Why do people do this?

[countrygirl12]

I tell the truth if they get mad at me then oh well they did just ask for my opinion on the subject. If it bothers them that much to the point they don't want to be around me then its there loss there are so many touchy subjects nowadays it isn't funny   

This is true.  And so many pansies.  These snow flakes need to get a grip on reality.  Life is not a cupcake full of fluffy icing.  And not every one will agree with you.  Most people just want sympathy these days.  Like people who cry because they don't have any money but when you tell them where they can get a job they get mad or say they are not working there.  Like a neighbor who is supposedly looking for work.  Told him where he could get a job and start working either that night or the next day.  And he says oh he ain't working there.  Well then you aren't "looking for a job".  You want a hand out.

[countrygirl12]

They do not ask this question because they "care" if this is the case.

They are sizing you up, to see what "side" of the issue you are on.

Our societal atmosphere is very feisty, at best these days. Many are taking polar opposite sides.  I don't give my opinion on controversial issues to any one I do not know well enough to trust.

 

I am not talking about 'issues'.  I am talking about when say a person constantly posts on facebook how they don't have a job and have no income and then post pictures of themselves eating out or selfies with their new iPhone.  Or they ask how can I make money and you suggest a place that is hiring and they get mad.  Or when people post these big rants on social media about a bad experience at a restaurant and they want you to take their side but you think they were in the wrong and you tell them and then they start trashing you.

I have seen at least 2 car accidents where some idiot posted a bunch of stuff about the other driver and people are ripping the other girl to shreds with NO proof of any of the things she is being accused of.  It is funny because if you are in an accident and you are at fault you will have all kinds of people start yelling you were texting.  FYI there were tons of accidents before cell phones.  I got rear ended at a red light.  The guy was not texting. He was eating a cheese burger and dropped it and was trying to pick it up when he slammed in to me.  He admitted that to the cop. lol.  But if you take the opposing side of the girl posting the rant then she gets mad.  Oh and she doesn't want to be criticized for not having her 8 month old baby buckled in to a car seat and the baby went thru the windshield.  So it was her fault her kid is dead.  Not the other driver.  She should have had the child in a car seat.

[countrygirl12]

Just ignore it, don't get pulled into a fight. Most people have already made up their mind.

This is true too.  Most people are just looking for a fight.  You can't really just ignore it if someone straight up asks you to your face a question.  Although lately if it is about certain topics I agree it is better to say I don't have an opinion or just say you are not discussing it and walk away.  Politics, gun control, religion, abortion, homosexuality, and the list goes on.  They already know what they think and they just want someone to fight with them.

[fillfran82]

I am curious as to what others thing as to why people ask for other people's opinion and then get mad when they don't like what they are told.  haha  That makes no sense to me.  If you want someone to agree with you then get a parrot.  If you really want people's opinion then be prepared for not every one to agree with you.

Also I am curious as to how many people tell the truth when someone asks for your opinion.  Or do you just say what ever will make that person feel good?

Hello!

I never get upset when someone gives me their opinion which I ask for, however yes it may hurt my feelings but that's life. However when people give me their opinion that I never ask for then I get irritated. For example, after I put on weight people were "so kind" to give me their opinion that I never asked for. I don't need their help to lose weight, now a few years went by and I have lost the weight by myself. My weight is my business and none of yours.

[countrygirl12]

I am curious as to what others thing as to why people ask for other people's opinion and then get mad when they don't like what they are told.  haha  That makes no sense to me.  If you want someone to agree with you then get a parrot.  If you really want people's opinion then be prepared for not every one to agree with you.

Also I am curious as to how many people tell the truth when someone asks for your opinion.  Or do you just say what ever will make that person feel good?

Hello!

I never get upset when someone gives me their opinion which I ask for, however yes it may hurt my feelings but that's life. However when people give me their opinion that I never ask for then I get irritated. For example, after I put on weight people were "so kind" to give me their opinion that I never asked for. I don't need their help to lose weight, now a few years went by and I have lost the weight by myself. My weight is my business and none of yours.

I saw a guy at the grocery store that I had not seen in a long time.  I was in my 20s and he was a perverted dirty old man that bothered me every time he saw me out.  Anyway, he walks up to me at the register and says "you picked up a little". I said what are you talking about.  He said 'weight.  you have gained weight".  I was young.  I should have said and you have lost a few more teeth.  smh.  But even now I probably wouldn't say that.  But I swear people are stupid.

I agree that your weight is nothing to any one else.  I can't believe what people will talk up to strangers and say.  I have some problems that are obvious if you look at me and it never ceases to amaze me what people that do not even know me will walk up to me and say.

[Skyisbluetoday]

I ask for somebody's opinion more times than I can count, now not saying that their opinions right or wrong, but I don't get mad about an opinion!

[debidoo]

Agreed it is absolutely ridiculous.  To be honest I don't ask people's opinion, not because I am going to get mad but because I don't know anyone whose opinion I really value.  I make up my own mind about stuff and then decide what I should do on my own.

[Ittai]

You all are rite on and it is that everyone is different on how they take things in a positive or negative way.

[yisa]

Yeah, I see that all time as well. People want your opinion only if it matches their

[countrygirl12]

You all are rite on and it is that everyone is different on how they take things in a positive or negative way.

Esp online.  You can think something and type it and it seems fine in your head but when somebody else reads it they are ready to fight because they took it totally wrong.

[bleyd]

Most people that know me and ask for my opinion, know that I'll be straight with them. Tough if they dont like what I say but they asked.

[ktheodos]

I see it happen all the time....I always try to be honest, but I don't always go into full detail (if that makes sense)

[annadote]

Anyone who thinks that you have to have a parrot to agree with you has clearly never owned a parrot. They love to disagree with you and then act cute to make up for it.

[gwilson31]

When someone asks my opinion I usually "tell it to them straight".......at the end I always add "that's just MY opinion though"

[mamatygress]

I usually tell the truth, sometimes a little toned down to not sound rude.  I try to be truthful.  I mean it is just an opinion and everyone has one.

I agree completely.  I want real opinions when I ask.  I give real opinions.