Heart broken

[Catwomanj10]

April 8, 2016

Hello to everyone out there in Fusion Cash World

Wow!  I wish I had my mom to talk with still, but she died and went to Heaven.  She is with God now,

I will also pray for your situation and ask God to turn things around for you so that you can  see your daughter sand spend "quality time" together!

Let me know how it goes , s.  Ok?

All right, talk with you later!

[michele2042]

I'm with those that say keep trying.  She may have your email address blocked so that your emails maybe going straight to her junk folder.  Open another email account and do as others have suggested, don't overwhelm her with emails but send information about what's happening in your life.  Short little notes, got a new haircut, tell her about a good day you had and that you wanted to share it with her.   Keep the door open.   I would send birthday cards and/or small gifts on birthdays and holidays.   Remember, she's a mom too so remember her on Mother's day.   Also remind her on Mother's day that she's the best gift you ever received.  Maybe a gift card to her favorite restaurant.   I would never stop trying and maybe, just maybe, own up to your part in the split.  Keep apologizing and remind her you thought you were doing what was best but sometimes even us moms make mistakes.   

[countrygirl12]

My daughter who is 38 wont talk to me and hasn't for a while now, I miss her and my 3 Grandkids. When ever I send her an email she never writes back to me. Should I just give up and let her contact me when she's ready? I sign my emails ....Mom, I love you...please give me some advice !

Depends on WHY she is not talking to you.  There has to be more to it.  Without that missing piece of the puzzle it is hard to give any advice.

[sgluckadoo]

From the other side... i am a daughter who has cut off contact with mother. It is hard, but necessary. She was toxic. I know to her, she thinks she has done nothing, but I have the texts, calls, and emails to prove otherwise. She needs serious mental health help but is good at fooling the not so smart people around her into believing whatever she wants. She is very manipulative. I happen to see through it so that doesn't work for her and she resorts to nastiness in my case.

It really depends on why your daughter isnt in contact with you. My mother still signs LOVE, MOM but it isnt really love. It is drama and control issues. Your daughter may feel that your love isnt really love or maybe mad about something, who knows. I am sure you have some insight into it, but if not you might want to pen a letter that asks her what you did or what she thinks you did and how you can repair the relationship. Not once has my mother accepted responsibility. She blames me for not talking to her when it was her behavior that lead to it, not that an apology from her would be heart felt.

It is hard going through life without a mother who truly loves you, or only loves you in some warped way. I wish she could see herself and her contribution to this situation.

[sgluckadoo]

A trust has been broken. Apologized sincerely once. Then keep being who you are. Send letters, send emails, trying calling. You are her mother. You love her and she loves you and needs you. But right now she's angry.  Do NOT give up.  You don't want her to be burdened with deep regret after you're gone.  I can tell you're a good mother.

I like how you put that. I posted earlier and that is something that my mother likes to leave in her nasty messages. She HOPES I live to regret not talking to her. Is that love?

[cateyes1]

A trust has been broken. Apologized sincerely once. Then keep being who you are. Send letters, send emails, trying calling. You are her mother. You love her and she loves you and needs you. But right now she's angry.  Do NOT give up.  You don't want her to be burdened with deep regret after you're gone.  I can tell you're a good mother.

I like how you put that. I posted earlier and that is something that my mother likes to leave in her nasty messages. She HOPES I live to regret not talking to her. Is that love?

[cateyes1]

From the other side... i am a daughter who has cut off contact with mother. It is hard, but necessary. She was toxic. I know to her, she thinks she has done nothing, but I have the texts, calls, and emails to prove otherwise. She needs serious mental health help but is good at fooling the not so smart people around her into believing whatever she wants. She is very manipulative. I happen to see through it so that doesn't work for her and she resorts to nastiness in my case.

