I Thought My Husband Was A Born Again Believer But

[crisstar]

If I was married to someone who told me all the time that this was a sin and that was a sin and god this and god that, I'd probably go nuts! 

I believe in god but I don't hit people over the head with my faith - it's off-putting in my opinion.

With that said...

You show your belief in how you live your life and who and what you allow into your life.

That's either going to attract some people or push people away from you. Somewhere down the line, your husband didn't get the full picture of who he was marrying or else he probably wouldn't have married you.

The same can go for you as well.

What you don't want to do is bring children into the picture until you guys get on the same page in terms of your faith because it seems like the simple things as tv programs are causing strife in your marriage.

You can either tone down your religiousness especially if you know what things bother your husband or you can leave the marriage.

Just my two cents.

[countrygirl12]

BK, I'm glad to hear that you were rescued from an unhappy past relationship.  And, countrygirl, I agree with you.  I am a Christian, but I don't listen to TV preachers.  I have found that most of them are either in it for the money or are narcissists.  My youngest sister listens to a TV evangelist who was caught "in flagrante" several years.  Since that time, I've learned he was guilty of much more than sexual misconduct.  He has gone back to his old habits of trying to get people to send money.  He is a charismatic speaker but he turns my stomach.  I do like gospel music, as well as classical, jazz, some country, and other kinds of music, mainly easy listening.  I am turned off by people who constantly try to show how "religious" they are but would stab you in the back.

I do listen to Christian music more than any other.  But I also listen to some old rock, country, classical, and sometimes jazz.  And there are a lot of charasmatic speakers these days. lol. 

[mrisha]

now I'm not so sure.  I'm wondering if it was all a charade - I know he wanted to marry me really badly and he was always afraid of losing me.  Not that he did it intentionally, I think he may have even fooled himself.  It's a long story, a LOT of background details, but now he doesn't even open his bible and he says he gets irritated because all I ever want to talk about is God.  He also loves the things of this world and thinks I'm being dramatic when I change certain things because I have been convicted / decided that those things are sin in God's eyes.  For example, there's this show I used to watch, Tosh.0, and in the show the guy makes light of homosexuality, abortions, Jesus, etc. (it's a comedy show) and I don't think God would appreciate me watching and laughing at those shows.

I just feel like I should stop talking about God to him so he doesn't get upset, even though he told me to keep talking about God because he probably needs to hear it.  But I don't know if that's a good idea (to stop talking about it) because I don't want it to negatively affect our marriage.  BUT maybe if I had another person I could call and talk to about the Lord, that would help.

Anyway, is there anyone out there married to an unbeliever that has any tips for me?  Am I wrongly evaluating the situation and maybe he IS saved but just not strong in his faith?

How long did you and your husband date?  If this was a quickie marriage then you never learned all about your husband.  I think most men never allow you to see the real person while dating.  Possibly, if you had waited you would have found that his belief in God was a farce.  It looks like you have a deep religious belief in the Lord- you all are definitely a mix package.  Possibly talking about it more or seeing a therapist will help.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Do you know that he isn't saved?  Just because someone does not want to talk about God with every breath, watch Christian television and preachers all day and night, and only listen to Gospel music does not mean they are not saved.  If you want to do that then that is fine.  But you can't condemn others for not doing the same thing.  I have an aunt that watches the tv preachers constantly.  And all she wants to do is tell every one else what their sins are when by doing that she is sinning herself.  The Bible says to get the beam out of your own eye before you worry about the spec in someone else's.  I don't know how to say it without it sounding like I am being smart or hateful and I am not trying to be.  I am a Christian but I do not try to shove God on everyone all the time.  What you say verbally is nothing.  IT is what you DO that counts.  How you act.  I know a person who screams about God to people all the time and how they need to be saved but their actions are far from anything that says they are a Christian.  So people don't want to hear it.  Again, I am a Christian, but a few weeks ago this guy came in to where I worked and went off in a rant about God and now I should have just walked off but I didn't lol.  He was yelling at me and the manager about how the muslims, catholics, and mormons are all going to hell.  Then he'd say your a muslim aren't you?  You're a mormon aren't you?  I just wanted to say "You're an idiot!  All I could think was "keep it to yourself".  smh.  Does not mean I am not saved.

