but he now has the bad habit of trying to boss me around which I am not going to allow but it sure makes me miserable.  Does anyone else have this problem.

[dsosnowski06]

I have a daughter that doesn't live me but tries to tell me different things like what I should be eating (she is a dietitian)  or she doesn't like something I purchased for my house or how I should not argue with my husband.  I have told her you don't live here any more and have no say in my house.  Not sure we could live together again as we are too much alike.  Hope I never have to find out. 

[tjshorty]

Yes.   They seem to think they know better than I.  I hate it.  Luckily they don't live with me anymore.  Still the same town.  I never thought I would be happy that I didn't have my kids in my house, but, I am.  Good luck to you.

[Nancy5]

Honestly no.  My girls don't tell me what to do, and I don't tell them unless they ask.  So far we have never had any issues

[ajamimajida]

I wish I had kids to boss me around right now.  I lost 2 kids one at age 5 from drowning and the other at age 28 committed suicide. 

Enjoy every minute with your kids whether they boss you around or not.  Love them and keep them as some of us lost ours and would do anything to turn back the clock and change things.

[countrygirl12]

I think that is horrible.  I don't think I would ever do that with my parents.  And would not put up with a child grown or not doing that.

[mapiklfish]

I have one that just tries to blackmail me.  Accept my gayness and transness or I won't talk to you.  Getting really tired of that.  I don't put any conditions on her.  Not only that but, I got called some pretty foul names by her/him/whatever.

[sherryinutah]

Your son might have a controlling personality and he might perceive you as passive enough to tolerate that behavior.  One thing I learned.....

As a Mom is....

It's one thing to love a person and another thing to love their behavior.  You might have to have a very honest/ tough love conversation with him to let him know that while he's living with you - YOU are in the driver's seat.  Don't be afraid to be direct so you can succeed in making your point.   

If you can do that you'll radiate some self respect and eventually he'll develop a greater level of respect for you, as well.

 

[bretay]

no mine doesnt tell me wha tto do..we stay out of each others business..unless we ask each other something we give advice..but other than that..no

[gaylasue]

My daughter has never tried to "boss" me around.  She does make helpful suggestions quite often.

[nannycoe1]

Yes I have a daughter who I have to remind that she is not the boss of me

[oldbuddy]

Just the opposite, we live in the same house (different floors) as our youngest son and he does everything he can to make sure we are happy and comfortable.

[UGetPaid]

My mother is on this forum (she's my only active FC referral among many dozens) and pipes up an opinion on different topics every now and then. She better not say that her grown kids boss her around (unless she is talking about my sister) and if she DOES say that about me - I will just have to have a face to face talk with her, set her straight, and make sure she knows to not say such things in public regardless of whether it is true or not! 
 

[ghunter]

Yes, I do but I still let them know who is the parent.

[vickysue]

I wish I still have my  sons. Too boss me around.   But alas they have both passed on. And are missed .  I would never have tried to boss my mother around. She resected  me as an adult as I respected her.  When she was so ill the family  took turns  taking care of her.  I would leave work early pick up my son at school and drive  almost 200 miles every Friday and spend the weekend with her.  Then drive  it back  late Sunday night. But I am so glad  that I was able to do it for her. I offered to take a leave of absence and she threw a fit.  Told me she didn't want  me too.  That the rest of the family  could help her out . I took her on several trips  before she got too ill to travel . She also passed away too soon,