Feeling Kinda Blue

[slacomb]

My husband and I have been married for 2 years but we have been together for almost 10 and he has always got me something for the holidays and I have never been able to get him anything. He says it doesn't bother him but it bothers me. Like I have always tried to get him something but I can never get all the money together in time. Any ideas?

[dreamyxo]

Do you work?  If not get a job. If you work do overtime to make more money or get a better paying job.  You can start saving months in advance if you want to plan on getting him something.  It doesn't have to be hundreds of dollars.  Can you save $50 from the beginning of the year until December?

[bigedshult]

you have all year to save some money for it like 2 dollar a weak .than you will have the money to by some thing you would have  some .

[tgreen20]

Prepare him one of his favorite meals (that he wouldn't expect you would cook), make him something, do a massage night for him, make a coupon book with cute things he can turn in to get from you......Think of things that money can't buy but comes from your heart.....

[6265AT99]

Why not get him a "homemade" gift - something that you can put together with love and meaning - something that he will cherish far longer than any store-bought gift.

[missplaymate618]

I know the feeling, but this year I am going to bake him his favorite pie. He always tells me he doesn't want anything and I don't either but he does it anyway.

[slacomb]

No I don't have a job because he wants me to stay at home and take care of our child, the house, and help his mom who lives with us. That is why I signed up for these websites because it is something I can do from home to make money.

[KarenWitty]

Look at Pinterest for a homemade gift or one from the heart (candlelit favorite dinner)

[pmagalei]

Since it is already cold, fill the hot tub before he gets home and let him have a nice hot tub massage. Most men would appreciate something like that after a long day of work out in the cold. That one doesn't even cost money but a long lasting relationship! Trust me, it works for me!!!

[michele2042]

I agree with the others that there is plenty of things you can do for him that wouldn't cost anything.  Maybe get with his mom and create a scrapbook of photos and other items from his youth until the time with you and then your child.  Baking his favorite cake, cookies, perhaps something from his childhood that he doesn't get any longer.  You can do it, just use your imagination.

[natashaspy]

it may be too late for this year but fc is always a big help.  maybe you could try making him a gift from the heart for this year? bake his favorite dessert, take photos of yourself for him?

[Penwoir]

I don't think you can be expected to buy a gift for someone when you are not really working, especially if you are looking after a family and you don't have an incom. But that doesn't mean you should just forget about remembering the people you love at this special time. You can make something for them, a gift, a meal, some homemade chocolates which don't cost a lot of money to make, but do take time to make, therefore showing your loved ones that you care for them.

[aflyingmonkey]

This won't help you this year, but you could learn how to do some craft while youre at home, like knitting or candle making or something... then make a gift.  They have all those really nice DIY websites & shows.
This Christmas, you could make him a coupon book, like someone else suggested.  I did that back in the day for my parents when us kids didn't have money...  you could be real creative on what you would do when he redeems a coupon, cook his favorite meal, let him watch football all day without interruption, rub his feet, whatever. 

I don't know your family dynamics or situation, but you are married & half of your husband's money is yours.  Your job is to take care of the family, that's your agreement in the marriage, you should be getting some sort of financial wage/allowance where you could put a couple dollars away every month.  Just saying.  Or you can let him watch the baby & his mother & you could go to work when he gets home from work a couple days a week, get a swing shift or night shift & alternate earning money & babysitting.

It's good youre on FC, if you put the time into it here, it definitely is one of the better PTC sites there is.  Surveys will bring you in some pretty decent pocket change fairly quickly.  Just keep at it, it will pay off.

[countrygirl12]

My husband and I have been married for 2 years but we have been together for almost 10 and he has always got me something for the holidays and I have never been able to get him anything. He says it doesn't bother him but it bothers me. Like I have always tried to get him something but I can never get all the money together in time. Any ideas?

It's not like you don't know Christmas is coming.  Save money all year toward Christmas presents.
You can also do stuff online to get Amazon gift codes.  That's what I done and how I bought all of my Christmas this year.

 

Do you work?  If not get a job. If you work do overtime to make more money or get a better paying job.  You can start saving months in advance if you want to plan on getting him something.  It doesn't have to be hundreds of dollars.  Can you save $50 from the beginning of the year until December?

That's kind of a stupid smart@ss statement.  Getting a job or getting a better job is not as easy as just getting up one morning and walking into some big firm and saying oh I will start working here Monday and getting a huge salary.  There are a ton of people that it takes every penny they make just to pay the bills.  And very very few companies will allow you to get over time.  You might as well told the OP buy a high quality printer and print your own money.

Since it is already cold, fill the hot tub before he gets home and let him have a nice hot tub massage. Most men would appreciate something like that after a long day of work out in the cold. That one doesn't even cost money but a long lasting relationship! Trust me, it works for me!!!

Yep, because everyone has a hot tub.  And most men, at least the ones I know, are not into baths.  Just sayin.

This won't help you this year, but you could learn how to do some craft while youre at home, like knitting or candle making or something... then make a gift.  They have all those really nice DIY websites & shows.
This Christmas, you could make him a coupon book, like someone else suggested.  I did that back in the day for my parents when us kids didn't have money...  you could be real creative on what you would do when he redeems a coupon, cook his favorite meal, let him watch football all day without interruption, rub his feet, whatever. 

I don't know your family dynamics or situation, but you are married & half of your husband's money is yours.  Your job is to take care of the family, that's your agreement in the marriage, you should be getting some sort of financial wage/allowance where you could put a couple dollars away every month.  Just saying.  Or you can let him watch the baby & his mother & you could go to work when he gets home from work a couple days a week, get a swing shift or night shift & alternate earning money & babysitting.

It's good youre on FC, if you put the time into it here, it definitely is one of the better PTC sites there is.  Surveys will bring you in some pretty decent pocket change fairly quickly.  Just keep at it, it will pay off.

lol.  Sorry, but I totally disagree with you.  Half the money is yours?  No not really.  I assume since he is the only one working HE pays the bills.  You know, rent/house payment, electric, internet, phone, food, clothes....

I totally disagree with a husband working and giving his wife "an allowance".

[froggylover227]

You could always make him something. Sometimes those are the best gifts, the ones that aren't bought but made with love from the heart. If he says it doesn't bother him, then try to trust that he is speaking the truth. And if it bothers you that much, just tell him that you can't accept anything from him because you cannot return the favor, but that you appreciate his efforts and you can both resume gift-giving when you are able to give him something in return. Either way, I'm sure he loves you and isn't judging you on the fact that you can't provide a gift to him. Good luck!