Abandonment

[batmobile]

Who has struggled with this? From friends or family?

[ktheodos]

Yup!

[Gerianne]

not abandonment specifically.
no communication at all for years.

[kathleenkleinhans]

Yup, after 20 years of a close friendship, no calls returned, no more regular get togethers???

[adriarobi]

Have you mailed this person a card or a note, asking why? I figure you have.

I understand though. Lost a few suddenly over the years. Painful.

 

[sak4kat]

Abandonment - I suppose it could be considered abandonment.  Lacking, emotional & physical support from an ex-husband while pregnant going through a divorce at the time... so there was a reason for abandonment.  At the time it had been the biggest heartbreaking event in my adult life.  Made me a whole lot stronger though.

[sfreeman8]

Because I concentrated on my work, I lost most friends. I worked 12-14 hours a day and no time for fun. Taking care of the boys took up the rest of my time since, at the time, hubby was gone for 1-2 weeks at a time and I practically raised the boys by myself. He would only be home on a weekend and would always be called on to help his friends.

I run into one of my old friends at times and she says "hi" and may say another sentence or so, but no more than that. I can't call her because she no longer has a public phone number and I don't know where she lives anymore either.  The other two have died, one as recently as last year.

[dogsleash]

Just from a few people.

[countrygirl12]

Have you mailed this person a card or a note, asking why? I figure you have.

I understand though. Lost a few suddenly over the years. Painful.

 

Why?  So they can ignore the email or cards?  I have a couple of "friends" that don't answer i-messages half the time.  And it is like "I know you saw this".  I don't call it being abandoned though.

[snuggleycutejc]

Yes, one of my husbands just up and left expecting...... not sad about this anymore. abandonment = jackasses. What do you think of when this happens to kids. 

[sbenkoski]

Yup, after 20 years of a close friendship, no calls returned, no more regular get togethers???

I sure understand I waited 2 hours in a snow storm at a meeting place where i was going to be picking this friend up for a planned long weekend. Been best buds for 27 years, she lived at my house for months when she was having hard times.  I called 100 times thinking they had went in the ditch, not a thing, let message after message, nothing, I was sick thinking the very worst, then i left a message saying if I have not heard from you in 24 hours I'm driving the 250 mile to your place and just showing up.....    I got a text  saying ""lose my number""       been 3 years and i still have no clue to what happened !!  We had never ever even had a disagreement in the 27 years  "So I'm 100 % clueless" 

[sbenkoski]

Who has struggled with this? From friends or family?

Thanks for bring this subject out... I was feeling pretty alone, but I guess it's pretty common by the looks of it!  SUCKS 4-sure

[tnshpalmer85]

I have this happen to me about ten months ago. My friend and I had been best friends for about 12 years and then she started distancing her self from me until we just stopped talking all together. We never had a fight or anything, but I was told before that certain people are only in your life for a season so I guess that was the last season of that friendship. Things have been going a lot better for me since the end of that friendship so I don't worry about it.

[ljrjess69]

tep have been there done that,,,,it sucks,,,,,,,,

[autumnsparklemom]

I will be 47 in July. I have not spoken to my father in years. I really struggle with this. I'm very heartbroken.