ARE YOU THE CHEATER OR HAVE YOU BEEN CHEATED ON?

[babypolotb]

SORRY TO BRING UP OLD WOUNDS, MY PURPOSE IS TO SHARE OUR SIMILAR EXPERIENCES WITH EACH OTHER SO SOMEBODY DOESNT FEEL LIKE THEIR THE ONLY ONES WHO HAVE GONE THROUGH THIS. 

I PERSONALLY HAVE BEEN CHEATED ON FROM MY LAST BOYFRIEND, HE WAS STILL MESSING WITH HIS EX-GIRLFRIEND/FRIEND..WHATEVER HE CALLED HER! HE DATED HER BEFORE AND AFTER THEY BROKE UP, THEY WERE STILL CLOSE FRIENDS.  HE WAS STILL IN LOVE WITH HER WHEN HE WAS WITH ME AND STILL HAVE HER COME OVER TO THE HOUSE AND THEY SHARE HOLIDAYS TOGETHER.  YEAH WHAT A MESS THAT WAS!

[Falconer02]

He lied to me, cheated and got girls pregnant, what an *bleep*

WOW what an asshat. Words can barely describe what a sorry peice of soiled garbage he is. Sorry you had to go thru that...that is ridiculous. Was he rich or something? He's sending 1000's of dollars to a woman? Seriously, wtf?

[Rastov]

Neither 

[mrisha]

It doesn't matter whether he is black or white, you will find scum in either race and also other races.  I found that out the hard way. 

Its good you got rid of him.  That was FUBAR.  Good luck on your next guy.

[devideddi]

I have been married for 22 years and I can honestly say that neither one of us have ever cheated!

[MrsTBarber]

I've been cheated on in all of my relationships. My ex-husband was caught cheating on me. It has really been hard for me to trust my kids dad and we have been together since 2005!

[silklash]

I've been in both situations.  I spent nearly 4 years with a married man who I knew was married before we ever started anything.  We'd known each other about 5 years before, he got married, had a son and then we lost touch for awhile.  When we happened upon each other again, things sparked and the next 3yrs 7mos were pretty awesome.  We had an "agreement" of sorts, part of which we agreed to be sexually exclusive, including his wife w/ whom he'd been pretty much estranged long before I came along and part of which we agreed that when or if one of us became disinterested or wanted to split we would do so amicably - so we did.  I knew what I was getting into, he knew where I stood.  Now, 4 years after that ended, I'm in the middle of a divorce from a guy who decided cyberwomen are better than the real one in his bed and we've only been married since Dec '07, I found the chat logs & phone texts in Sept '08 the earliest record of which was from Aug '08, so, we'd been married less than a year when the cyber stuff started.  We tried to work it out, but frankly, he never quite understood (and still doesn't) how that affected me so I moved out end of March this year.  No children, no property, no money - and we're still not divorced bc of stupid petty stuff and his lawyer apparently wants to bleed him dry (well, that's really his grandmother's money anyway).  He's even remarked that I have no grounds to be mad bc I was in a relationship w/ a married man myself so I have no room to talk about his cybering.  The difference, though, is that w/ the married man, we knew the rules/stakes/situation and we stuck to the agreement despite it being an unusual agreement.  I made an agreement w/ this guy when I said my wedding vows and fully expected both of us to live up to that agreement.

Neither case is easy - hell, relationships aren't easy.  But it all depends on what you and your significant other are willing to HONESTLY accept and do to define the relationship.

[AmyTrivitt]

I am really sorry guys. But just remember its their lose. Keep your heads up!!! Better things will arrive.