Horrible family members?

[yikes77]

I just went to my grandmother's funeral a few weeks ago.  We didn't really get along but I went more for my mother.  That's when I found about the infighting between her and a few of her sisters.  Ugh.  It got kind of awkward.

[debidoo]

Yes and so sad my brother and sister (my only siblings) put me through very hard times when my mom was sick and passed away.  They have a lot of problems and really they cut me off because all they cared about was their inheritance - once they got that they had no use for me and that is fine.   Hurts but I know it is for the best. 

[mjdoug03]

I don't really talk to anyone but my dad and sister and that's how I like it!

[licorice99]

There are a couple I would prefer not to have anything to do with and keep away from my kids. Unfortunately, it would mean doing the same with other people who don't deserve that treatment, so until things change one way or the other, we just have as little to do with them as possible.

[tuyetmai]

Yes.  My dad side family is a jerk.  All they think about them self.  So I just don't keep in touch with any of them.  Just ignore them on holiday.

[ShadeTree]

Yes, I have done this. More than once. Some people are easier to distance yourself from than others. But just because you have to distance yourself from them, for whatever your reasons are, doesn't mean you have to forget about them or stop caring about them or stop loving them. It just means you need to protect yourself or your family from destructive behaviours, etc. and there is nothing wrong with this. You have to take care of yourself, because if you don't you'll only suffer much greater and you won't be able to be there for anyone else let alone be there for yourself. You have to set boundaries, and once you do you must stick to them. It doesn't do anyone any good if you don't abide by your own rules you know? Take care of and protect yourself, so that you may be better able take care of and protect others. I'm sorry you are finding yourself in this situation, it's not an enjoyable place to be in but don't let anyone make you feel ashamed or guilty for doing what you need to do. I hope things get better for you and that some day your difficult relationship will be able to heal.

[aharr1]

Yup every families got them.  I don't talk to half of my family anymore sad to say but sometimes you have to cut yourself lose from those who don't deserve to be in your life.

[champak97]

I have a few toxic people in extended family that I stay away from. Previously I used to talk with them just for courtesy sake, but with age comes maturity, and now I have the guts to stand up for myself, and I am happy with my decision. I have always put others needs before mine throughout my life, and for once I am trying to please myself before trying to please others.

[minioncookies]

Yes to answer your question they were "rude". That's all I'm saying about that

[Cuppycake]

Have you ever had to cut yourself off from a horrible family member? Care to share? I am dealing with this now and it is hard.

Yes I have. It was a hard choice but the right one.

[myfreebees316]

id like to cut those family members out and send them on a trip to visit gators jk. I'd just lock them out of the house and see how they react

[ancmetro]

   If they do not like you, avoid them!

[mrisha]

I do know the feeling.  You are stuck with being a relative of members of the  family that you can't stand.  I just keep away from them.