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[o2bnocn]

When you post or share something on Facebook and a family member or person makes a comment and twists it around, do you reply or ignore? How do you handle those comments? It makes it difficult because I want to stand up for myself but I don't want to start drama.

[6265AT99]

First of all EVERYONE is entitled to their own opinion so whether it be family member or friend we will all just have to get along or if you don't care to hear what they have to say - just "unfriend" them.

[o2bnocn]

I agree but EVERYONE which means I shouldn't feel obligated to just be quiet. I should be able to stand up for myself. I just don't particular care for it when friends and family members want to personally make negative comments (jabs) (right word?) toward or at me and then I'm the one who appears to be the one who is coming after another person publicly. It's a struggle.

Thanks for your input!

[sickkarter]

You have no idea how much of a struggle ignoring facebook or youtube comments is.

[luvh8tragedy87]

I guess it depends on how much it makes you mad or in what way they mistook it. Sometimes it's just a misunderstanding and can be politely corrected. Other times it's a bigger issue and whether you wish to address it is up to you. I would just take into account if getting into it with that particular relative is going to cause stress and drama between other family members as well.

[o2bnocn]

You have no idea how much of a struggle ignoring facebook or youtube comments is.

I laughed about this but it is so true. I'm glad to know that someone else knows how I feel and shares the same feeling. We will learn how to handle it better emotionally in slow progress.

[o2bnocn]

I guess it depends on how much it makes you mad or in what way they mistook it. Sometimes it's just a misunderstanding and can be politely corrected. Other times it's a bigger issue and whether you wish to address it is up to you. I would just take into account if getting into it with that particular relative is going to cause stress and drama between other family members as well.

That is something I always take into consideration. I always try to remain civil and responsible even when I stand up for myself.

[natashaspy]

I don't have a lot of family that comments on anything.  Usually the only time hear from them on there is when they want something.

[Cbsteffen]

If you don't like a comment on your post, you should delete it.

[alaskakaren]

Ughhh...i deactivated my Facebook account.  I don't have time for all the nonsense that comes with it.  I did the same thing tho...overanalyzing posts and comnents...i hope it all works out.

[aggie49]

i have face book but only for my friends and family to keep up with what is going on

[taj75657]

I know how tempting it can be to reply to all the haters and shade throwers. I was on fb on got off because of this reason. So many people saying such hurtful things and forcing their opinion on you. The last post I read was by my sister who was making the claim that everyone on assistance or any social program are just lazy people who do not want to work. I guess she feels as though she has this right because she started working a few months ago and can no longer get the welfare she has been living off of for most of her life. She easily could turn this negative post into something positive by encouraging people that they too can get off public assistance. You'll eventually through determination and really trying can pull yourself up and that she is living proof. I guess it's more fun for her to take people down than to offer any hope. I'm not on public assistance, but I do know that applying and keeping it can feel like a full time job. It's there to serve a purpose. Everyone at one point or another will need help of some kind. It's these senseless, blanket statements that drove me away from fb. There are enough problems and negativity in the world naturally without intentionally creating it regardless of your opinion. So I avoid to my best ability all negativity and try to promote positive thought that in turn create positive actions. 

[h_padgett]

It largely depends what it is I'm sharing, but if it is something I know can cause a firestorm between opposing views I will post it without my personal views (to avoid bias as much as possible and to encourage multiple views to be shared) and add a disclaimer to it that says that I appreciate my friends and family discussing and debating the topic but to please keep in mind that it is something I posted on my wall and personal attacks on each other will not be tolerated.

So people get fair warning, and if something hateful and uncalled for is posted I reply to that comment and ask them to remove it or I will remove it for them - no need to necessarily unfriend when you have the option to delete comments - and for the most part people comply and apologize without issue, but I have had people unfriend me because they didn't like that I enforced being civil to someone they didn't necessarily agree with.

Heated debating is one thing, being a hateful jerk is another.

[o2bnocn]

I don't have a lot of family that comments on anything.  Usually the only time hear from them on there is when they want something.

I'm sure that doesn't feel good.

[o2bnocn]

Ughhh...i deactivated my Facebook account.  I don't have time for all the nonsense that comes with it.  I did the same thing tho...overanalyzing posts and comnents...i hope it all works out.

Yes I used to do this very bad, hardly ever anymore. I've gotten better about ignoring anything "bad" on there. I would deactivate but I have family that lives far away and honestly it's my only contact with them.