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[ajamimajida]

I am very sorry for your losses.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.  Yesterday my last child at age 28 took her life.  I know too well the road you are on.  I had 2 other kids that passed away at early age due to illness and accident.  I am flying to Michigan tomorrow and it will hit then of what happend.  I been in complete shock and numb since I received the call.  I am still hoping it was just all a hoax or bad dream that I am going to wake up from.

[sbenkoski]

You have all been so thoughtful and helpful to post and try to be uplifting to me.  I truly appreciate it.  I seem to be so emotional lately.  I feel VERY alone in many ways.
And yes, sben, I have a Facebook account!  Would love to communicate a little from time to time.

Go to fusion cash's face book i left a message shows up as rita hanson with "purple flowers" under what are you doing in the warmer weather, like the picture and i'll send you a friend request

[countrygirl12]

I am posting this particular post today because during the past 7 months I have lost my brother-in-law, my only sibling, my long-term relationship of almost 16 years, and a good friend.  I didn't feel the loss for awhile, but now the grief is starting to well up.  I am having a somewhat difficult time but am trying to stay positive and think about new opportunities.  Still, at times, it is quite overwhelming since I come from a very small family and my parents have also been gone for quite some time.  They were in their 40's when I was born.
I may come back to this post from time to time to simply talk about what I am feeling and how I am coping.  Sometimes I am fine; other times, not so much.  Being older and out of the workforce seems to make it doubly hard.  I need to keep my "chin up."

Well you sound allot like me, I lost every one then moved to a place I knew not a soul. I ran away for 3 years after losing my mother again to a place i didn't know any one. Have 0 family left and its really hard doing every thing by ones self.  I think the worst part is the people who try and force their ideas of how I should make myself happy! Or this one... you know your mom wouldn't have wanted to see you sad  ??  HELLO   you never even knew my mom and now you think you know what she wanted ??  I hate being alone !!!!  it suck !!!  AND i hate when people say well isn't time you move on ?? How about you not tell me what I should do or how long I should grieve !!  Making a new life at 58 isn't easy and making new real friends now days is impossible.

People are just trying to help.  And they are right.  Doesn't matter if they knew your mom or not.  She would not want you to be depressed.  No mother would want their child to be depressed.  I agree that people should not say "isn't it time you moved on".  If you talk about your problems to people then it is not fair to get mad at their response.   The same as if you post in a public forum and ask a question and then get mad because everyone doesn't agree with you.

And I will tell you as well "you did not know my mother" So do not tell me what she wanted for me !  How ever you'd like to believe all mothers want whats best for their kids, I'm suffering PTSD because of my mother so if you can over ride what my Dr.  says  then I'll listen !

LOL.  You seem to have some major anger issues. 

[freedavis]

Hi.  Just try and go easy on yourself.  Try and stay positive and eat healthy to keep your energy up.

[debidoo]

You and I are in very similar circumstances.  I don't work (disability), lost my mother and my husband of 34 years and I have pretty much been "lost" since then.....I have two sons who are a comfort but we are all three living together and it has been a tense situation here lately as my older son has problems.  I will be thinking positive thoughts on your behalf and pray things will improve for you.  Tough what you have been through.  Hang in there.

[sak4kat]

I am a believer in the power of prayer.  So... I've said a prayer for you.  You seem to have your mind in the right place... and that's saying a lot under all the loss you've recently experienced.  You seem to be a wise gal.. time heals all wounds although the hurt is always there when it comes to loss.  My mother had me when she was 41... Dad was a few years younger.  He passed in my teen years, followed by my brother and and Aunt.  All within a 9 month time span.  I've watched my mother hurt and loose her husband, son, brother and parents.  A heck of a strong lady - going on 82 this year... I've learned through experience and seeing how Mom has dealt with loss... we hurt...although we still live. 

[JaniceSW]

You have all been so thoughtful and helpful to post and try to be uplifting to me.  I truly appreciate it.  I seem to be so emotional lately.  I feel VERY alone in many ways.
And yes, sben, I have a Facebook account!  Would love to communicate a little from time to time.

Go to fusion cash's face book i left a message shows up as rita hanson with "purple flowers" under what are you doing in the warmer weather, like the picture and i'll send you a friend request

I went to Fusion's Facebook page but can't find you anywhere even though you gave the description you did.  Why don't you look for me on Facebook, Janice Weeden, and make a friend request?   

[natashaspy]

I'm so sorry for your losses.  It really seems that we lose the people we love in groups these days instead of one here and there.  If it makes you feel better to talk about them, go for it.  I don't know about everyone else but I always loved hearing stories about people's lives.  Sending lots of love and prayers your way that things get better for you.

[JaniceSW]

I have been very up and down emotionally lately.  I have found that this is very tiring as any of you probably know if you have been through similar life losses.  However, I did go to the local Senior Center and ended up spending about 3 hours with people and activities there.  I thought I might be bored or it just wouldn't be relevant to me as every body would be older and/or in worse shape, but there were several interesting and vital people and some good weekly and monthly activities.  I may be participating a bit more than I thought and this may turn out to be somewhat of a support and place for meeting new acquaintances.

[nannycoe1]

prayers for you