Dating APPS and Fear

[PGS28]

Oh my goodness, I truly am sorry to hear that.

The daughter of my sister-in-law's best friend was murdered in SC by someone from a dating app - It seems there is so much evil out there not just with dating apps but spouses and boyfriend/girlfriends. Wow I don't know.

[PGS28]

I've been single for a while too and am tempted to try a "wholesome" dating app. I don't know if that'll make a difference but I'm hoping I'm wise enough (at almost 40) to vet out the undesirables before we meet. 

I agree a dating app is tempting when you have been single for a few years and live in a small town. There are too many crazy people out there to take chances.

[PGS28]

I prefer face to face too, but sometimes online is easier because people can be too shy to approach you in person or figure you're already taken.

Dating online is too risky for me. I prefer the old fashioned way of meeting people--face-to-face.

[santa7]

Please be very, very careful.  My daughter's last boyfriend she met who dated her friend first and that friend had met him online.  Horrible, horrible story to tell about this.  I wrote some of it on reply to "Something you hate"

[dreamyxo]

I'd never use a dating app.  I don't think you would meet quality people on one.

[santa7]

I've seen good and bad happen with this.  Some are good, sincere people.  Others are dangerous.

[tnshpalmer85]

Dating apps can be dangerous, but I just think dating is 2019 is dangerous period. People can not break up with one another without killing the other person. It is a very scary time because you do not know who to trust not even the person you go to bed with at night.

[timvolley]

i know you need to be careful when going onliine

[alaskah]

I met my current boyfriend on Badoo (similar to Tinder). I had my cousin come with me when I initially met him. But I also did a background check on him and seriously dug into his social media before even asking to meet him.

I feel bad for people who think every person they meet on dating apps is Prince Charming. A friend of my moms met a guy at the bar after chatting on a dating app. Went back to his house. Didn't tell anyone where she was going, what his name was... literally anything. Thankfully she came back and was safe, but it could have turned out a lot worse.

The stigma around online dating needs to go away before anyone feels comfortable saying "hey, I met this person, can you come with me/track my location?"

[countrygirl12]

I've been single for a while too and am tempted to try a "wholesome" dating app. I don't know if that'll make a difference but I'm hoping I'm wise enough (at almost 40) to vet out the undesirables before we meet. 

I agree a dating app is tempting when you have been single for a few years and live in a small town. There are too many crazy people out there to take chances.

You have no idea.  People can be whatever they want to be online.  There was a girl in Nebraska (I think) who met a guy on tinder and I think they had even met a few times previous.  Anyway, they meet this night and the man and his GIRLFRIEND kill the girl he has been chatting with.

[countrygirl12]

Dating apps can be dangerous, but I just think dating is 2019 is dangerous period. People can not break up with one another without killing the other person. It is a very scary time because you do not know who to trust not even the person you go to bed with at night.

Very true that dating in 2019 is dangerous.  I do not agree that everyone who breaks up with someone kills them.  It happens some times.  You also have crazy men who just go off or try to kill random women because he has been rejected in the past.  I have seen stories about that a couple times.

You are also right about (the person you go to bed with at night) (I assume you are talking about the person you are married to).  Face is you really don't know anybody any more.

[countrygirl12]

I met my current boyfriend on Badoo (similar to Tinder). I had my cousin come with me when I initially met him. But I also did a background check on him and seriously dug into his social media before even asking to meet him.

I feel bad for people who think every person they meet on dating apps is Prince Charming. A friend of my moms met a guy at the bar after chatting on a dating app. Went back to his house. Didn't tell anyone where she was going, what his name was... literally anything. Thankfully she came back and was safe, but it could have turned out a lot worse.

The stigma around online dating needs to go away before anyone feels comfortable saying "hey, I met this person, can you come with me/track my location?"

Just curious how you done a background check on him?  You need a social security number, birthday, DL number, quite a bit of info to do a real back ground check.  Running their name online is not a back ground check.  Nor is the "mylife".  There is supposedly a person with the same first and last name in a town about an hour from me and the mylife has our info morphed together and all mixed up.  Yes, I have googled my own name to see what comes up.

Just because you think you find something online also doesn't mean it is correct.  I don't think I would ever trust dating app.  Years ago I went on a blind date and decided that was never going to happen again either.  If I were dating I would not go out with anybody I had not met somewhere and already knew and even then I would not get in to a car with them until I knew them really well.  Once you get in a car with them you give up all control.

At the same time some people do meet on a dating app and get married and live a happy life.  And good for them.  I just don't think I could ever do that.

[pectacon]

Of course it's a risk, but I don't see it as that much more dangerous than any other form of interaction. You can just as soon be victimized by someone you meet in person. Scams and murder were invented long before the internet. I think most of the deception on dating apps is people lying about their height/weight, rather than straight up predators, but you just have to be careful with everyone.

[Se1998]

I met my significant other through a dating site also because where i used to live we're all mostly related i have met some really nice people before him but sometimes your not so lucky i met a guy that wanted me to meet his kids right away and etc .

[cathy37]

I am single and don't think I would ever use a Dating App.  People are so mean now you just don't know what situation you might get into.