Why are men so opinionated these days?

[msmoneybags48]

I had a phone call from my brother and discovered I don't recognize him at all.  I hadn't heard from him since he married his wife as a joke.  We were talking on the phone and he told me that women are supposed to obey their husbands but they don't have to obey women.  Here's what gave him this one sided idea.  He said he has friends whose women treat them like dogs and he decided that he would be darned if a woman did it to him.  I told him that if a woman treat a man like a dog, he allowed her to do so.  He then told me he can't wait to see me so he can explain it to me.  I want to know how he can explain it to me when he is not with his wife because he left her, in his opinion, because she would not obey him.   He then said to me that I must not know who he is, and I told him that he is the little boy  who was circumsized at 7 years old (he had to go to the hospital because he was hit by a car and a plug was knocked out of his ankle as a result of it) who was afraid to release his bladder for fear that it would burn.  My point is, when a man and a woman get married, it takes work, it takes compromise, and if you are going to go into it with a one-sided opinion that she is the only person who has to work at it and you don't, you won't be married for long.  Your take on it?

[countrygirl12]

This is not uncommon.  A lot of men are like that.  I do not agree with it and I would not allow a man to treat me like his slave and if he thought I was suppose to "obey" him and he could do whatever he wanted we would have problems.  Well....until I became a widow. lol

I would tell him "I don't need you to explain anything to me.  I understand it perfectly.  You are a bully.  Thus the reason you are no longer with your wife." 

Working with the public gives you the opportunity to observe a lot of people and I have seen both men and women being abusive toward their mates.

[lvstephanie]

It's probably a result of a patriarchal society that makes some men feel like they rule their family... A) He makes more money, so should have the final decision as to how it should be spent. B) Might makes right. C) There are numerous Biblical verses that state that women are to be subservient to their husbands: "Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord." - Col 3:18

However I believe that our society is growing out of that patriarchal mentality, learning to appreciate women as being equals. I agree with both of your assessments that if a man can't accept his wife as being an equal partner in their marriage, then that marriage is doomed to fail. Hopefully your brother will see the error of his ways...

[batmobile]

Because women are intimidating now a days

[msmoneybags48]

I thank you for your responses, because I believe that if a man is not going to do the right thing and work with his wife to make the marriage work, he may as well stay away from the subject of marriage, because there are not many women who will obey a man.  My husband believes my brother is right, by the way, but I say that if a man allow himself to be a doormat, he will get his wish because men have treated us like we are doormats for years.  Men have this problem of obeying women, and I, for one, am willing to work with my husband, but he has to be willing to work with me, and if I have to work on it alone, he will be alone.   I got one opinion and I take it that it has to be from a man because he said that women are intimidating, but my brother needs to be tamed because he wouldn't know how to be faithful to a woman if his life depended upon it.  I believe that women don't want, nor do they feel like they need a man because some of us are strong-willed and they don't need a man who acts like their father.  I told my husband that he is not my father because my father died when I was 2 and when he have children my age, he will finally wake up and smell the coffee.

[vickysue]

A lot of men are that way. It is always do as i say and not what i do. Yep married to one. It was awful. He thought he was the only one. would trash talk my family and think it was just fine. Treated me like a wetback servant and that was the way it was going to be. Well i jumped ship and divorived him. Ask he why he had married me and i was told it was because he wanted to qwn someone. just for himself. What a crap.

[SherylsShado]

My second job is retail so I see/know alot of couples.  I see way more opinionated women and women being downright mean & rude to their men than the other way around but it could just be my area.    Just days before Christmas, I observed a woman YELLING at her guy telling him he was STUPID and he had been very nice & polite to me moments before.  He was completely calm and quiet as she kept yelling at him and he was trying to explain to her but she kept yelling "You're STUPID" over top of his voice.  Finally, he raised a fist to hit her then he realized there was probably security cameras as he looked around and dropped his fist.

I don't ever think hitting someone is the answer but if he had hit her...she totally deserved it, completely had it coming.  I would have never said I seen a thing either, she was that bad. 

Love respects the other person...love wants the other person to be happy.   Seems like "obedience" wouldn't even be an issue then.

[angsilva2000]

men are a pain in the *bleep* an dont know much at least some dont