HELP

[patycake56]

I have a 32 yr old daughter nwho abuses drugs I am my wits nend on how to deal with her any suggestions

[minioncookies]

My mom dealt with that with one of her daughters
she said in cases like this you have to learn tough love
Say no. (I will support you not your habit)
Encourage them to get help
You can't make them change if they are not willing to change
that's something alot of people don't understand.
They have to be willing to help themselves.
If not then you are at a loss in reality.
Hope things start looking up for you
good luck!

[dreamyxo]

She's grown there isn't much you can do unless she wants to change. 

[moonangel]

oh man that's hard ... tough love stick to it no help from you let her hit rock bottom then maybe she will change that's not going to be easy for her or you I sympathise with you...

[autumnsparklemom]

Oh boy - since she is in her 30's - she is an adult and though you hate seeing your daughter like this - if I were in your shoes (which I'm not) I would cut ties with her until she decides to come clean. It's sad but don't let her run all over you and be very cautious of her actions (stealing, etc). I hope and pray she gets help soon and that she does it for herself.

[tinaryerson]

intervention

[camellia0]

You need to leave her alone. You can't have her come to your house. She may stash it somewhere and you get in trouble. Sometimes it takes something bad to happen for someone to wake up. I'm sorry.

[angprescott]

Get her help!! My husband is an ex user, he has now been clean for almost 30 years, and he Thanks his parents for saving his life!! Find a organization that can help, if nothing else contact a Church, they usually have good contacts. If she does anything illegal, turn her in, getting her arrested could save her life. A young man (24) at our church was recently arrested, as a plea bargain the Pastor helped getting him in rehab, it is mandatory he stays at least a year, and after just a few weeks him mother is already seeing a difference, but she said it is very hard because she doesn't get to see him often, but mom is very pleased that he is getting help.  Good Luck, I will add your family to my Prayer list.

[patycake56]

I just want to say thank you everyone for all the great advise and prayers it is so appreciated.

[kroberts13]

well its like this you can only help the willing,if she is willing to help her self you might get lucky, but its just a alcoholic if you keep telling them bout how you want them to change and stop they will keep going and do more,if you just sit back and let nature take its course they will stop on there own.my was a alcoholic real bad everybody kept telling him to stop but he refused to stop  so we left him a lone and he QUIT and know he is doing alot better he has a family,a truck driving job and he is very proud of him self and he is closer to his family.just pray that she stops on her own before anything happens.

[kroberts13]

well its like this you can only help the willing,if she is willing to help her self you might get lucky, but its just like a alcoholic if you keep telling them bout how you want them to change and stop they will keep going and do more,if you just sit back and let nature take its course they will stop on there own.my was a alcoholic real bad everybody kept telling him to stop but he refused to stop  so we left him a lone and he QUIT and know he is doing alot better he has a family,a truck driving job and he is very proud of him self and he is closer to his family.just pray that she stops on her own before anything happens.

[kerseycarol]

honey just leave it in the hands of the lord he knows what he is doing trust in him he is not going to give you more than you can bare so put you faith in him and all thing will come to pass pray and let him hear your heart and youll see how much better you situation will get god bless you and i will pray for you

[ilovepatrick]

only they can stop and to add insult to injury if you try to help they will only call you an enabler i guess the trick is knowing when to help and when not to   good luck

[inertia4]

It's like that old saying, you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink it. She has to want to stop. An intervention could help and maybe that would be your best starting point.