Have you ever been in a situation like this and how did you handle it?

[msmoneybags48]

My daughter and her husband came in for a visit Thursday.  Her husband has a daughter.  He went to pick her up, found her hair dirty and nobody said a word at that time.  My grandson went with my daughter, and she brought him back before she got on the road to return to Marietta, GA.

Yesterday, we were on the phone, and she was telling me how her husband wants to get custody of his daughter because his daughter and my grandson both went to Kindergarten together, but my grandson can read and his daughter cannot.  But at that point, my daughter got a call from her husband, and I was put on hold.  When she returned and we resumed our conversation, she was telling me that the grandmother of his daughter (not his mother) called him up to tell him school is beginning here on Tuesday and she has no uniforms or shoes to wear.  The grandmother went on to tell him that the only thing she gets from child support is $20.  They wanted him to send money so they could use for whatever reason they deemed.  Before you take sides here, I know something of this situation.  I know that his daughter's mother is a drug addict.  She would constantly hang around my house to rip off my brother in-law who was getting a disability check.  The thing is, my brother in-law would give her his check and the shirt off his back.  I was in the bedroom with my husband when this woman, my cousin and my brother in-law returned.  He was sloppy drunk and passed out in the floor.  My cousin called my husband and told him they needed help.  They didn't need help per se; they needed a scapegoat to be blamed when they stole his money.  I asked him what was he going up there for when they are going to set him up as the fall guy.  The next day, my words became true in that my brother in-law told everyone that my husband and I stole his money.  At that point, I went off.  I told them that the only two people in his room was this woman and my cousin, and I don't steal; I prefer to ask for it.   This woman just got of jail last year, and she has two other children (my daughter's husband is not the father of them) but they are spending his daughter's child support on them.  My husband wanted to know why I didn't like this woman, and I told him that I was told the woman told his sister that we were stealing from his brother, which was an outright lie.

Last night, I got three texts from my daughter.  The mother of her husband's daughter called to say all the child needed was shoes, and why do he want to take custody of his daughter.  She accused him of not paying child support.  My daughter told me that, when they moved to Georgia and he began working at Wal-Mart, she saw his child support papers and the payments they would be taking from his check every two weeks.   I suspect that they are calling because the grandmother told him he could get his daughter.  It is going to take money out of that house, since the grandmother is taking care of his daughter, the other children, and has a full house of children as well besides that.  My question is that, if it was so crucial, the man was in town as long as my daughter was and they said nothing because they know full well he would have cursed them out.  My daughter texted me today to tell me that her husband plans to get his daughter, so she plans to get my grandson as well, because she wants him there with her.  I want to know your opinion.  Is it right to take a child support check and split it between three children when the other two children are not yours?  I said he needs to make a complaint with Child Support.  Your take on this?
 

[weased]

My daughter and her husband came in for a visit Thursday.  Her husband has a daughter.  He went to pick her up, found her hair dirty and nobody said a word at that time.  My grandson went with my daughter, and she brought him back before she got on the road to return to Marietta, GA.

Yesterday, we were on the phone, and she was telling me how her husband wants to get custody of his daughter because his daughter and my grandson both went to Kindergarten together, but my grandson can read and his daughter cannot.  But at that point, my daughter got a call from her husband, and I was put on hold.  When she returned and we resumed our conversation, she was telling me that the grandmother of his daughter (not his mother) called him up to tell him school is beginning here on Tuesday and she has no uniforms or shoes to wear.  The grandmother went on to tell him that the only thing she gets from child support is $20.  They wanted him to send money so they could use for whatever reason they deemed.  Before you take sides here, I know something of this situation.  I know that his daughter's mother is a drug addict.  She would constantly hang around my house to rip off my brother in-law who was getting a disability check.  The thing is, my brother in-law would give her his check and the shirt off his back.  I was in the bedroom with my husband when this woman, my cousin and my brother in-law returned.  He was sloppy drunk and passed out in the floor.  My cousin called my husband and told him they needed help.  They didn't need help per se; they needed a scapegoat to be blamed when they stole his money.  I asked him what was he going up there for when they are going to set him up as the fall guy.  The next day, my words became true in that my brother in-law told everyone that my husband and I stole his money.  At that point, I went off.  I told them that the only two people in his room was this woman and my cousin, and I don't steal; I prefer to ask for it.   This woman just got of jail last year, and she has two other children (my daughter's husband is not the father of them) but they are spending his daughter's child support on them.  My husband wanted to know why I didn't like this woman, and I told him that I was told the woman told his sister that we were stealing from his brother, which was an outright lie.

Last night, I got three texts from my daughter.  The mother of her husband's daughter called to say all the child needed was shoes, and why do he want to take custody of his daughter.  She accused him of not paying child support.  My daughter told me that, when they moved to Georgia and he began working at Wal-Mart, she saw his child support papers and the payments they would be taking from his check every two weeks.   I suspect that they are calling because the grandmother told him he could get his daughter.  It is going to take money out of that house, since the grandmother is taking care of his daughter, the other children, and has a full house of children as well besides that.  My question is that, if it was so crucial, the man was in town as long as my daughter was and they said nothing because they know full well he would have cursed them out.  My daughter texted me today to tell me that her husband plans to get his daughter, so she plans to get my grandson as well, because she wants him there with her.  I want to know your opinion.  Is it right to take a child support check and split it between three children when the other two children are not yours?  I said he needs to make a complaint with Child Support.  Your take on this?
 

