A mothers concern

[Tidee666]

Gm FC family shoulg a mother be concerned that there child is keeping a secret or not telling the truth about something? What would you do if they were?

[Penwoir]

I think the age of the children makes a difference in how you deal with it and also what you believe the subject of the secret to be. If it's to do with a 7 year old steeling a cookie from the cookie jar at home, I would have a quiet word about asking before taking. If it's a 15 year old that's being really secretive, a more serious and definite conversation needs to happen. If you can't get to the bottom of it at 15, you'll have no hope at 18.

[Forp]

everyone tries to keep things secret and telling your mom the "TRUTH" about everything...a kid does not want to disappoint his or her mom..so some things are best left unsaid from the kid's viewpoint ...it's done because they don't want to hurt.

[Nancy5]

I think it depends on the age of the child.  Small kids have "big secrets", that are really silly non-important things, so let them keep the secret.  If it's an older child, especially a pre or a teen, then it also depends on the child.  If you have doubts then you should do all you can to find out what it is, hoping it's not serious,  if you know your child and are reasonably sure it's not a big deal or something important, then let them have their secret.

[debidoo]

  In general I would say yes but how much concern might depend on the age of the child.  My kids are grown but I still experience concern over them but all you can do is be there for them.  Let them know you love them regardless and am always there if they need to talk.

[ushaann]

yes parents should be concerned about it

[melissajh44]

If the parent feels the secret can be harmful for the child, then yes.

[camellia0]

Is there another family member or trusting adult that your child confides in? Who does your child talk to often, aunt, uncle? I would make it known to the child that I was there for them and that may make it easier for them to open up. But if you see some kind of strange behavior, yeah you have to talk to them.

[cashrose]

Gm FC family shoulg a mother be concerned that there child is keeping a secret or not telling the truth about something? What would you do if they were?

For my opinion yes, I am mother of four kids and I am very very concerned about them hiding secrect from me which they don't have. But the good way to be concerned free is be your kids best friend  and open up to them and let them know that you are straight to them let them know that you want them to straight up to you too. That is why I like talking straight to them since they were little. They are growing so fast now adays and keep talking
to them make a very big different. They only heard your voice since little till now and it locked in their heard that mom voice is so powerful and they don't even think any negative doing. Moms we are the power of our childrens so keep that power going!!!

[minioncookies]

A mother can be lots of things.. Caring.. Noururing... Loving.. Worried.. Concerned... But when it comes to their kids..They will put their kids life before anything else.. Have you ever observed a grizzly bear and her cubs? Up close of course not.. But if you look closely.. Mother Grizzly Bear Protects her cubs with her life.. IF anything were to happen to her cubs you can sure bet the mother will be there defending it.. You do not want to be to close to a baby cub anyways because If the mother sences it's in danger your life quickly becomes in danger.. I have noticed that mother's when it comes to their child will be on top of something quicker than the police could possibly imagine.. They will be right there contantly on top of things.. and i'm pretty sure they can do a better job than the police offers when it comes to finding their kids it's just a mother's instinct.. Which brings me to my next point.. A mother has a certain instinct.. They truely do know when their kids are lieing or keeping secrets.. It's always good to worry because you don't know how bad the outcome could be..or the danger or the trouble they are in.. A mother's job is a very hard job because it's hard to not worry when you know something is being kept from you because you make that child your life.. You live through that child.. So should a mother be concerned? Yes a mother should be concerned a mother will always be concerned she don't need no advice on that she probably already is with all the dangers in the world. She will always have a certain fear... Her instinct will always guide her paths. I for one am not a mother.. But i would deffinetly be concerned if my child were keeping a secret or lieing. I would worry constantly.. I would hate to have to worry constantly.. But it's my duty to protect the kid.. Now what i would do about the lieing i think that is age according.. If it's a smaller kid and they are going through something you want to remind them that you are there to talk  and even offer to talk to a school councler.. You want to let them know you won't be mad and you want to make sure your tone of voice stays lowered. As for a older kid.. Well As stated before i'm not really a mother.. But i would probably do the same thing although the older the kid the tougher because certain ages go through phases where they want to be treated diffrently no longer like a child.. but you i'm pretty sure no matter the case.. the truth always comes out eventually..

[6265AT99]

I really think it depends on how old the child is.  After all, a 6 or 7 yr. old may have a secret that wouldn't be anything too traumatic but on the other hand a 16 yr. old may have a "secret" that definitely needs to be talked about.  Either way, it's really up to the parent to know their child at any age and to be able to "read" their body language and maybe even their minds!!!

[loulizlee]

I agree.  I think it depends on the age of the child.  Also, if you know what the secret is, which it sounds like you do but perhaps the child doesn't know you do, you can tell something from that.  In any case, I would let the child know you are there for them, no matter what.