No, it's not even me preaching to my husband about Him sinning - I just like to talk about God.  I don't know about you guys but from what I've studying the central theme of our lives should be God.  It is all about Him.  He should consume our minds and our thoughts and we should long to make Him the center of everything we do.  Deuteronomy 11:18-20 "You shall therefore impress these words of mine on your heart and on your soul; and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontals on your forehead.  You shall teach them to your sons, talking of them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road and when you lie down and when you rise up.  And thou shalt write them upon the door posts of thine house, and upon thy gates.."

John 4:23 ..the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth; for such people the Father seeks to be His worshipers.

We are saved for God - He doesn't save us so we don't go to Hell, although that is a benefit for us.  We are saved for the main purpose of worship.  It's splattered all over the Bible.  Worship is so incredibly important to God, I'm convinced it's the most important thing to Him.

I don't sit around watching preachers on TV all day - don't get me started on televangelists - I believe the majority of them are health and wealth / prosperity teachers.  Word of Faith.  Not good, not good at all.  Joel Osteen's wife Victoria just made a comment a week or so ago on national television about how when we serve God we aren't really doing it for Him, we are doing it for ourselves.  That's not what the Bible says.  That sounds selfish and self centered in my opinion.

And we are supposed to judge other who claim to be believers, but not judge unbelievers.  Matthew 18:15 "If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. (it continues by saying what to do if they don't listen).  BUT we have to confront our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ in love.  Ephesians 4:15 speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ..

1 Corinthians also has some examples, to list one:  1 Corinthians 13:3 ..if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.

If we do ANYTHING in an unloving way, it is completely done in vain.

We aren't supposed to shove the Gospel down people's throats but we are certainly supposed to spread the Good News about Christ and forgiveness:

Isaiah 52:7 How lovely on the mountains Are the feet of him who brings good news, Who announces peace And brings good news of happiness, Who announces salvation..

Ezekiel 3:18 When I say to the wicked, ‘You will surely die,’ and you do not warn him or speak out to warn the wicked from his wicked way that he may live, that wicked man shall die in his iniquity, but his blood I will require at your hand.

Matthew 28:19 Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations..

Mark 16:15 .."Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation.

Acts 1:8 but you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you; and you shall be My witnesses both in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and even to the remotest part of the earth."

1 Corinthians 9:16 For if I preach the gospel, I have nothing to boast of, for I am under compulsion; for woe is me if I do not preach the gospel.  For if I do this voluntarily, I have a reward; but if against my will, I have a stewardship entrusted to me.

How are people supposed to hear the Good News if we don't tell them?  And how scary is Ezekiel 3:18 that says if we don't tell them and they die in their sin, their blood will be on our hands?  BUT IT ALL HAS TO BE DONE IN LOVE, THE EVANGELIZING, THE CONFRONTATION OF FELLOW BELIEVERS, OR ELSE IT IS IN COMPLETE AND UTTER VAIN!  Useless in God's eyes.

Yes, it is also important that you walk the walk, but not primarily so it will draw others to Christ - it's primarily because Christ shed His blood and we should feel compelled to obey His commands perfectly (although that is impossible, we can still try).  I think God's commandments can't be kept on our human level, we need divine help through prayer.

But 9 out of 10 people who claim to be Christians aren't even saved, and like the guy you said came into your workplace and started screaming at you about God - those are the people who give true, genuine Christians a bad name.  It's so unfortunate but it is what it is.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Re marriage....

Do not be discouraged if your marriage is not what you envisioned it would be during courtship. Says one team of experts: “Unending bliss is just not what marriage is like for most people. It’s wonderful at times and very hard at other times.”
Yes, marriage may not be a storybook romance, but neither does it have to be a tragedy. While there will be times when you and your spouse will just have to put up with each other, there will also be occasions when you can put your differences aside and just enjoy being together, having fun, and talking to each other as friends. (Ephesians 4:2; Colossians 3:13) These are the times when you may be able to rekindle the love that has faded.
Remember, two imperfect humans cannot have a perfect marriage. But they can find a measure of happiness. Indeed, even with difficulties, the relationship between you and your spouse can be a wellspring of immense satisfaction. One thing is certain: If both you and your mate put forth effort and are willing to be flexible and seek the advantage of the other person, there is good reason to believe that your marriage can be saved.—1 Corinthians 10:24.

