What makes a marriage work ???

[themrs13]

I have seen people married for 20 - 30 years and i'm just wonder what keeps it together. how do they make it work

[Teacher8889]

i have never been married , it just all about how you keep that spark in your marriage . maybe try something different to getting going again . do something fun or a vacation . my parents been married a long time , they seem to keep the spark going . 

[linderlizzie]

Love God. Put him first, then your mate, then yourself. In that order.

I believe marriages fall apart because of selfishness.

Love your mate with all your heart and never allow yourself to be put in any compromising circumstances. 

Do things together. Laugh together. Don't sweat the small stuff. Treat your spouse as you would like to be treated. Golden Rule principle. 

Make the mental decision to never part; whatever may come. Since marriage is a covenant, or promise, made with God, we should never break it. 

 

[BATISTAGIRL663]

marriage is giving 100% to each other and talking to each other about everything --working hard to make it work and not giving up --its so easy these days to just get out and move on that i think people just don't try hard enough --my opinion

[oldbuddy]

I think first and foremost it's a matter of commitment. Decide before you take your vows, that no matter what happens you are going to stick together forever and you will be able to resolve any problems that can possibly arise. I have been married twice, once for eight years when this did not happen and currently 45 years and counting where is is happening.

[hitch0403]

Mark 10:8-9

and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

[Screwedupclick4life337]

Trust loyalty commitment just loving each other nonstop through good an bad times

[Theosarizos]

I have never been married, however, I feel that marriages which last long-term and are successful are based on: strong friendships, respect, commitment, and a moderate amount of physical attraction.

I've seen relationships that were primarily based on physical attraction, and both parties were "acting". Relationships only based on vanity don't last long.

[sfreeman8]

Be best friends.  Trust and loyal to each other. Enjoy being together. Some marriages last because the couple have the same interests but others allow each person to have their own interests as long as they don't overtake your life.

Never, ever fight over money and never, ever go to bed angry.

I've been with my guy for almost 50 years. We're WAY past fighting over anything. Life's too short and fighting is too stressful and takes too much out of a person.      We decided who would pay what and who would DO what household-wise before marriage and it has worked out fine for us.

[JaniceSW]

Communication, patience, and a desire to be "in it to win it."  By the way, communication involves not only talking and trying to clarify and explain your side, but LISTENING to the other person's viewpoint also.  Be willing to compromise and even change your mind sometimes.

[Nancy5]

I think humor and you must really LIKE your partner. 

[madeara]

I think friendship, communication, patience, humor and honesty.  These are essential in marriage.

[danmo783]

I've only been engaged and that didn't work out. I don't see how people stay married anymore. My parents have like 5 combined divorces. I will die single...

[Segun15]

i only been married for 11 months and me and my husband is still learning about these things.

[minervaspirit]

Open Communication, thoughtfulness, and give each other space.
P.S.  About to celebrate 40 years together.