Certainly one way of looking at it. I have also seen people that have over invested their health and happiness in a relationship that was bound to go nowhere. I am far from believing in disposable relationships but I think that a person needs to enjoy life and if there primary focus is on making a relationship work, to the exclusion of their own happiness, they could be creating an unhealthy situation. Too much of anything is never good. I am happy for you if you feel that eight years of fighting was worth it. Given that most of us have a life expectancy of under eighty years and we do not really enter relationships for the first ten years of our lives, I do not know that I could have invested well over ten percent of my life for a cause such as this.