It really depends on why your daughter isnt in contact with you. My mother still signs LOVE, MOM but it isnt really love. It is drama and control issues. Your daughter may feel that your love isnt really love or maybe mad about something, who knows. I am sure you have some insight into it, but if not you might want to pen a letter that asks her what you did or what she thinks you did and how you can repair the relationship. Not once has my mother accepted responsibility. She blames me for not talking to her when it was her behavior that lead to it, not that an apology from her would be heart felt.

It is hard going through life without a mother who truly loves you, or only loves you in some warped way. I wish she could see herself and her contribution to this situation.

I wish I could someone how email you privately

[adriarobi]

Perhaps you have heard the expression "if all else fails, pray"?

Years ago, when I was a God-defying athiest, my 5 year old daughter lay in the hospital in a coma....with an inoperable blood clot on her brain. She also had a medical record case of spinal meninghitiis.

The doctor told me she would most likely die withing the day.

The nurse turned to me, and told me my only hope was to pray. I said "what kind of God have you got that would do this to my daughter?!"

In anger, after the nurse left the room, I grabbed my daughter's toe (only part of her without a tube coming out) looked out the window and defied (gasp!) God and said "If you are real, You prove it and prove you care!". I was devasted and furious.

I ran out of the room, and went to see someone I knew to cry on their shoulder.

When I got back, 45 minutes later, the nurses were saying "Where did you go? As soon as you left, your daughter came out of her coma!!!"

To make a long story short, she is now a college graduate, married.

God is real. Ask Him for help.

I will pray for you

 

[cateyes1]

Perhaps you have heard the expression "if all else fails, pray"?

Years ago, when I was a God-defying athiest, my 5 year old daughter lay in the hospital in a coma....with an inoperable blood clot on her brain. She also had a medical record case of spinal meninghitiis.

The doctor told me she would most likely die withing the day.

The nurse turned to me, and told me my only hope was to pray. I said "what kind of God have you got that would do this to my daughter?!"

In anger, after the nurse left the room, I grabbed my daughter's toe (only part of her without a tube coming out) looked out the window and defied (gasp!) God and said "If you are real, You prove it and prove you care!". I was devasted and furious.

I ran out of the room, and went to see someone I knew to cry on their shoulder.

When I got back, 45 minutes later, the nurses were saying "Where did you go? As soon as you left, your daughter came out of her coma!!!"

To make a long story short, she is now a college graduate, married.

God is real. Ask Him for help.

I will pray for you

 

I am sitting here crying happy tears for you. I am so glad your daughter made it through

Oh believe you me God is my best friend, he has helped me through sooooo much in my life already. I have prayed to God to bring her and my Grandkids back in my life but I think he is sick of helping me lol. Is there such a thing of asking for to much

I have genualy ( sorry I cant spell it) reached out to her but she doesn't want any part of me anymore

Thank you for your prayers though, maybe someday, fingers crossed !!

[adriarobi]

Oh my dear, don't give up. God loves you and He loves your family.

I know the pain of separation (another long story). God knows. He teaches faith, trust and endurance in our trials.

I will pray God create a need in your daughter, that only you can help with....including forgiveness in her heart for your mistake.

Take heart.

 

[missplaymate618]

So sorry your daughter won't speak to you. Just let her know that you will always love her and the grand kids and you will never turn your back on them. Best of luck to you.

[froggylover227]

You have done all you can to reach out to her, the ball is in her court now. At least you can say you tried. It's a shame that she hasn't contacted you back, but if she isn't ready, it's probably best not to force it. One day she will wake up, miss her mom, and at the point be ready to respond. I hope it's sooner than later. Good luck with everything, and keep your head up.

[bigedshult]

go to a pay phone and call person to person and ask what u did wrong

[countrygirl12]

go to a pay phone and call person to person and ask what u did wrong

If she will not talk to her then she certainly will not accept the collect charges.  Person to Person means you KNOW who is calling you.  And no one will accept the charges from a caller if they do not know the name or who is calling them.

[marciaenglish]

I know it is painful.  Just keep the communications open and a positive attitude!  I pray you both make amends!