Adult kids

[catherinedwhite]

Kids have to mature at their own rate. I matured very late in life yet I still fill like a kid inside.

[cateyes1]

Kids have to mature at their own rate. I matured very late in life yet I still fill like a kid inside.

I'm a Toys R us kid myself ....my daughter is 38 though when is it going to happen lol

[gaylasue]

Fortunately, I haven't had to experience that.  My daughter and I are best friends.

[cateyes1]

Fortunately, I haven't had to experience that.  My daughter and I are best friends.

I am truly happy for you I hope it stays that way !!.....we use to be close BUT.........

[debidoo]

Oh I stay on a roller coaster with my two adult children especially the youngest one.  I tried to get him to take his time before moving out but he and his girlfriend were in a rush, now just a few months later they are out of work and moving in here.  I just take each day as it comes.  Things are somewhat better or improved with oldest son.  I guess I just go through it all the best I can.

[cateyes1]

Oh I stay on a roller coaster with my two adult children especially the youngest one.  I tried to get him to take his time before moving out but he and his girlfriend were in a rush, now just a few months later they are out of work and moving in here.  I just take each day as it comes.  Things are somewhat better or improved with oldest son.  I guess I just go through it all the best I can.

Hi Deb I hear ya and that's all we can do I suppose. I'm just going to take it 1 day at a time too...ugh KIDS lol

[moonangel]

I am not trying to come off as rude but instead of asking about this topic on here why don't you just ask your children? I hate how people blame generations as I always say it is as much as you give out. If my children were to ignore me & trust me they do from time to time as they are teenagers. I go to them, I talk to them even if they decide not to talk back. I let them know how it is effecting me & if I can do anything to make our relationship stronger. You cannot blame this generation as WE the parents are who raised this generation!

Amy I have reached out many times to my 38 year old only to be ignored. I was brought up to respect older people and I brought my kids up to do the same. I thank God that I have been told many times how polite my kids are on the outside and they are very smart and productive with kids of their own. I have seen and heard many in my kids generation be so disrespectful to others that I don't know what went wrong in their family lives. All I know is mine for one reason or another could care less about me and I wrack my brain on where I went wrong. BELIEVE I have tried!!

i completly understand what you are going thru, i even went to a therapist trying to figure out what i did wrong but my adult daughter laughed in my face when i asked her to go with me. she told me it wasnt her problem that i did not know what was wrong with ME!! what!! my psychtherapist said there is a generation of adult children that is acting this way.
my adult son who is the oldest. i have no problems with him. hang in there and keep trying,do not give up. the only thing i an do for my ddaughter is keep her children, my grandchildren, whom i love. so at least theres that.

[cateyes1]

I am not trying to come off as rude but instead of asking about this topic on here why don't you just ask your children? I hate how people blame generations as I always say it is as much as you give out. If my children were to ignore me & trust me they do from time to time as they are teenagers. I go to them, I talk to them even if they decide not to talk back. I let them know how it is effecting me & if I can do anything to make our relationship stronger. You cannot blame this generation as WE the parents are who raised this generation!

Amy I have reached out many times to my 38 year old only to be ignored. I was brought up to respect older people and I brought my kids up to do the same. I thank God that I have been told many times how polite my kids are on the outside and they are very smart and productive with kids of their own. I have seen and heard many in my kids generation be so disrespectful to others that I don't know what went wrong in their family lives. All I know is mine for one reason or another could care less about me and I wrack my brain on where I went wrong. BELIEVE I have tried!!

i completly understand what you are going thru, i even went to a therapist trying to figure out what i did wrong but my adult daughter laughed in my face when i asked her to go with me. she told me it wasnt her problem that i did not know what was wrong with ME!! what!! my psychtherapist said there is a generation of adult children that is acting this way.
my adult son who is the oldest. i have no problems with him. hang in there and keep trying,do not give up. the only thing i an do for my ddaughter is keep her children, my grandchildren, whom i love. so at least theres that.

Moonangel FINALLY someone who gets me lol. After hearing from my son that my daughter only laughed at me when I sent her "I love you" well that was the iceing on the cake and I walked away altogether. She knows my number and where we live the ball is in her court now. The only thing now that bothers me is she and her husband speak bad of me in front of the kids and now they want nothing to do with me .....thank you so much for getting me and i'm so sorry that you are going through this as well. I do believe it is the generation, I have seen many many rude adult kids lately and its sad that they are our future.....hugs!

[judylucas]

stop trying to fix it just ignore her for awhile  it's very hard to do  but sometimes they need their space and kids today are different bc they all have jobs (i did too) and children  to run with every direction

[sanglee]

those are the hardest to deal with, because of independence they can do what they want, most of the time these kind of people use the adult side to work their problems out, but sometimes youll run into one of those you know whats?

[cateyes1]

stop trying to fix it just ignore her for awhile  it's very hard to do  but sometimes they need their space and kids today are different bc they all have jobs (i did too) and children  to run with every direction

My family told me to do that exact thing (ignore her) I'm tired of giving her the power to keep shooting me down every time I try to reach out....thanks

[reiddb]

Just pray for them....say sorry if i've done something wrong....send notes of love?

[oldbuddy]

It all depends on how they were raised, not the generation. Our six kids and their kids are all close and we get together often to keep it that way, no matter how far away they are.

[cateyes1]

It all depends on how they were raised, not the generation. Our six kids and their kids are all close and we get together often to keep it that way, no matter how far away they are.

Oldbuddy  i'd  have to disagree with you on that. My family, even now, are really close and my kids were raised with a lot of love. The love of when we see one another its a hug and I love you. It is like my daughter missed that memo. I just don't get it

[sak4kat]

If I were in your shoes (and it's always easier to say than do) I would find something else to focus on.  The ignore method taken to a 2nd degree.  Move on.  Find other things to do and keep you busy.  Not all relationships are going to be the same.. What you had with your parents was yours.  So the relationship you have with your daughter will (and should) be different. For whatever reason she isn't interested in staying in touch. That's her choice.  Accept it (which it seems you have) Accept the hurt that comes with it (Which is seems you have) Ultimately there is one person you need to answer to.  So if you know you've done what you could to open your arms and communicate...accept it.  The situation is only temporary.