why do people have to be bullies

[aggie49]

we was at the park today and these kids were bulling this younger kid  i told them what would they do if it was the way where they are getting bullied and this kid told me to shut the hell up so i told the girl that was getting bullied to stay close to us and told the other ones to go away and if they didn't i would call there parents which i know and yes i will say something to the parents it's so senseless to be like that they was calling her names and pushing her and i don't go for that

[sherryinutah]

Whenever there is a situation with at least 3 people they could form a triangle that includes a bad guy, a victim and a rescuer.  Different people might play different roles at different times.

If you understand metaphysics you know that victims attract bullies.  It takes 2 to tango.  You see it in a litter of puppies.  The stronger puppies "pick on" the weaker puppy or the runt of the litter.  Then there are nurturing animals or people who might step in to save the day.  It's important that people NOT be stuck in "victim" mode.

If people don't want to be bullied they need to be empowered and confident in their lives.   

[jenniferhoder]

I completely agree. I think it starts with the parents. When they don't do anything about their kids behaviors, they think it's acceptable.

[mrrangerrick]

It's in nature, it's just how it is. There are always going to be bullies. It's sad, but it's the harsh reality.

[bretay]

that is a sad thing...there was a girl at my granddaughters school in the 3rd grade..some boy was picking on her because she was on the heavy side..my granddaughter told him to stop,she threatened him..he said you're a girl what are you gonna do..she said don't let that stop you..he said something else and she popped him in the nose..she then went to the teacher and told her what she did..they said they were proud of her for sticking up for the girl,who then became her friend..by the end of the year the boy was friends with both of them and he apologized to the girl..my granddaughter has always been a protector..she doesn't like bullying and will try to stop it if she can..she is now 13 and in the 7th grade and still the same way..her parents have always taught them to take up for themselves,not start anything but don't take anything either..that one was a happy ending and most don't end up that way..

[countrygirl12]

Kids learn from adults.  Go to any site where you post anonymous comments and there either is no moderator or there are millions of people commenting and they don't care or they like the fighting because it keeps people coming back.  Read the comments made to people they don't even know.  There is one and if you disagree with someone they call you (fat, a welfare bum, *bleep*, *bleep*, sleeping with a mexican - which is pathetic, on food stamps, don't have a job, and pretty much every other slam you can think of, including having 5 or more kids with different dads.)  It is a site that every city has it's own thread and so it is local people posting.  I like talking to people online but being called names and put down and accused of unreal crap because you disagree with someone's comment is unreal.  And people tend to make fun of others in Walmart or any other public place when they are with their friends.  Don't kid yourself.  Your kids pick up on that.  It's like the site "people of Walmart" that is for posting pictures of people you see in Walmart.  There was a guy in Walmart yesterday and he was acting like he was texting but it was obvious he was taking pictures.  If I catch somebody taking my picture I may get arrested because I will slap the phone out of their hand.  Yes, some people do things you don't agree with and dress trashy or poorly because that is all they have but think how embarrassed you would be if YOUR picture was put on the internet and everyone was laughing at you and making fun of you.  I don't understand and it seems to be getting worse. 

[batmobile]

People are insecure and making fun of others makes them feel better

[countrygirl12]

People are insecure and making fun of others makes them feel better

I guess.  I have always heard this.  Or heard they are jealous.  But I don't believe that.  People have always made fun of me and I know they are not jealous of me.  I think it is more of people are just jerks.  They start making fun of someone or picking on someone and others laugh or join in.  I remember unreal things (things that most people would not believe because it is so unreal) that were done to me in grade school.  When the teacher would walk out of the room.  And everyone would laugh.  NOT ONE PERSON every stood up for me.  And in my opinion the ones who sit there and laughed are just as guilty as the ones who were actually doing it.  I try not to think about it because it can still upset me today.  And that is just giving them control over me now.

[rdy2pl8]

People bully for many different reasons, but the main reason comes from insecurities.

[acurtsinger2]

i'm glad you stood up for the girl, but i have a feeling that talking to the parents won't do any good, because children learn from their parents, so if a child is a bully, most likely the parents will be too

[holmesch22]

why do people bully other people is because they find it easy to pick at weak and scare and person with disability problem they have nothing better to do but make someone feel bad

[melissajh44]

It definitely starts at home. A lot of bullies are the result of poor or negligent parenting. These kids aren't taught common decency either by example or indirectly.

[BATISTAGIRL663]

we just had a young girl 12 end her life because of bullying at school --this is horrible that she felt there was no where to turn and that these kids didnt see how far they were pushing this young lady--what is wrong with kids that they have to be this cruel to others --

[kimber62372]

Bullies have their own demons and have very low self esteem! This is why they pick on others they know they won't fight back. Because they are COWARDS! It stems from their home life and parenting! I'm glad you said something to them and tried protecting the girl. Hopefully they will leave her alone knowing someone is there that will do or say something.

[natashaspy]

Good for you...it really bugs me that people have no problem with  bullying at times.  I think most times people bully others because they're so full of their own insecurities and only feel better when they hurt others.