My girlfriend is cheating!

[surveypro2016]

My ex husband cheated on me the last year of our marriage. It is not a good feeling being on the other side of it. But, if I HAD known, I would have dumped him sooner. Either way, it is painful. But, is it up to you to tell him? I don't know. Good luck to you. Sorry you are going through this.

[nannycoe1]

Stay out of it, she will get caught

[squirrelgirl44]

For real, stay out of it, unless there is some way you can tell him without identifying yourself and with concrete evidence.

[cateyes1]

Can I just ask why so many are saying not to say anything? I mean if it was happening to you wouldn't you want to know? She wont say anything because in her mind she has the best of both worlds, a husband and a lover. For a little over a year my ex was cheating until a good friend of mine FINALLY got the courage up to tell me that my husband was playing me as a fool. I thanked her for telling me because shortly after that I kicked him to the curb and got a divorce. I believe one a cheat always a cheat, so why would you want to see your "friend" keep being made a fool of?....I mean is it just me?

[kimber62372]

Definitely stay out of it because Lord knows that it will only stir the pot and make things more awkward for you. Trust me, I have been there thinking it was the right thing to do which it probably is but it's not your place or mine to get mixed up in their love triangle. Just tell her that you don't want to hurt either one of them and that you do not want to be involved and know too much detail. Let us know how the soap opera goes, lol...sorry but things like this never turn out good. Wishing the best to all!

[adriarobi]

He will figure it out, and deal with it.

Be there for him when that happens. 

Things like this very often back-fire on the "good-deed-doer".

I found out a week after we were married. Would not have wanted a friend to become the snitch.

It was sad enough.

 

[ktheodos]

tough situation to be in for sure...it's tough because when asked how you know, you would say "a friend" which could get your friend mad at you and make the situation more tricky...though, as "cateyes1" mentioned above, she wish she had known...I would approach it very delicately with your friend's husband with the understanding that you won't share names and neither can he...I think if he is a true friend he will thank you for it and not turn around and get mad at you....I don't know the quality of your friendship though

[madeara]

I am very sorry to hear that.  This is a tough situation.  If I were you, I would stay out of it.

[natashaspy]

i'd stay out of it as much as possible, no matter what way you go it would end up blowing up in your face

[JediJohnnie]

I think it depends on the level of relationship you have with the person. The poster said this girlfriend is not one of her quote "best friends". The farther removed you are from the party involved, the harder time you'll have convincing them the truth.

If you really want to let this poor fellow know what's going on, tell someone he trusts (hopefully a male friend that he'll listen too) and let them relay the message without naming yourself as the source of info.

Many is the story I've heard about a guy's friend getting "anonymous info"  and giving it to the "wronged" man. It usually works out better for all involved.

Now I feel like hearing REO Speedwagon's Take it on the Run. "Heard it from a friend who- heard it from a friend who- heard it from another you were messin' around!"