need opinions for facebook problem

[jmc1070]

My husband has his ex wife on his facebook page. She is constantly posting on his wall and sending messages through the facebook messages. A lot of the messages and posts are about things from when they were together remember this, oh and remember this time, etc. they haven't been together for over 25 years. He has been with me.  I feel she is doing this on purpose to try to draw him back to her as she just recently got divorced from her husband . I think this is very inappropriate behavior, and should have the right to request that he unfriend her. I had an ex boyfriend on my facebook that he wasn't comfortable with me having on my list. He asked me to unfriend the ex, and the ex and I weren't even in contact or following each other on our pages, but because he wasn't comfortable with it, I removed the ex from my friends.  Do you think this is an unreasonable request for me to make?

[JohnPi]

If he had you unfriend an ex-boyfriend, it's perfectly reasonable to tell him to unfriend his ex-wife -- especially if she is posting the things you describe on his wall.

[anitaraemillspalmer]

My husband has his ex wife on his facebook page. She is constantly posting on his wall and sending messages through the facebook messages. A lot of the messages and posts are about things from when they were together remember this, oh and remember this time, etc. they haven't been together for over 25 years. He has been with me.  I feel she is doing this on purpose to try to draw him back to her as she just recently got divorced from her husband . I think this is very inappropriate behavior, and should have the right to request that he unfriend her. I had an ex boyfriend on my facebook that he wasn't comfortable with me having on my list. He asked me to unfriend the ex, and the ex and I weren't even in contact or following each other on our pages, but because he wasn't comfortable with it, I removed the ex from my friends.  Do you think this is an unreasonable request for me to make?

Do they have children together?  If so, I can see posting regarding the children but if not, no...I agree with you if she recently divorced...well she could be making a play for the ex...your current and I'm sure you want to keep it that way...

[msmoneybags48]

If he had you unfriend your ex on Facebook, it is perfectly okay for you to ask him to unfriend his ex-wife.  An ex is an ex for a reason.  Walking down Memory Lane when you haven't been with him in 25 years doesn't mean that things will be any different.  I haven't been with my 1st ex in 32 (nearly 33) years, and I don't miss any part of it.  Nobody has seen the worm since his father died in 1985.

[marciaenglish]

I think he should "unfriend" her!  Even if they had kids together; there is always the phone in an emergency!  How very thoughtless of him to have her listed as a friend in the first place!  Like msmoneybags48 stated:  an ex is an ex for a reason!   

[Timberlan127]

I think that it is not unreasonable since he made the request that you remove the EX.  Since he made that request he should know where you are coming from.

[braggin]

I also think it is perfectly OK for you to ask him to unfriend his ex. Just say it makes you uncomfortable, just like it made him uncomfortable to have you friend your ex. He should certainly understand that.

[Nancy5]

If it were me, I wouldn't ask him to unfriend her, I would insist he block her.  If they have kids together she can call him in an emergency, but if the kids are older and on their own, there is really no need for much, if any, contact between the two.

[BlackSheepNY]

My husband has his ex wife on his facebook page. She is constantly posting on his wall and sending messages through the facebook messages. A lot of the messages and posts are about things from when they were together remember this, oh and remember this time, etc. they haven't been together for over 25 years. He has been with me.  I feel she is doing this on purpose to try to draw him back to her as she just recently got divorced from her husband . I think this is very inappropriate behavior, and should have the right to request that he unfriend her. I had an ex boyfriend on my facebook that he wasn't comfortable with me having on my list. He asked me to unfriend the ex, and the ex and I weren't even in contact or following each other on our pages, but because he wasn't comfortable with it, I removed the ex from my friends.  Do you think this is an unreasonable request for me to make?

This is absolutely NOT an unreasonable request for you to make.  Look, he requested the same of you, and you and your "ex" weren't even in touch with each other - merely "friended" via Facebook.  You took his feelings into consideration when he asked, I see no reason why he wouldn't do the same for you.

[minioncookies]

The case of the Ex.. A well played card for centuries.. Since She just got divorced i think you hit it on the head she is using that as a tactic to get him back.. Sometimes when relationships go bad they tend to have a rebound with someone even if it is an ex. I think there is more to this ex than you know..There is something here that is bugging me.. If he asked you to get rid of your ex...why didn't he get rid of his ex fist? You can't ask someone to do something you yourself are not willing to do.. You can ask him but since he hasn't got rid of her yet.. i doubt it will happen. Maybe i am wrong and he will. Hopefully everything works out for you and you can get over this stressfull hump.

[cathy37]

I too feel that if he had you unfriend an ex-boyfriend of yours, that it is only fair that he unfriend his ex or at least ask her to be more respectful of you and stop making those kind of posts.

[ricdsm]

I think that if you are un comfortable w/ how she is acting you have a right to ask him to unfriend her.  He should say yes!

[sharonpatri55]

It is a perfectly reasonable to request to have your husband unfriend his ex on Facebook, especially since he had asked you to do the very same thing with your ex.

[loulizlee]

I cannot fathom why he did not unfriend her on his own, since he asked you to unfriend your ex.  She needs to look elsewhere for her next husband.  I would have mentioned it a long time ago.  If he's not considerate about that, there may be other things he hasn't given up.

[moonangel]

as a couple you 2 should respect each others feelings  that's part of the reason why me and my wife are still married almost 30 years we listen to each other and if one of us is uncomfortable with something we listen and respond appropriately marriage is give and take and communication is key