Leaving Your Mate

[JaniceSW]

What behavior or act would cause you to strongly consider leaving your relationship?  I have an acquaintance who has decided to seek a divorce because she "has been tired of being married too long."

[bleyd]

Unless my hubby did something seriously wrong like taking all our money and running away or physically abusing me, I wouldnt leave him.

[Nancy5]

Physical or verbal abuse, adultery, drug or alcohol abuse, gambling problem.  (The last 3 I would stay IF he agreed to treatment).

[mrisha]

Being bored means being fed up with a marriage indicates it takes 2 for a marriage to hit a rut.  If the woman wants to save the marriage, talk to her husband to see if he is bored with her also.  Do something that caused you to want that man before marriage.  It takes 2 to make a marriage go wrong. 

[pmagalei]

 Remember that one lady in the scriptures that was taking to Jesus by her accusers? They said she committed adultery? And Jesus said he who doesn't sin must cast the first stone? Well what I don't understand was what about the man that was she was with? The scripture never said anything about the an because it takes 2. So I would say it takes 2 to make things either right or wrong when it comes to any relationship.

[aflyingmonkey]

Cheating...   that would do it for me.

[ejholt]

My husband ran away with a nother woman 43 years ago and left me with 3 children to raise.  But we made it and I had my children  in Church everyone Sunday.  Hope everyone has a good day and may God bless each of you and keep you safe.

[Penwoir]

Yes, that does sound an odd reason to get divorced - that someone is tired of being married too long!! People have to realize that when they get married, it's not all roses all of the time and in between all of those special days, are a number of ordinary, forgettable days. Eventually you become companions to each other, which is not a bad thing, and you settle into an unspoken routine which you are both familiar with. This is called marriage! The questions one needs to answer to oneself is, am I happy with the routine? Do I feel fulfilled with the ordinary? Is there somewhere else I'd rather be? My life might not be exciting everyday and I might not expect to be wined and dined every weekend, but I'm totally happy where I'm at. If I died tomorrow, I wouldn't wish for anything different to what I have now.

[6265AT99]

Being married too long is certainly not an excuse for divorce.  Marriage is sacred and when a person enters into one, it should be considered a"life-long" commitment, not just on a whim!!  I feel very sorry for those who have an attitude of "too tired to stay in a relationship"!!!!!!!

[vickysue]

I have been through it all with a marriage including him threating me with a gun.  Didn't take me long to leave.  I had children to think about. If a woman puts up with it then she needs help because no woman or man should have to put up with it and in danger their lives. I used to do some work for the battered Womens chapter within the United way. And the stories I could tell.  Some were so battered you could not even tell what they looked like.

[sherryinutah]

Some people stay in an unhappy situation for long enough that they begin to lose their health.  Til Death Do We Part could be motivation for people to kill each other.  When a young person makes a "life long" commitment certain things should be taken into consideration.  If people are no longer bringing out the best in each other they both need other options.  I refuse to judge someone who feels inspired to make a change in their life.

 

[Nancy5]

When we got married we did not say 'as long as you both shall live", we choose to say 'as long as we both shall love".  I believe when the love leaves for whatever reason, it's time to leave the marriage. 

[hitch0403]

Remember that one lady in the scriptures that was taking to Jesus by her accusers? They said she committed adultery? And Jesus said he who doesn't sin must cast the first stone? Well what I don't understand was what about the man that was she was with? The scripture never said anything about the an because it takes 2. So I would say it takes 2 to make things either right or wrong when it comes to any relationship.

The bible makes mention of the woman being stoned,Not the man,correct?Did it ever occur to you Jesus may have seen in the womans heart she was sorry for her sin?If the man was around and was sorry as well i am sure Jesus would have offered forgivness to him as well.That is not mentioned.

[hitch0403]

Scripturally adultry is grounds for divorce.The other mate tho can forgive if they want that too and save the marriage.

This system has made a mockery of marriage and divorce as well as supporting same sex marriage too!!

[Skyisbluetoday]

Being abusive!