Lol you guys, my marriage is fine and I'm super super happy - all I'm saying is I wish my husband was saved.  And I think I mentioned this before, I'm kind of happy this is happening because it has caused me to cling to God more and think of myself less, which is an answered prayer because I've been praying for God to help me get rid of my ugly selfishness that's always rearing it's ugly head.  Oddly, this has improved our marriage because I've almost completely stopped talking about myself and instead only talk about my husband and it has done wonders for our marriage.

[natashaspy]

I wish I knew what to tell you.  Im in the situation where I don't go to church, but I DO believe...and I try to act in the way that God would want me to act.  I just havent found a church that I feel comfortable in yet.  My husband however goes to church every chance he gets, is always listening to gospel music, says he's such a great Christian...but his actions prove differently.  He'll lie at the drop of a hat, does things that shouldnt be done by Christians with the attitude if he prays for forgiveness it's ok.  So I'm the last one to give advice.  I will pray for you that things work out for you.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

If I was married to someone who told me all the time that this was a sin and that was a sin and god this and god that, I'd probably go nuts! 

I believe in god but I don't hit people over the head with my faith - it's off-putting in my opinion.

With that said...

You show your belief in how you live your life and who and what you allow into your life.

That's either going to attract some people or push people away from you. Somewhere down the line, your husband didn't get the full picture of who he was marrying or else he probably wouldn't have married you.

The same can go for you as well.

What you don't want to do is bring children into the picture until you guys get on the same page in terms of your faith because it seems like the simple things as tv programs are causing strife in your marriage.

You can either tone down your religiousness especially if you know what things bother your husband or you can leave the marriage.

Just my two cents.

I wasn't telling my husband he was a sinner, I was simply talking about God, that's all.  I love Him a lot.

I am not all uptight about the TV situation.  I just told my husband that I personally wasn't going to watch that and other particular shows anymore, but I didn't tell him he couldn't - he is held accountable for what he does.  He knows I don't like it, I know he likes it - we happily agree to disagree.

But as a wife I am supposed to be a help meet.  My role is to help him, care for him and our children, care for the home, and to help him be accountable, just as God gave our husbands the role of spiritual leader, protector, provider. Our husbands rely on our spiritual discernment just as we do theirs.  We are responsible for obeying our husbands and giving them good council.

Why does everyone keep assuming their is strife in my marriage and I'm unhappy lol I'm just saying I thought he was saved, that's all.  I'm not making a mountain over a mole hill here people.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I wish I knew what to tell you.  Im in the situation where I don't go to church, but I DO believe...and I try to act in the way that God would want me to act.  I just havent found a church that I feel comfortable in yet.  My husband however goes to church every chance he gets, is always listening to gospel music, says he's such a great Christian...but his actions prove differently.  He'll lie at the drop of a hat, does things that shouldnt be done by Christians with the attitude if he prays for forgiveness it's ok.  So I'm the last one to give advice.  I will pray for you that things work out for you.

Someone once told me we should realize that since God is omniscient that every sin we commit is like we're doing it at the foot of His throne.

Romans 6:1-2 What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin so that grace may increase?  May it never be! How shall we who died to sin still live in it?

Is he Catholic?

[JediJohnnie]

Re marriage....

Do not be discouraged if your marriage is not what you envisioned it would be during courtship. Says one team of experts: “Unending bliss is just not what marriage is like for most people. It’s wonderful at times and very hard at other times.”
Yes, marriage may not be a storybook romance, but neither does it have to be a tragedy. While there will be times when you and your spouse will just have to put up with each other, there will also be occasions when you can put your differences aside and just enjoy being together, having fun, and talking to each other as friends. (Ephesians 4:2; Colossians 3:13) These are the times when you may be able to rekindle the love that has faded.
Remember, two imperfect humans cannot have a perfect marriage. But they can find a measure of happiness. Indeed, even with difficulties, the relationship between you and your spouse can be a wellspring of immense satisfaction. One thing is certain: If both you and your mate put forth effort and are willing to be flexible and seek the advantage of the other person, there is good reason to believe that your marriage can be saved.—1 Corinthians 10:24.

