relationship issues

[o2bnocn]

If you found out your spouse was talking to a girl/guy would you be mad and what would you do?

[swkstudent]

If they're having an affair then yes I would be upset and I would break up with them. I don't tolerate being cheated on. I'd rather be alone than put up with a cheating *bleep*.

[linderlizzie]

If you found out your spouse was talking to a girl/guy would you be mad and what would you do?

Talking is not a capital offense. I would say it depends on the situation. Are they talking in person or online? Are they alone or with other people? Was your relationship in trouble already and he/she is confiding in the other person? Many variables here.

Make sure you know the context of the situation before you react. Getting angry and being confrontational would probably be a mistake. But if it concerns you, the you should talk about it with your spouse. Marriage is for keeps if you can stand the heat.   

[zreeds]

yes, I would be mad. personally, I would walk way from the relationship. if you have children I would approach it differently, maybe suggest some counseling to figure out why they are looking elsewhere. try to find out why they are talking to another person.

[waterbearer94]

i don't trust someone not to cheat on me

[kimmy29]

If you found out your spouse was talking to a girl/guy would you be mad and what would you do?

[o2bnocn]

Thanks, you all gave me some perspective.

[msmoneybags48]

It all depends on the situation.  It may be perfectly innocent, and then you would know if you can make more of the issue.  My husband made the mistake of telling a parishioner at church that I would not mind if he took up time with her youngest son.  It was set straight when I got home and he saw I was mad.  I told him that he was acting as if he was single.  I told him it was not his place to tell her that her son was bad and that he hurt her feelings.  I asked him straight out how he was going to straighten out her son when his own mother told me the only person he minds is his sister. His mother knocked him down in church because he wrote his name in one of the bibles.  I told him he should not have said anything.  I can see it if he said anything better, but I feel that if you have nothing  nice to say, don't say anything at all.  Maybe you should be direct and ask him about this person.

[batmobile]

If you found out your spouse was talking to a girl/guy would you be mad and what would you do?

no boundaries... no go... its disrespectful

[Nancy5]

It depends on what you mean by talking.  If you are talking about an affair, then of course it's wrong.  But, I have some close friends that are men and my husband has friends that are women.  If I bump into one of my male friends and my husband is not with me, of course I will talk to him as will my husband with females.  Actually just last week I went out to lunch with a male friend alone.  My husband knew and his wife knew and no one was worried.  You can have friends of the opposite sex and be 100% innocent.  Now if it's done sneaky then you probably have a problem.  Hope this answers you, good luck!

[BJohnsonPP]

As Nancy put, it depends on what you mean by "talking". If it's flirtatious in nature or they're sneaking around to do it, then of course there's a problem. However, if you know who they're talking to and know the conversations to be innocent, normal, and friendly, it shouldn't matter. Sometimes it really is just Jake from State Farm. 

[kimmy29]

yes, I would be mad. personally, I would walk way from the relationship. if you have children I would approach it differently, maybe suggest some counseling to figure out why they are looking elsewhere. try to find out why they are talking to another person.

[kimmy29]

 

yes, I would be mad. personally, I would walk way from the relationship. if you have children I would approach it differently, maybe suggest some counseling to figure out why they are looking elsewhere. try to find out why they are talking to another person.

[Dynamite2013]

First I would ask him why and his reply would tell me what to do next. If he cheated on me I would pack up his things and tell him to go to her. I don't like cheaters either. but if he said he was just passing time I wouldn't let it bother me even if I knew she was interested. Because I know my spouse wouldn't do that to me. We have a great relationship and feel like newlyweds all the time. and when we disagree I put out my water pistol and he pulls out his and we have a water pistol fight. It removes all hostility so we can continue our good relationship. Married 24 years and next year he wants to marry me again on our 25 anniversary.

[skinnygwenny]

My husband and I have been together for so long that I would not think about seeing him talk to another female. If I saw him doing anything else, that would be another story.