turning insults into compliments

[Gerianne]

is possible. I tried it last week.  It is all in the way you perceive it. I have developed another tactic of rebuffing insults by plainly answering "so".  Another possible response would be "aha." When you respond in a way that is unexpected, it helps the situation and you don't feel so bad.

The person who made a certain comment was not telling me anything new. I don't need to know the reason for the comment. People generally say things and don't realize what they just said [without thinking].

[hitch0403]

An answer when mild....turns away rage!!

[Penwoir]

I have a story which I think was meant as a compliment, but I took it as an insult (so the other way around!). Last week I was at a restaurant with my husband and two children (8 and 10). My husband, who has served in the military and completed his 20 years service) asked if the restaurant offered any discounts for veterans. The helpful waitress said that they didn't, but could offer a 'seniors' discount. She then asked me if I was 62 or older, and I replied "honestly, no" and she then proceeded to say "well I can offer you the discount anyway". So why ask me if I'm 62+. For the record, I am 47!

[warchilin66]

I have been running BBS systems since 1990 Here in Utah and before that in California. So I know what it's like to have to diffuse a situation. I remember the first time I saw the term no flaming?  I thought that meant to not be gay. hahaha Silly me.

Jim

[Forp]

I usually don't say anything  maybe shrug.  "Thanks for noticing" would be on response