Is It Possible to be married and have 2 women that you love equally?

[loulizlee]

I think it's possible to fool himself into thinking he is equally in love with both.  I think he is "in trouble" with the best friend.

[jmccaskill]

Some are saying this is going to be a problem... my friend, this IS a problem! In your shoes, I would distance myself from this situation as far as possible, that is assuming that it is not really you in the picture to begin with. There is on way a person can deal with a situation that someone else is living, and can only end up losing their friendship regardless of the outcome with the guy and his two 'loves'.

A spouse must enjoy a unique place of trust and devotion in their mate's life, that is just not possible to be 'shared' with a third party. Your 'friend' is mistaking lust for love I think, and he cannot escape the dire consequences of his selfishness. I can see him losing both of his 'loves' in pretty short order!

[masked_brown_guy]

yes, it is called polygamy. Not sure if it will work out for your friend though, since he had to go to you for advice; a person who probably isn't part of a polygamist relationship. Your friend obviously has doubts about introducing his other wife to his actual wife, the answer is pretty clear.

[camellia0]

To me it sounds like he likes what he sees of his wife's friend, but  she could be totally different if something surfaced. He needs to stay away from her.

[Tresbn00]

I think that the word love, in this instance, is somewhat ill-defined.  If this person hasn't told their spouse about love for another person than this person is keeping a secret from someone that they love and I believe that this diminishes the strength of the word love in the sense of what this person has for their spouse.  It is easy to be attracted to another person and have strong feelings for that person but I don't think that you can carry the same amount of affection for two people. A spouse is someone that you trust, that is willing to overlook little idiosyncracies and has learned to adapt to their spouses way of life.  Another person may look attractive...especially if you are having a hard time in your relationship but you must keep in mind that there is a whole new learning curve with a new relationship.