Lol you guys, my marriage is fine and I'm super super happy - all I'm saying is I wish my husband was saved.  And I think I mentioned this before, I'm kind of happy this is happening because it has caused me to cling to God more and think of myself less, which is an answered prayer because I've been praying for God to help me get rid of my ugly selfishness that's always rearing it's ugly head.  Oddly, this has improved our marriage because I've almost completely stopped talking about myself and instead only talk about my husband and it has done wonders for our marriage.

Do you know that he isn't saved?  Just because someone does not want to talk about God with every breath, watch Christian television and preachers all day and night, and only listen to Gospel music does not mean they are not saved.  If you want to do that then that is fine.  But you can't condemn others for not doing the same thing.  I have an aunt that watches the tv preachers constantly.  And all she wants to do is tell every one else what their sins are when by doing that she is sinning herself.  The Bible says to get the beam out of your own eye before you worry about the spec in someone else's.  I don't know how to say it without it sounding like I am being smart or hateful and I am not trying to be.  I am a Christian but I do not try to shove God on everyone all the time.  What you say verbally is nothing.  IT is what you DO that counts.  How you act.  I know a person who screams about God to people all the time and how they need to be saved but their actions are far from anything that says they are a Christian.  So people don't want to hear it.  Again, I am a Christian, but a few weeks ago this guy came in to where I worked and went off in a rant about God and now I should have just walked off but I didn't lol.  He was yelling at me and the manager about how the muslims, catholics, and mormons are all going to hell.  Then he'd say your a muslim aren't you?  You're a mormon aren't you?  I just wanted to say "You're an idiot!  All I could think was "keep it to yourself".  smh.  Does not mean I am not saved.

No, it's not even me preaching to my husband about Him sinning - I just like to talk about God.  I don't know about you guys but from what I've studying the central theme of our lives should be God.  It is all about Him.  He should consume our minds and our thoughts and we should long to make Him the center of everything we do.  Deuteronomy 11:18-20 "You shall therefore impress these words of mine on your heart and on your soul; and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontals on your forehead.  You shall teach them to your sons, talking of them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road and when you lie down and when you rise up.  And thou shalt write them upon the door posts of thine house, and upon thy gates.."

John 4:23 ..the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth; for such people the Father seeks to be His worshipers.

We are saved for God - He doesn't save us so we don't go to Hell, although that is a benefit for us.  We are saved for the main purpose of worship.  It's splattered all over the Bible.  Worship is so incredibly important to God, I'm convinced it's the most important thing to Him.

I don't sit around watching preachers on TV all day - don't get me started on televangelists - I believe the majority of them are health and wealth / prosperity teachers.  Word of Faith.  Not good, not good at all.  Joel Osteen's wife Victoria just made a comment a week or so ago on national television about how when we serve God we aren't really doing it for Him, we are doing it for ourselves.  That's not what the Bible says.  That sounds selfish and self centered in my opinion.

And we are supposed to judge other who claim to be believers, but not judge unbelievers.  Matthew 18:15 "If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. (it continues by saying what to do if they don't listen).  BUT we have to confront our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ in love.  Ephesians 4:15 speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ..

1 Corinthians also has some examples, to list one:  1 Corinthians 13:3 ..if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.

If we do ANYTHING in an unloving way, it is completely done in vain.

We aren't supposed to shove the Gospel down people's throats but we are certainly supposed to spread the Good News about Christ and forgiveness:

Isaiah 52:7 How lovely on the mountains Are the feet of him who brings good news, Who announces peace And brings good news of happiness, Who announces salvation..

Ezekiel 3:18 When I say to the wicked, ‘You will surely die,’ and you do not warn him or speak out to warn the wicked from his wicked way that he may live, that wicked man shall die in his iniquity, but his blood I will require at your hand.

Matthew 28:19 Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations..

Mark 16:15 .."Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation.

Acts 1:8 but you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you; and you shall be My witnesses both in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and even to the remotest part of the earth."

1 Corinthians 9:16 For if I preach the gospel, I have nothing to boast of, for I am under compulsion; for woe is me if I do not preach the gospel.  For if I do this voluntarily, I have a reward; but if against my will, I have a stewardship entrusted to me.

