Do you resent people who always ask for money

[debidoo]

I got a very small inheritance in 2010 and used most of it to pay off my mom's mortgage as she had passed & although the house was in disrepair I figured I could fix it up with the little I had left. Before I knew it people came out of the woodwork asking for money and soon it was all gone and the house was in really bad shape.  So this past year I sold the house and again people are asking for money.  Worse is my mom's pastor who has kids who make more in a week than I do in a month.  I am not giving out any this time.  I am going to try and hang on to some for a rainy day (MY potential rainy day)  and do some things that make me happy. Does that make me selfish?

[dancer139]

only my brother who I haven't talked to 6 years.  anyone else I just tell sorry I don't have enough for myself. my brother hounded my mom for years with sob stories till she passed away.  Then he was up the river with no paddle. I have money for myself to live on and no one will get any of it till I'm gone. My brother won't get any of it at all,,,,  I blame him for my mom being gone. She just couldn't handle him any longer.

[mapiklfish]

Nope, I don't think you're selfish at all.  You need to be able to take care of yourself.  That is actually, to my thinking, being unselfish so you don't have to burden others to take care of you later.  I'd try to invest some so it can earn, also.

[countrygirl12]

I got a very small inheritance in 2010 and used most of it to pay off my mom's mortgage as she had passed & although the house was in disrepair I figured I could fix it up with the little I had left. Before I knew it people came out of the woodwork asking for money and soon it was all gone and the house was in really bad shape.  So this past year I sold the house and again people are asking for money.  Worse is my mom's pastor who has kids who make more in a week than I do in a month.  I am not giving out any this time.  I am going to try and hang on to some for a rainy day (MY potential rainy day)  and do some things that make me happy. Does that make me selfish?

lol.  I won a sweepstakes. Not a lot but enough to help me.  I told a great aunt and I swear her first response (and she didn't even know how much I won) was can I borrow some money.

I was mad and offended. We are not even close. I was appalled that she said that to me.

[vickysue]

My step son was the worlds worse  in  getting his  great aunt to give him money.  I swear he used every trick in the world getting money from her, even to the point of using her credit card number with his name on it to see a lawyer about  getting her declared imcompent so he could get everything from  her.  We had to put her in a nursing home after she broke her hip. Then start  getting all of her finances in order when we found out what he doing. Hubby closed 0ut  her credit cards  right away. put  the one  for the lawyer  in as fraud. But a lot of damage had been done  already. It was a mess. But  we got it all cleared up.  Now he want even contact his father. Guess he  just thought his father would let it go. Not.i

[teresa3200]

I have someone that owes me a bunch of money. Now they are making good money and bragging about the things they are buying and what they are doing, but no mention about paying me back.

[ktheodos]

I don't think so...it's why I don't talk about $ with anyone because I know how people are and I have seen family get so caught in messes because of similar issues to what you mentioned...

[debidoo]

dancer139 that is exactly what happened in my family only a brother and sister.  And as soon as they got their share I haven't seen either one of them since 2010.  They shouldn't have really even gotten anything seeing as they got so much when my mom was alive.  That is why her dream house was in such bad disrepair she couldn't spend money on the house for taking care of them.  Oh well everyone can forget it now and "sink or swim"

[fillfran82]

I got a very small inheritance in 2010 and used most of it to pay off my mom's mortgage as she had passed & although the house was in disrepair I figured I could fix it up with the little I had left. Before I knew it people came out of the woodwork asking for money and soon it was all gone and the house was in really bad shape.  So this past year I sold the house and again people are asking for money.  Worse is my mom's pastor who has kids who make more in a week than I do in a month.  I am not giving out any this time.  I am going to try and hang on to some for a rainy day (MY potential rainy day)  and do some things that make me happy. Does that make me selfish?

Hello!

No that does not make you selfish at all, you need to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. No, I don't resent anyone, however, I do question why you feel that I owe you anything without offering me anything.

[bremer51]

Money...too much or too little... can cause problems even in the most loving relationships.  I believe in helping those less fortunate than I, but your own welfare is also important.

[nannycoe1]

At this point in my life I am not able to financially help anyone, when I was it bothered me when people ask for money one month and then I see where they have went on vacation or bought some other unnecessary thing. 

[countrygirl12]

At this point in my life I am not able to financially help anyone, when I was it bothered me when people ask for money one month and then I see where they have went on vacation or bought some other unnecessary thing. 

Back when I was doing Facebook I had a friend who would constantly be posting how she was broke and didn't have any money and if anybody had this or that they could give her.....

Then the weekend they are posting pictures of their big steak dinner and how they are eating out.  Wait, 2 days ago you were asking for a phone and food and clothes and whatever on FB but you can drop $30 to eat at Red Lobster? Really???

[betlynjua]

I had a roommate years ago who came into a pretty nice inheritance.  Basically, it was a rags to riches experience.

I'll never forget what I was told by my former roommate:  "I was happier when I was broke."

There was never any shortage of so-called-friends who had no problem helping to spend the money.

That turned me off back then, it turns me off now and for the very reason, I very seldom, if ever give money away.  My husband and I do a lot of things to help people but giving away handouts is not one of them. 

[ancmetro]

    Your money is your money!
    Why some people are so mean ?
    Asking for money all the time.
    I worked very hard for my money...
    putting long hours of hard work!
    In emergencies, I give small amounts of
    my money to very needy people.

[hitch0403]

There is more happiness in giving then receiving.....but discernment must used.

I think you can tell after awhile who is a user or a free-loader.The bible does say if you dont work you dont eat.Again use discerment cos some are poor from them not wanting to be.Everyone isnt out to scam.