How to improve my sons school grades

[marcar1008]

Is it mean to tell your child, if you don't improve your grades I am going to post them to your favorite social group site so he gets embarrassed and will want to improve his grades? 

[Nancy5]

I would never do that to my kids.  Is he doing the best he can?  Even if he is not trying as hard as he should, I would nit embarress him, I would try to find the problem and either help him, or if I couldn't, I would get him help from a tutor.

[lvstephanie]

I agree. I might ground him until he brought his grades up, but using social media is not a good idea. If he was bullying others on FB and you wanted to turn the tables on him, then I think it'd be ok, but to use it as a form of punishment that has nothing to do with the "crime" is not a good idea. You don't want him to feel like he's stupid, esp. if his poor grades are due to something like a learning disability that is beyond his control.

[ladavia89]

Just saying it and actually doing it are different things. I don't see the problem with just threatening to do it. Just the threat is often enough to get people to improve. It would be cruel to actually go through with it especially with something like grades.  He could really not be understanding and you putting it on social media would just make him feel worse about himself.

[sherryinutah]

Is it mean to tell your child, if you don't improve your grades I am going to post them to your favorite social group site so he gets embarrassed and will want to improve his grades? 

I think that falls into the category of child shaming; which is, a mean thing to do to anyone.  The key is to focus on the positive aspects of your child and reward your child for good and positive behavior.  Not only will you boost their self-esteem, by doing this, but you'll also form a healthy relationship with him/her.

 

[BlackSheepNY]

Is it mean to tell your child, if you don't improve your grades I am going to post them to your favorite social group site so he gets embarrassed and will want to improve his grades? 

Embarrassing your kid isn't going to help the situation.  If you feel he needs help in certain areas, why not contact his teachers, arrange a meeting, and see what can be done.  Maybe some after-school tutoring in the subjects he seems to be doing badly in would be a good way to start.  Helping him at home with what he needs help with is another way.  If it's "common core" education you have in your area, I pity both you and your son.

[CharmedPhoenix]

It is not okay to shame your children, or even threaten to do so.  That makes you a bully and damages his self esteem.  When a parent bullies their child they feel worthless and it sets them up for a life of struggle. 

Instead find out why his grades are poor then get him the help he needs and or use positive reinforcement.  You will build a stronger child who can tackle whatever the world throws at him. 

[vickysue]

I would never do that. My son was now what we call addh. So he had some problems. I hired a senior to help him and he started doing so much better. Sometimes they will do better with an older kid not from the family. When you get upset with him it affects him too. After my son started doing better I also put in the big brother program and he bloomed.

[lhz123]

Just have a patience in tutoring him in what category he is slow and try to explain to him that education is the key to success.

[teresa3200]

I would have never threatened my kids that way, they were both very smart luckily, both graduated with 4.0. But I was raising another child that wasn't as lucky, she was 2 years older than my daughter, and also a grade ahead, but she had a hard time in school, so instead of looking down on her, my daughter tutored her and helped herstay at her level.
Embarassing your child just makes them feel bad about themself.

[sherryfan]

In order to teach a child the first thing you need is to be patient. I don't think the embarrassment can improve kid's work.  Maybe do some good reinforcement such as giving a prize if he did a wonderful job on the grade. 

[marcar1008]

Is it mean to tell your child, if you don't improve your grades I am going to post them to your favorite social group site so he gets embarrassed and will want to improve his grades? 

I think that falls into the category of child shaming; which is, a mean thing to do to anyone.  The key is to focus on the positive aspects of your child and reward your child for good and positive behavior.  Not only will you boost their self-esteem, by doing this, but you'll also form a healthy relationship with him/her.

 

YES - I would never do it. I was just saying so he would give more time to do something about his grades. He is my only son and I love him VERY much, but I don't want him to rely on me checking and pushing him to do good. He is now old enough to do it by himself. I have always helped him with his homework and to study for tests.