How are people supposed to hear the Good News if we don't tell them?  And how scary is Ezekiel 3:18 that says if we don't tell them and they die in their sin, their blood will be on our hands?  BUT IT ALL HAS TO BE DONE IN LOVE, THE EVANGELIZING, THE CONFRONTATION OF FELLOW BELIEVERS, OR ELSE IT IS IN COMPLETE AND UTTER VAIN!  Useless in God's eyes.

Yes, it is also important that you walk the walk, but not primarily so it will draw others to Christ - it's primarily because Christ shed His blood and we should feel compelled to obey His commands perfectly (although that is impossible, we can still try).  I think God's commandments can't be kept on our human level, we need divine help through prayer.

But 9 out of 10 people who claim to be Christians aren't even saved, and like the guy you said came into your workplace and started screaming at you about God - those are the people who give true, genuine Christians a bad name.  It's so unfortunate but it is what it is.

You have a very good grasp of theology.It would be a great blessing to any man to have a wife as devoted to God.

My main requirement in a wife is that she should love God more than she loves me.That's probably why I'm still single.LOL

[hawkeye3210]

But 9 out of 10 people who claim to be Christians aren't even saved

And you know this how?

[hitch0403]

Jesus said,he that endures to the end will be saved.

I think it takes more than just saying i believe in Christ.Obviously obeying his fathers commandments and backing up that faith with works would please God.

The Israelites were in a saved state when Egypt went after them.But that didnt prevent God from punishing some of the Jews afterwards when they dis-obeyed.

Exam your religeon.Even Jesus scolded the Pharissees when they thought they served God.

[sarabtrayior]

Christians all have different paths to take and you cannot assume your hubby's path is your path... be happy that he loves the Lord...

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Re marriage....

Do not be discouraged if your marriage is not what you envisioned it would be during courtship. Says one team of experts: “Unending bliss is just not what marriage is like for most people. It’s wonderful at times and very hard at other times.”
Yes, marriage may not be a storybook romance, but neither does it have to be a tragedy. While there will be times when you and your spouse will just have to put up with each other, there will also be occasions when you can put your differences aside and just enjoy being together, having fun, and talking to each other as friends. (Ephesians 4:2; Colossians 3:13) These are the times when you may be able to rekindle the love that has faded.
Remember, two imperfect humans cannot have a perfect marriage. But they can find a measure of happiness. Indeed, even with difficulties, the relationship between you and your spouse can be a wellspring of immense satisfaction. One thing is certain: If both you and your mate put forth effort and are willing to be flexible and seek the advantage of the other person, there is good reason to believe that your marriage can be saved.—1 Corinthians 10:24.

Lol you guys, my marriage is fine and I'm super super happy - all I'm saying is I wish my husband was saved.  And I think I mentioned this before, I'm kind of happy this is happening because it has caused me to cling to God more and think of myself less, which is an answered prayer because I've been praying for God to help me get rid of my ugly selfishness that's always rearing it's ugly head.  Oddly, this has improved our marriage because I've almost completely stopped talking about myself and instead only talk about my husband and it has done wonders for our marriage.

Do you know that he isn't saved?  Just because someone does not want to talk about God with every breath, watch Christian television and preachers all day and night, and only listen to Gospel music does not mean they are not saved.  If you want to do that then that is fine.  But you can't condemn others for not doing the same thing.  I have an aunt that watches the tv preachers constantly.  And all she wants to do is tell every one else what their sins are when by doing that she is sinning herself.  The Bible says to get the beam out of your own eye before you worry about the spec in someone else's.  I don't know how to say it without it sounding like I am being smart or hateful and I am not trying to be.  I am a Christian but I do not try to shove God on everyone all the time.  What you say verbally is nothing.  IT is what you DO that counts.  How you act.  I know a person who screams about God to people all the time and how they need to be saved but their actions are far from anything that says they are a Christian.  So people don't want to hear it.  Again, I am a Christian, but a few weeks ago this guy came in to where I worked and went off in a rant about God and now I should have just walked off but I didn't lol.  He was yelling at me and the manager about how the muslims, catholics, and mormons are all going to hell.  Then he'd say your a muslim aren't you?  You're a mormon aren't you?  I just wanted to say "You're an idiot!  All I could think was "keep it to yourself".  smh.  Does not mean I am not saved.

