For the Ladies

[oldbuddy]

If a man had put his hand over your mouth and groped you (whatever that means) 36 years ago in High School, would you step out of the shadows and ruin his entire career by making it public?

[bremer51]

That's a pretty big question.  Was he a teacher or person of authority and I was a student?  Probably. Are there other known cases where he did the same thing (or worse) to other girls?  Then yes.  So many things come into play here.  There are one time stupid mistakes.  And there is a lifetime of sexual assault.  My answer is: I need more information.

[hkckk5]

If a man had put his hand over your mouth and groped you (whatever that means) 36 years ago in High School, would you step out of the shadows and ruin his entire career by making it public?

Definitely not ! I would have taken care of that issue 36 years ago. Why wait? Take care of business then while everything is fresh in your mind. Lots of teens do stupid things and live to regret it. Move on with your life as most people do. We learn from our mistakes. Don't we?

[sdenimandlace1]

That is mud slinging from a long time ago.  No it is not right what he did, teenager do not always use common sense.  More information would be nice also.

[mamatygress]

Naw.  What's the point?  Everybody screws up in high school.

[countrygirl12]

If a man had put his hand over your mouth and groped you (whatever that means) 36 years ago in High School, would you step out of the shadows and ruin his entire career by making it public?

It means he felt her up.  He put his hands on her and was touching her.

First off, she is lying. She is being paid to do this. And even if something did happen it was almost 40 years ago and the statute of limitations are long gone.  Even rape is only a year.  If she had a problem she should have said something then.  This is foolish and sickening that it keeps happening.

[countrygirl12]

That's a pretty big question.  Was he a teacher or person of authority and I was a student?  Probably. Are there other known cases where he did the same thing (or worse) to other girls?  Then yes.  So many things come into play here.  There are one time stupid mistakes.  And there is a lifetime of sexual assault.  My answer is: I need more information.

I assume he is referring to  Kavanaugh and the wench that he went to a party with in high school and they were fooling around and she wants to make a big deal out of it now.  It is just a way to make him look bad and something for the dumos to cry about.

Even if it were a teacher and student if it has been 40 years and you never said anything what is the point in saying anything 40 years later. I had a teacher make some inappropriate comments to me in high school. He done it the whole time I was in high school.  Sadly, I didn't, at the time, really know what he meant by what he was saying.  He is dead now but no I would not have said something 10, 20 or how ever many years after high school.  That is foolish.

[michele2042]

If a man had put his hand over your mouth and groped you (whatever that means) 36 years ago in High School, would you step out of the shadows and ruin his entire career by making it public?

It means he felt her up.  He put his hands on her and was touching her.

First off, she is lying. She is being paid to do this. And even if something did happen it was almost 40 years ago and the statute of limitations are long gone.  Even rape is only a year.  If she had a problem she should have said something then.  This is foolish and sickening that it keeps happening.

Unless it has happened to you, you can have NO idea how you would react.  She deserves to be heard no matter how many years ago it was, she is not pressing charges, she wants the world to know what happened.   What proof do you have that she is lying and being paid???   It is unfair to judge anyone before they are heard.   

[pectacon]

I can understand not reporting something like that for various reasons, but this reeks of dishonesty. What he is alleged to have done has been wrong for nearly 40 years, why come out of the woodwork just now except for $$ or political gain.

[michele2042]

I can understand not reporting something like that for various reasons, but this reeks of dishonesty. What he is alleged to have done has been wrong for nearly 40 years, why come out of the woodwork just now except for $$ or political gain.

There are many reasons women do not report sexual assault.  We need to remember she was a teenager and at a party where drinking was going on without any supervision.  Women can feel guilty, especially in a society that can, at times, blame the women who are attacked.  Just take a look at the responses on this board, because of people's political beliefs folks are claiming she was paid.  Why would anyone report a sexual attack.  She is receiving death threats and the psychological ramifications aren't anything I would want to go through.   Why are people judging her story, because they have a different political view.   Like I said in another  post, unless you have been through it you shouldn't be judging why she waited.

[Kiraleen]

Absolutely. People are who they are by the time they leave high school.

It's telling that you're concerned with his life, but not a word of concern about hers.

Kavanaugh's life won't be ruined, if he's not confirmed. He simply won't be a Supreme Court justice.

[michele2042]

Absolutely. People are who they are by the time they leave high school.

It's telling that you're concerned with his life, but not a word of concern about hers.

Kavanaugh's life won't be ruined, if he's not confirmed. He simply won't be a Supreme Court justice.

Exactly, thank you!!   His life won't be ruined!! 

[pstovall]

There are so many layers, facets, considerations to this question.  What would Jesus do?

[potluck6]

think the more important question is do we have to teach all girls self defence and go out locked and loaded.  believe there are many attacks that  no one talks about. I think it may have happened to my friend in college. she was raped but said nothing.

[dogsleash]

so what if i ruined his career. who cares if  it will ruin his life what about the years she spent hiding it . and what are we teaching our children .