Secret's out! Well, not really.

[jiuchan]

I've been holding a secret in my past that I can never let my relatives know (aside from my mom and sis cause they were there when it happened).

Me and my cousin were talking last night and I told him what I went thru in high school (secret 1)
Then secret 2 came out I guess he found out that something else was bothering me.

So because of me telling him about secret 2, I feel a lot better, but I really want to tell my dad about it because secret 2 relates with a relative from his side of the family, but can't because telling him might cause him to have a hard attack and he has blood pressure and he's also going back to our homeland in Dec.

Anyway, I just wanted to share that letting another family member know felt like a ton was removed from my back even tho there are still more on my back. The heavy  burden is lighter than before!

I am happy!! =) Since then, my cousin declared that he will be my diary. xD Love him!

[camellia0]

What's the chance of your relatives letting that secret slip out?

[msmoneybags48]

Is the secret you have been harboring all these years and relates to a relative from your dad's side bad?  It must be bad, since your mom and other relative were there when it happened.  It may be a secret you not let slip out.  My mother harbored a secret and took it to her grave.  Maybe that is what you should have done, seeing that you revealed your dad will have a heart attack if he ever finds out.

[gaylasue]

It is great having someone you can talk to and share your burdens with.

[kewl4reals]

I've been holding a secret in my past that I can never let my relatives know (aside from my mom and sis cause they were there when it happened).

Me and my cousin were talking last night and I told him what I went thru in high school (secret 1)
Then secret 2 came out I guess he found out that something else was bothering me.

So because of me telling him about secret 2, I feel a lot better, but I really want to tell my dad about it because secret 2 relates with a relative from his side of the family, but can't because telling him might cause him to have a hard attack and he has blood pressure and he's also going back to our homeland in Dec.

Anyway, I just wanted to share that letting another family member know felt like a ton was removed from my back even tho there are still more on my back. The heavy  burden is lighter than before!

I am happy!! =) Since then, my cousin declared that he will be my diary. xD Love him!

WHAT THE HELL IS THE SECRET?

[mperez7372]

I do not believe in taking things to the grave... especially if you were the victim!!!!  If you were the victim, I hope you can find the strength to realize you did nothing wrong.  I believe in "outing" the perpetrator because otherwise, they just target someone else.  Hopefully, your cousin can help you find strength to be the advocate for others- if you were a victim, that is.

[nmbrown863]

Yea I always feel better getting things off my chest. I have never really been good at keeping secrets, as bad as that sounds. There's always that one person I have to tell. Definitely not one of my good qualities. Lol.

[CharmedPhoenix]

There's a quote:  "You're only as sick as your secrets."  I don't know who said it.

My mom was extremely secretive.  It made her miserable all her life and us along with her.  Now my brother and I are having to figure out our own parents' life stories. 

I agree with the post that advises speaking up if you were victimized by someone, especially a family member.  If they did it once they'll do it again.  You could be saving someone else's life by revealing them.  I'm sure your father would rather learn the truth from you than to ever realize you were afraid to talk to him about it.  That could be more painful, to think you didn't trust him.  Have courage, it''l all work out.