Did I do wrong?

[Nancy5]

I know this might be long, sorry but I honestly need your opinions.  I gave a surprise birthday party for my sister Saturday night at a restaurant.  I invited 25 of her friends, coworkers.  After the party someone posted pictures on Facebook.  Her one friend (not a close one) who lives 3 hours away immediately upon seeing them calls me screaming (seriously) that why didn't I tell her about the party.  Since she is my sisters friend she should have been told about the party before it happened.  I told her I honestly didn't think because I knew she would not come, and she admitted she would not.  She was yelling "at least I should have told her and she would have made the choice to come or not. ". After a few minutes of this crap I told her it wasn't her choice to come or not, it was my choice (since I was footing the bill) to decide who to invite or not!  Then I hung up on her.  We had such a good time at the party and she was really surprised, but this girl in ten minutes ruined a fun night for me.  Was I wrong in not telling her about the party even knowing she would never come?

[countrygirl12]

No, you didn't do anything wrong.  People are stupid.  I would never call and ask why I was not invited to a party or anything else.  She sounds like a physco.

[Nancy5]

Thank you countrygirl12. I honestly was surprised at her outburst.  I didn't realize I had to tell this girl everything I did! LOL

[debidoo]

It doesn't even matter at this point Nancy - it wasn't done to slight her and she admitted she wouldn't have come.  It sounds like this person has problems to have such a strong and I think rude response.  She could have just said something in a calm way about seeing it and wishing she could have joined you guys.  Don't let this ruin your memories of a good time.

[yikes77]

So she's wailing on you on a party that she admits she wouldn't have gone to anyway?  I'd be blocking her on Facebook at that point! Especially if you're footing the bill.

[JaniceSW]

I agree with everyone so far.  Don't let this ridiculous, rude person spoil your intentions and good memories.

[gaylasue]

It was your party to invite who you wanted.  She sure has some nerve raising a fuss over it when she knew she wouldn't attend to begin with!

[elvisdo]

What everyone has already said.

[Nancy5]

Thank you everyone.  I honestly didn't think I did anything wrong.  I didn't invite her because I knew she wouldn't come.  She is not my friend, actually I never even saw her, she has sent me little things after a chemo or radiation treatment last year, but that is the extent of our even knowing each other.  It never crossed my mind to tell her, but after her outburst I thought maybe I was wrong.  Thanks for siding with me that I did nothing wrong.  You guys are the best!

[Teejai]

Sounds like she was just *VERY* jealous out of her wits. She should of mind her own personal business and not interfere where she was not wanted. Maybe she just wanted some attention, but other then that, you should of ignored her childish nonsense and continue having a great time with your friends and so on. Sometimes people just excepts an invite handed out, even though they know themselves, they are not going to attend. Just dust off this issue off your shoulder pretend it never happened and continue with your life. As least you/friends had a great time, and this is what matters the most.   

[michele2042]

I agree with everyone else.  This woman's reaction was over the top.   I would let my sister know so if she hears from the friend she'll be prepared.

[jcalexis]

I don't think you did anything wrong because she lives 3 hours away from your sister. You were also honest with her by telling her the truth.

[missplaymate618]

Totally agree with everyone else. It was YOUR choice who to invite, if she was throwing the party it would of been HER choice. Especially if you were paying the bill, the way she sounds I wouldn't of wanted her there anyway lol.

[Alnora0]

To me it seems like she wanted the pleasure of tell you no - like you denied her that and she's making sure you feel the wrath.

[oldbuddy]

I would send her a message and say how bad you felt, but you are having another party at a restaurant on the other side of town and you want her to come as the guest of honor, then just forget it.