Should marriage be for better or for worse?

[demaina]

Yes, it should mean something.  I don't quite get how people seem to get married after knowing each other for 3 minutes and then they get divorced the minute they don't seem to agree on something.

People aren't always going to agree on things, and if you can't deal with it (like a spouse wanting to abuse you in some method), then you should be able to leave because you didn't agree to that.  However, if you agree to be with someone and they get sick, you should stand by them.

Personally, I think people don't set boundaries early on either in the dating phase or the engagement phase.  Some people are so scared of being alone that they'd rather be with anyone and compromise their comfort than stand firm and maybe be alone.

[minervaspirit]

My husband and I have been married for over 40 years and believe me that doesn't just happen by accident.  I think if you have a real commitment to each other you will deal with the issues as they come along, learn from them and move on.  I'm always asked - What's the secret?  No secret, just mutual respect and keep the communication lines open!
Having said that I believe that there are situations that come up in some marriages when breaking marriage vows is the most appropriate answer. Do what you can to keep it together but recognize when it's time to get out.

[sarah791017]

of course be better.

[timvolley]

though im not married the better or worse is just reminding you that life ahs it good and bad times and you should still stay married during these times good or bad.

[davidh121]

Marriage vows and the concept of a life partner is meant to be someone you are willing to deal with during the good and the bad. I'm looking in the long term myself to experience all sensations I might get during the time spent together. I know there has been bumps along the way, but I can't see myself anywhere else.

[rpse1927]

i think for my self marrige is great. i had a great husband.

[dancer139]

been married twice,,,,  once for 4 years   second one for 15 years.  I guess for better or worse didn't work either time.   If I should  try for a third time,,,,,,,,,,  That part will be taken out of the marriage vows lol

[elysee24]

For better or why get married?!

[yen1207]

though it's just a paper, but it means a lot.

[kqa]

I think so because life is never a bed of roses all the time. Getting married for the right reason to someone you really love should make it a bit easier during hard times.

[joker365247]

i think that line is the most important in marriage vows. have someone you truly love by your side makes the good time better and the bad time survivable. my wife is the strongest person i have ever met, you wouldn't guess by looking at her, a tiny barely 5ft tall asian woman, but she is fierce, headstrong and stubborn as an old mule as my dad would say(yes he does say thing like that). there have been time in my life that i don't know  how i would have gotten though if it weren't  for her.

[maxinmotion]

I think every part of the marriage vow should be honored. Otherwise why even bother to get married!

[Shandara09]

Yes, but I do think there are situations when the worst is a sign of something that should end.  Abuse being high on the list.  I also don't feel that if you've tried everything to make something work and you're still miserable, that you should have to live the rest of your life in misery.

[Tresbn00]

These days commitment seems to mean nothing...people see something more desirable and they jump boats, sacrifice everything, for something that has the appearance of being better.  That being said I don't believe that, for alot of people, marriage should be for better or worse.  People are human(now there is a redundant statement) and they make mistakes. They lead with passion rather than thinking of consequences and truly analyzing what they are getting into . Couple that with the constant change that people go through and I feel that it is almost impossible for a large percentage of people to remain happy in a relationship tagged for better or worse because worse can get pretty bad!

[march1971]

Wondering if anyone thinks when you marry and say "for better or for worse" you should mean it?  Another question would be, what does commitment mean?

I have been to about 10 weddings, including my own, and "For Better or For Worse" was in the vows. however, my wife screwed up royally, and it has almost been one year that I divorced her. moral here, submit to your husband, your husband loves you as Christ loves the Church, and neither of you stray.