toddler temper tantrums

[hensleyll]

just curious about everyones opinions on how to discipline a 3 yr old who is not mine i babysitt he is my cousins boy but he starting temper tantrums read books talked to other caregivers everyone has different opinions,i`ve atched him since he was 6 weeks old these are new but his mom just had a lil brother for him 10 months ago

[missplaymate618]

With my 2yr old, since she is so active I use time out, I put her in her high chair and set the timer for 2 minutes, and I don't start it until she is somewhat quiet and not screaming and yelling. She doesn't like being confined because she is always on the go. But it seems he could be acting out for attention since he is no longer the baby. But I'm no expert.

[JaniceSW]

Whatever you decide to do, you must be consistent.  You also must follow through on what you say and not just threaten.  Even little children have the insight to understand when you are full of hot air.

[PGS28]

Exactly!  When kids see that falling out gets them their way they will continue to do it.  Punish for it every time and more with each time.

Whatever you decide to do, you must be consistent.  You also must follow through on what you say and not just threaten.  Even little children have the insight to understand when you are full of hot air.

[slacomb]

I would put him on time out and if that don't work try telling him you will take privileges away then follow through.

[lguzman1]

I use to put my daughter in time out and made sure they didn't get up for 10 to 15 minutes. You have to show them whose boss. I also didn't pay any attention to them if the would put on a tantrum.

[Penwoir]

You say you are babysitting for your cousin, I was wondering if you are being paid for it. I only ask because, if you are being paid, I think it would be appropriate that you ask your cousin how they would like for you to carry out your punishment regime. If I were the parent, and especially if I were paying someone, I would like to be consulted on this. Now if you are not getting paid, and you are doing it as a favor, I think your opinions on the matter are equal to the parent. If you don't agree on how situations should be handled, stop offering to help your cousin. That's just my thought on the matter. Hope you get it sorted out.

[pmagalei]

I think he is in that jealous phase when he is no longer the center of attention because he now has a new brother. But you could ask him to be a big brother and help do stuff together with you so that he doesn't feel left out. For instance, when he is engaged in doing an activity you tell him how long constantly while he is doing it set a timer so that he knows when to switch from activity to the next. Even give him a nap time and on a routine so that he knows so you can also take a break. Take him out for a short walk and let him feel and touch things like mail boxes, and see the different colors etc. etc. Sounds exactly like my oldest when he was at that age. When his middle brother was born, he was always acting up because he doesn't get the attention that the new baby has from his mom. Just a few suggestions but I know you have a kind heart children are precious. He is going to turn out a great kid!

[countrygirl12]

just curious about everyones opinions on how to discipline a 3 yr old who is not mine i babysitt he is my cousins boy but he starting temper tantrums read books talked to other caregivers everyone has different opinions,i`ve atched him since he was 6 weeks old these are new but his mom just had a lil brother for him 10 months ago

You need to talk to the parents about how they want the child disciplined.  I would bust his butt.  Yeah that is gonna make a lot of you mad.  Deal with it.

[vickysue]

My youngest son had seen one of cousins pull a temper tantrum in the store and his mother gave into him. So my child tried to pull a stunt. I just gathered his little tail up along with his older brother and went home. so they had to listen to me for 90 miles . By the time we got home they understood  what it means to me for them to throw one. And when I wasn't gripping his older brother was  We did not get any shopping done that day. But I also knew I was going back again in about 3 days. So no biggie. But never had another problem with him.  I also had told them I would not put up with fighting the back seat when we were traveling. Well one day it happened at the ranch. Since the road was only used by us. I put both out of the car and drove off about a black. When I stopped here they come. Proceeded to get into another about whose fault it was. Well I just pulled over put both out of the car and drove off another couple of blocks stopped and here they come.  Never had any more fights in the car. I would not have done this on a busy road. But since it was a farm road and no traffic I was safe. Never had to spank them.

[hensleyll]

time outs dont seem to work he screams which drives my husband crazy,his mom said i could spank him but dont want to spank someone elses kids

[Teejai]

I agree with countrygirl12. I have 2 sons and they have never lost respect towards me or to either of my family members what so ever, they both never had any kind of temper tantrums with me either, not even once. But if either would of had caught a temper tantrum towards me, I would also bust their chops. Don't careless what other's had or have to say, I was the one who carried my sons for 9 months, and I have to be the one who have to deal with my sons childish nonsense, and I'll be damn if they don't show me any respect.  According to the laws of God, >>Proverbs  13:24 Whoever spares the rod, hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent  to discipline him.  >>Proverbs 19:18 Discipline your child and he will give you rest; he will give you delight to your heart. >>Proverbs  22:6  Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old, he shall not depart from it. >>Proverbs 22:15  Foolishness/lack of understanding and sense is bond up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.