No, it's not even me preaching to my husband about Him sinning - I just like to talk about God.  I don't know about you guys but from what I've studying the central theme of our lives should be God.  It is all about Him.  He should consume our minds and our thoughts and we should long to make Him the center of everything we do.  Deuteronomy 11:18-20 "You shall therefore impress these words of mine on your heart and on your soul; and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontals on your forehead.  You shall teach them to your sons, talking of them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road and when you lie down and when you rise up.  And thou shalt write them upon the door posts of thine house, and upon thy gates.."

John 4:23 ..the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth; for such people the Father seeks to be His worshipers.

We are saved for God - He doesn't save us so we don't go to Hell, although that is a benefit for us.  We are saved for the main purpose of worship.  It's splattered all over the Bible.  Worship is so incredibly important to God, I'm convinced it's the most important thing to Him.

I don't sit around watching preachers on TV all day - don't get me started on televangelists - I believe the majority of them are health and wealth / prosperity teachers.  Word of Faith.  Not good, not good at all.  Joel Osteen's wife Victoria just made a comment a week or so ago on national television about how when we serve God we aren't really doing it for Him, we are doing it for ourselves.  That's not what the Bible says.  That sounds selfish and self centered in my opinion.

And we are supposed to judge other who claim to be believers, but not judge unbelievers.  Matthew 18:15 "If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. (it continues by saying what to do if they don't listen).  BUT we have to confront our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ in love.  Ephesians 4:15 speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ..

1 Corinthians also has some examples, to list one:  1 Corinthians 13:3 ..if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.

If we do ANYTHING in an unloving way, it is completely done in vain.

We aren't supposed to shove the Gospel down people's throats but we are certainly supposed to spread the Good News about Christ and forgiveness:

Isaiah 52:7 How lovely on the mountains Are the feet of him who brings good news, Who announces peace And brings good news of happiness, Who announces salvation..

Ezekiel 3:18 When I say to the wicked, ‘You will surely die,’ and you do not warn him or speak out to warn the wicked from his wicked way that he may live, that wicked man shall die in his iniquity, but his blood I will require at your hand.

Matthew 28:19 Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations..

Mark 16:15 .."Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation.

Acts 1:8 but you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you; and you shall be My witnesses both in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and even to the remotest part of the earth."

1 Corinthians 9:16 For if I preach the gospel, I have nothing to boast of, for I am under compulsion; for woe is me if I do not preach the gospel.  For if I do this voluntarily, I have a reward; but if against my will, I have a stewardship entrusted to me.

How are people supposed to hear the Good News if we don't tell them?  And how scary is Ezekiel 3:18 that says if we don't tell them and they die in their sin, their blood will be on our hands?  BUT IT ALL HAS TO BE DONE IN LOVE, THE EVANGELIZING, THE CONFRONTATION OF FELLOW BELIEVERS, OR ELSE IT IS IN COMPLETE AND UTTER VAIN!  Useless in God's eyes.

Yes, it is also important that you walk the walk, but not primarily so it will draw others to Christ - it's primarily because Christ shed His blood and we should feel compelled to obey His commands perfectly (although that is impossible, we can still try).  I think God's commandments can't be kept on our human level, we need divine help through prayer.

But 9 out of 10 people who claim to be Christians aren't even saved, and like the guy you said came into your workplace and started screaming at you about God - those are the people who give true, genuine Christians a bad name.  It's so unfortunate but it is what it is.

You have a very good grasp of theology.It would be a great blessing to any man to have a wife as devoted to God.

My main requirement in a wife is that she should love God more than she loves me.That's probably why I'm still single.LOL

Well you know what - I was thinking about it the other day and judging his reactions to things I almost wonder if my husband is jealous of God AKA God's placement on my list of priorities.  Maybe my husband wants to be #1 on my list and is upset because God is #1 - just a thought, not saying it's true.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

But 9 out of 10 people who claim to be Christians aren't even saved

And you know this how?

They've actually done a country wide study and 89% of Americans called themselves Christians but when answering questions to determine if they were born again vs. attached the name Christian to themselves, I think it was 10% or less who passed the test.  I don't have time to look it up, I'll see if I can find the exact numbers and post them on here.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Christians all have different paths to take and you cannot assume your hubby's path is your path... be happy that he loves the Lord...

That's the thing though, I don't know if he does love the Lord.  Only time will tell..