parents

[sak4kat]

jkhanson: That is such a simple approach.  I'm going to try and utilize that into my relationship with my Mom.  If I get into the habit of calling her weekly maybe she won't just show up on my doorstep uninvited.  Mom's worry generally (I know I do) and my Mom is over the top.  If she has a bad dream and I'm in it she feels the need to drive over and make sure I'm breathing.  To me I feel as though it's very odd behavior.

[plennis]

Well for the last six years I have come to their house five days a week for nine hours a day to take care of my mom.  Finally, I decided I needed a life that wasn't consumed with them and the longer I didn't have a regular job, the harder it would be for me to get one when I finally needed to.  Friday is my last day taking care of her.  I feel so bad, but it was just more than I could keep doing.  My dad insists he is going to do it all.  He is 80 and she is totally bedridden.  He has had two major surgeries so far this year along.  They need assisted living or to put her in a nursing home, but he won't do it.  Neither of them can drive and he falls at least once a week.  I am hoping my move will make them take a look at things and decide a change is needed.  I envy my sister who lives far away.


I hope you have made some sort of arrangements and are not just going to quit showing up.  There are all kinds of programs where they would be able to stay at home or in a nursing home together.  They have nurses that will check up on them, do blood pressure make sure they take medications, give baths that will come several times a week.  This is usually covered at least partly by Medicare or their supplemental insurance.  There are meals on wheels and other same kind of programs what will bring them 2 meals a day.  Get them both the medical alert necklace, bracelet or box so that if something does happen they can summon help quickly.   In our area we have volunteers who will go a couple of times a week to read, play chess  or just visit.

[sherryinutah]

I call my Mom on the last day of every month.  I was also playing Words With Friends on Facebook with her but lately we haven't been doing that.  My parents are both still living but I really don't have a relationship with my Dad.

 

[CHANEYLAKEGIRL]

We email a few times a week and I usually see them on the weekend. They live about 1/2 hour from me.

[bretay]

my dad past away 5 years ago.My mom lives in another city..But she usually calls me..If I haven't heard from her in about 3 days then I call her..

[work778]

I stay in touch with both of my parents on a regular basis.  It is about 50/50 I call them and they call me.

[minervaspirit]

Both of my parents have passed away!  There is not a day that goes by that I wouldnt love to call and talk to either one of them!  On the other hand by husband has both parents living (He isn't close to either one of them) and he hardly ever talks to them.  I am usually the one that suggests he call them!

Mine have as well and I miss them a lot.  BUT I do not miss my mother's daily (sometimes a few times in a day) calls.  She just didn't get it that I always couldn't talk and got huffy if I had to get off the phone.  And I always was upset after a call because she was so negative.

[Nancy5]

Both my parents are dead, but the last 5 years of my mom's life she lived with us.  She had Dementia and I didn't want to put her in a nursing home.  Thank God my husband didn't mind too much and never said don't do it to me, would I do it again, I don't know - it caused a strain in our living environment as our going out as a couple was non existent as she could not be left alone.  It did upset me that my siblings just pretty much washed their hands as far as helping us, they lived their lives and figured we would continue to care for her without their help!