Actually if this went before a judge, the child support for one child cannot be considered for the support of another, trouble is CSE in Georgia is a bunch of assistant district attorneys and they usually have a thing worked out with the presiding judge so that any decision the DA office representative makes is what the judge will go along with. It would take hiring an attorney to get any justice with this situation, sorry, that`s how it works here in Georgia. Although usually, a threat from one parent of going after custody is usually not anything but a threat!

[anitaraemillspalmer]

My daughter and her husband came in for a visit Thursday.  Her husband has a daughter.  He went to pick her up, found her hair dirty and nobody said a word at that time.  My grandson went with my daughter, and she brought him back before she got on the road to return to Marietta, GA.

Yesterday, we were on the phone, and she was telling me how her husband wants to get custody of his daughter because his daughter and my grandson both went to Kindergarten together, but my grandson can read and his daughter cannot.  But at that point, my daughter got a call from her husband, and I was put on hold.  When she returned and we resumed our conversation, she was telling me that the grandmother of his daughter (not his mother) called him up to tell him school is beginning here on Tuesday and she has no uniforms or shoes to wear.  The grandmother went on to tell him that the only thing she gets from child support is $20.  They wanted him to send money so they could use for whatever reason they deemed.  Before you take sides here, I know something of this situation.  I know that his daughter's mother is a drug addict.  She would constantly hang around my house to rip off my brother in-law who was getting a disability check.  The thing is, my brother in-law would give her his check and the shirt off his back.  I was in the bedroom with my husband when this woman, my cousin and my brother in-law returned.  He was sloppy drunk and passed out in the floor.  My cousin called my husband and told him they needed help.  They didn't need help per se; they needed a scapegoat to be blamed when they stole his money.  I asked him what was he going up there for when they are going to set him up as the fall guy.  The next day, my words became true in that my brother in-law told everyone that my husband and I stole his money.  At that point, I went off.  I told them that the only two people in his room was this woman and my cousin, and I don't steal; I prefer to ask for it.   This woman just got of jail last year, and she has two other children (my daughter's husband is not the father of them) but they are spending his daughter's child support on them.  My husband wanted to know why I didn't like this woman, and I told him that I was told the woman told his sister that we were stealing from his brother, which was an outright lie.

Last night, I got three texts from my daughter.  The mother of her husband's daughter called to say all the child needed was shoes, and why do he want to take custody of his daughter.  She accused him of not paying child support.  My daughter told me that, when they moved to Georgia and he began working at Wal-Mart, she saw his child support papers and the payments they would be taking from his check every two weeks.   I suspect that they are calling because the grandmother told him he could get his daughter.  It is going to take money out of that house, since the grandmother is taking care of his daughter, the other children, and has a full house of children as well besides that.  My question is that, if it was so crucial, the man was in town as long as my daughter was and they said nothing because they know full well he would have cursed them out.  My daughter texted me today to tell me that her husband plans to get his daughter, so she plans to get my grandson as well, because she wants him there with her.  I want to know your opinion.  Is it right to take a child support check and split it between three children when the other two children are not yours?  I said he needs to make a complaint with Child Support.  Your take on this?
 Who's paying child support for the other two children?? or I take it there is no child support for them?? Sounds like somebody needs to get off their rear and get a job  just saying...Child support does not have the authority to determine where and how that money is spent unfortunately...pray about it and mean it God expects us to use him   

[cathy37]

I don't think it is right to take on child's support check and use it on the other children.  He is paying for his daughter's care and not the other children.

[msmoneybags48]

He has a job and Child Support is taken out every two weeks.  I just found out that the mother of his daughter is not even in the house with her children; she is in another part of Mississippi doing drugs.  Here's the situation, as I have been updated; he spoke to the Child Support people here and they get all of what they take out of his check.  He is upset because his daughter spent an entire year in Kindergarten as well as my grandson.  My grandson can read because I made sure he did his work when he walked in the door, and the list the teacher sent home with him, he and I went over that list everyday.  I told him that he had to know how to read to get into first grade.  His child is going to first grade and cannot read a word; she must have done well enough to get past that.  Now the amount they allegedly receive has gone up but not by much; it is now $27 a month.  They know that, if this child needs something, he is going to turn over heaven and earth to make sure she gets it.  I don't know what to say; if the grandmother was any kind of mother, she would make sure that child's needs are being met, and it is apparent they are not.  This man is not bluffing; they know he wants custody of her, and to make sure that he don't get her, they would rather lie.   I love my grandson and I know that education is something he is going to need.  I didn't have but $32 but, while my husband and grandson were at the carnival, I went to Wal-Mart to make sure he had everything he needed in the manner of supplies on the first day of school.  I spent it all except for $7, but now the only thing I have to go do is buy an uniform for him to wear on the first day of school, and that will be taken care of Monday.  I know this; that woman has teenage children of her own, a daughter who just gave birth on the 29th of July to a baby boy, another daughter who is very talented (she plays the drums and the organ), and she just got a job herself.  There is no reason whatsoever that this situation should be going on.