Fight or Flight??????

[Frankie85w]

    so if you are someone who is trying to become a  better person but your girl/boy friend doesn't let go of the past and continues to harvest who you where, do you continue to  [  FIGHT  ]  for bitter love ??  or buy a ticket for the first       
  { FLIGHT }   to freedom?? when there is a child involved?

[ancmetro]

     One life to live: Flight!
     Fly away! Because you are born free!

[jenniferhoder]

I would say the flight might be the better way!!!

[vg7405]

Under those circumstances, I think I would choose FLIGHT. It is pointless remaining in a relationship with someone who cannot accept / get over my past. In my opinion, it is in the PAST and I cannot change it. Being continuously blamed for something I do not have control over is a horrible circumstance to live under.

[sbenkoski]

The past is done and can't be changed , that's the answer to your own question ,  you know the right thing to do.

[bretay]

flight for you and the child..all happier in the long run

[bshee58]

If he is continuing to harass you, then to me you should file a no contact warrant, even if you have a child with this person, he is a threat to your child and you, because in the long run someone will get hurt, domestic violence is real, don't wait for it to reach that point. Be safe.

[Tresbn00]

I would, generally speaking, say flight but everyone has different circumstances that would dictate that answer. My wife and I have not been progressing in the right direction but stick together, I think, because of the college age kids and expenses. My wife has developed quite a few expenses. Moving out of the current house would put us in a smaller house at about the same expense if we needed  to get two houses. Rent for the kids at college is costly. Furnace, driveway and roof need to be replaced. On top of this, my wife feels the need to look for a ten thousand dollar classic sports car. I am a minimalist that works eighty five (plus) hours per week. When I do get time off we tend to argue about stupid stuff. I am trying to minimize interaction at this time because I hate arguing-usually just let things bounce off.

[hitch0403]

   so if you are someone who is trying to become a  better person but your girl/boy friend doesn't let go of the past and continues to harvest who you where, do you continue to  [  FIGHT  ]  for bitter love ??  or buy a ticket for the first       
  { FLIGHT }   to freedom?? when there is a child involved?

First off i dont know if UR married and what your past was.

We all of an opinion but Jesus answer the the best.EX....if you were married and committed adultry the other party has the right to forgive or dissolve the marriage.

Also if it was an abusive harmful past i would think its the same as the adultry situation.

The scales of justice need to be balanced even tho forgivness might apply.

Maybe if you sincerely ask God to do the right thing in a heartfelt prayer you will get guidance and whatever the result is you can walk away knowing you handled it the right way.

Even Jesus learned obedience and he was perfect.<without sin>






2 Timothy 3:16 KJV
16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:

[brian8713]

Flight seems to be the logical answer. No point wasting time in a destructive relationship.

[cathy37]

I would also choose the flight option  If someone can't accept you the way you are now and not continuing to bring up the past then you don't need them.

[vickysue]

Flight, having been in a situation where it was fight or flight. My life was in danger I don't care how many times they tell you they will never hit you or pull another gun on you it only gets worse. Even after I divorced him  I had to have a restraining order on  him for almost 3 years, before he quit trying to track me down. He would follow me  every where I went at night  and show up on my jobs. It was  awful. Finally I moved and my family would lie to him and tell him I had moved to 'Alaska. It is hard to live that way.

[BATISTAGIRL663]

 Bye !! See you Felicia ! if your partner in life doesn't want what's best for you and keeps dragging you down they are not your partner move on