Have you ever been beaten by your husband?

[nguzman1]

That is sad to hear, but it is great that you have a good husband now. I have never been beaten by my partner but I am studying to be a therapist to help individuals like you if I  can.

[hitch0403]

That is sad to hear, but it is great that you have a good husband now. I have never been beaten by my partner but I am studying to be a therapist to help individuals like you if I  can.

That is very kind of you.Remember never hold back what the good book <bible>teaches too.

[sgluckadoo]

No. It would be the last thing he ever did!

[kimber62372]

I think it's horrible that you had to live through such tragedy! But thank God you are still here to tell your story. Don't listen to others that judge you for sharing your story with us. Sometimes it feels good getting something off your chest and you can't tell your family about. God bless you and wishing you many more happy years with your hubby!

[hitch0403]

Many of you support abortion when a woman is raped and then gets pregnant.Do 2 violent acts make sense?

My point here is <and by NO means do i supports violence>is it possible in some cases the woman could have done something to prevent this.Is it possible her husband thinks she doesnt support or love him?In the case of a life threatening situation i dont blame the woman for leaving.My question is could discernment,understanding and hindsight prevented this?

It still doesnt support violence but an answer when mild turns away rage.Or again there could have been things leading up to this where the husband snapped.

Every situation is different.My question is before it came down to this was it preventable?

[freedavis]

Dont think this is a good topic.  But will add its not right either way.

[fjaz1]

I'm sure there are more suitable forums with this subject matter that can be found.  I don't think there are a lot of people looking or needing that kind of hope on a PTC site

[JaniceSW]

Many of you support abortion when a woman is raped and then gets pregnant.Do 2 violent acts make sense?

My point here is <and by NO means do i supports violence>is it possible in some cases the woman could have done something to prevent this.Is it possible her husband thinks she doesnt support or love him?In the case of a life threatening situation i dont blame the woman for leaving.My question is could discernment,understanding and hindsight prevented this?

It still doesn't support violence but an answer when mild turns away rage.Or again there could have been things leading up to this where the husband snapped.

Every situation is different.My question is before it came down to this was it preventable?

You've answered your initial question: "Every situation is different."  As far as domestic violence is concerned, it sounds like you insinuate that someone is at fault, and if they had said something different or acted differently, it could have been prevented.  THERE IS NO EXCUSE and there should be NO BLAME OF THE VICTIM!  If you have an uncontrollable temper, walk away and get anger management (and many times AA).  And keep walking until you know you are in control of yourself...if it takes weeks or months.

[Seenobita]

No woman should tolerate domestic violence. Call cops if any tries to hurt you.

[hitch0403]

Janice.....even Jesus said "Turn the other cheek"

Thats good enuff for me.

I repeat,"an answer when mild turns away rage"

The violent one might just walk away or take an anger managment class if the victim answered mildly!

[loulizlee]

There are some people (men and women) who cannot control their rage, especially if alcohol or drugs are involved.  And then there are those who have mental problems, such as schizophrenia.  I have a nephew who has this disease, who will not take any medication, and is impossible to reason with.  I believe that there ARE cases when a "soft answer turns away wrath," but not in those people who are chemically addicted or mentally incapacitated.  There are evil people who prey on those who are weaker than they are.  Imagine yourself as a woman who has just been raped and has feared the whole time she is going to die.  They are usually in complete shock.

[hitch0403]

There are some people (men and women) who cannot control their rage, especially if alcohol or drugs are involved.  And then there are those who have mental problems, such as schizophrenia.  I have a nephew who has this disease, who will not take any medication, and is impossible to reason with.  I believe that there ARE cases when a "soft answer turns away wrath," but not in those people who are chemically addicted or mentally incapacitated.  There are evil people who prey on those who are weaker than they are.  Imagine yourself as a woman who has just been raped and has feared the whole time she is going to die.  They are usually in complete shock.

Louliz.....by ALL means.I said in an earlier post if the situation becomes life threatning to leave!!DONT STAY!!

I know all too well there are wackos out there that wouldnt respond no matter.My point here is this doesnt have to be with ALL cases.In the long run it just might save a marriage too.Going to sleep in a provoked state of mind is NOT good therapy!!

[cateyes1]

My first husband used to beat me all the time then I finally divorced him after I became of age which was 21 at that time. My second husband used to corner me and rape me constantly until all I wanted to do is commit suicide. well now I have a wonder husband and we have been married 25 years. I wouldn't trade him for all the money in the world.

3rd time is a charm

[cateyes1]

I have from my first husband, I kicked him to the curb. I'm glad that you are happy now

[dwiley11]

Oh my.  Its seems your only attracted to dominant guys