when should you discipline a three year old

[mjoseph1]

before they turned 3

[hensleyll]

Well aparantly someone is not doing something right,i thinkin it might be because there is alot of fighting going on around her

[freepcmoney]

 If they are big enough to do it-----THEN-----They are big enough to learn NOT to do it----AND---Your job is to teach them.

[ricdsm]

Of course you SHOULD discipline a 3 year old.  The real question is what constitutes effective discipline for a child that age.  The question really is, how do you effectively teach a 3 year old the lesson you care about (pick up your toys, don't pull the dog's tail, etc).  Remember that the root of discipline comes from the concept of discipleship.  Punishment, is something we do to feel better ourselves.  Discipline is something we do to bring about positive development in our kids.

Good luck though.  I know it isn't easy.

[kristalie]

I'm struggling with this too. It's very difficult when a child won't listen or behave.

[wendyr19]

If the parents don't discipline their child, then the child will have a hard time understanding the difference between right and wrong. The most you could do is teach the child the rules of your household. Trying to teach the child correct behavior when your not around is just wasting your time if the parents don't enforce the rules.

[reneeclay28]

if you dont he wont learn i no my son made it to nine yrs old lol he was a bad one and still is.

[tfw6693]

  We have the same problem. Grandpa and Grandma don't let them get away with it. Let the child bellar. Just walk away. If it starts again, walk away again. Eventually, the 3 year old will realize it doesn't work that way in your house. Our grandkids behave very well with us. Much better than if they were home. 

[natashaspy]

now is the time to start the discipline i would say.  if she will talk back to you now when she's little, just imagine how bad she will be when she grows up!!!! i've never been a fan of spanking, my son only had one in the past 18 years... and he's more polite than most of the kids his age.  if they know that you wont allow that kind of behavior from the start, they grow up respecting you more.  there's always taking away a favorite toy, not letting them have dessert...or in my son's case, making him sit still for five or ten minutes.  at that age he was always a bundle of energy so sitting still was almost like corporal punishment to hear him tell it lol

[hensleyll]

so i tried timeout she just keeps getting up ,tried taking tv she doesnt care about tv tried taking toys not phase her at all,decided she could not go out in play or upstairs to play with great grandparents she stays with me mostly no only spends a night or to with her parents she is in headstart and prek she is doing much better no thanks for all the advice and support

[tzs]

The calmer you are, regardless, the better. My child has ADHD, and sometimes I have to catch myself and realize she is picking up on my cues when we argue(I have ADHD too, so it's like we are deadlocked when she gets
 angry). Of course everyone tells me that my child just needs a butt whipping, but not all children can be disciplined the exact same way.  I put it on myself. If she gets to the point of screaming and throwing things, I take a step back and calm myself first,  then we try to work it out. When she sees that I am calm and recognizes she can catch more flies with honey than vinegar, change begins to happen in her behavior.  But like I said,  not all  children handle discipline the same.

[phasetwo]

Anytime their behavior is unacceptable!!!! And the discipline should be severe enough to halt the unacceptable behavior. You just have to find what works for your child. Remember you are doing it for them not to them.

[hensleyll]

so she is 4 now things going little better i have learned if i ignore some things she corrects it herself

[sgluckadoo]

Parents need to explain consequences to their children and choose the appropriate punishment. Not every child will need the same method, but every child needs consistency. Kids learn through their parents so if the parents aren't teaching them anything about how to behave, they won't learn how to.

[hensleyll]

this is what i am learning this time around with carenets help they are wanderful ladies