I Told You So...

[lguzman1]

That happen to me, I told my husband not to buy a house and he was stubborn. I told him if you buy it, it will be with out me. He bought it and lost it in a year!. My name was not on that title.

[ancmetro]

     "I warn you many times!". Just learn from what your family or friends are trying to tell you. It is a free lesson good at any time.

[mrisha]

What has been the "told you so" moment when you just couldn't help yourself regarding saying this to a family member or friend.  For me, it was telling my then boyfriend to not buy a house so fast in a certain neighborhood and with a certain realtor.  I told him to slow down and look in other areas and think about the expenses of home ownership, but he wouldn't do it.  Even though he got the house at a good price, he was very unhappy with the neighborhood and with all the responsibilities of a homeowner, particularly after housing values crashed in 2008.  Long story short, he no longer owns that home today and claims he doesn't think he wants to ever own a home again based on this one experience.

You weren't there to tell him "I told you so", you are there to give him support especially since it was his first time purchasing a house. I don't blame you because he should have done more research before buying a house for the first time.

[Tresbn00]

Bummer for him! He joins a very large group of people. That housing drop just about killed me. I ended up working a third shift job and doing contractor work during the day in order to keep my self open in case there was a real estate/mortgage recovery. When it finally came I had already shifted to underwriting, compliance and due diligence with no interest of going back. I work two to three times as hard now for one third of the money that I made but never want to be put in, or put my family close to, that position again. I get requests once a month, with healthy salary offers, asking me to manage realtors, insurance agents and/or mortgage brokers. Does not take me any time at all to decline. I embrace the solitude of my multiple computer screens for a dozen and a half hours a day.

[UGetPaid]

In my experience, most or the more serious "I told you so" moments will only result in hurt/hard feelings if you act on them and utter those words or some similar sentiment.  It may be appropriate in small or funny situations, but any major mistake a person takes against my advice is not an appropriate time for me to point that out when it ends in a bad result. Better to support my friends or family through a tough life lesson than to try to make them feel worse by implying that I am smarter than they are.  LIFT them UP, don't kick them when they are down!  If it's just about making yourSELF feel better at someone else's expense, that's definitely the wrong time to say it.


On the other hand, if I tell my child not to run on the ice but she does it anyway and falls down (not physically hurt, but embarrassed), then I fully reserve the right to laugh and tell her "I told you so!"  I suppose it's all about picking and choosing your moments.

[debidoo]

Yep I can understand that......the previous house my deceased husband and I owned was remodeled and looked so beautiful and seemed to be a good deal.  I should have prayed about it and looked into things more because I am not racist but it was in a certain ethnic neighborhood and the other houses were little run down houses and we were made miserable I presume due to jealousy.  What was supposed to be my dream home was ruined for me so I sure know how he feels and I am sure he wishes he listened to your advice.

[yikes77]

Can't remember the reason why, but it was towards my sister and I knew I was right from the start.

[heypeg]

Yes I have had a few of those moments. Hard to keep your mouth shut sometimes.