Should marriage be for better or for worse?

[queenofnines]

I don't like how most people treat their spouse as someone who is "disposable", but not their kids or blood family. You should do everything you can to work through your issues FIRST (except in extreme cases, of course).

[jcalexis]

marriage should be for the better. When two people get married; they become one. The love that they have for each other will help them to overcome any obstacles.

[cathy37]

I do believe in the marriage vows, but sometimes things just don't work out.  In my case, my ex was sloppy and would not take a shower unless I made him.  He would not brush his teeth.  I'm not a nasty person, so I can't stand someone who is.

[bjthoms1020]

Marriage should be forever. We have become a disposable society were if something breaks we get rid of it instead of trying to fix it. Sometimes it cant be fixed. sometimes its a train wreck. My grandparents have been married 63 years 64 in sept. My Aunt Dorthy and her husband will be celebrating 61 years  this year. these are who I look to when times are tough in my marriage. they give me hope knowing they have seen A LOT of bad times and they still love each more than they did they got married.  Gives me hope when thing get tough. We will be celebrating 7 years in oct.

[ancmetro]

      I do not believe in marriage vows. You can do with your marriage much...much better!

[sherryinutah]

I believe there's a life cycle to everything; a beginning, a middle and an end.  A relationship also has a life cycle where people "fall in love" and then they eventually love each other enough to release one another.  They might release each other when one of them dies or when the relationship dies. 

I think it's a mistake to hang on too long.  People deserve to bring out the best in each other and if they stop doing that....

it's time to move on where they allow each other to experience different people, places and things.  LOVE isn't about "owning" someone or being stuck in a codependent relationship.  It's about wanting what's best for each other.

 

[sarabtrayior]

Unless there is abuse, it should be forever, we're going on 33 years and we could have gotten divorced several times, however life is full of hills and valleys so you should not get divorced in a valley because the hill is going to follow...

[bigfoot951]

Hmmm...I think marriage is for better or for worse as both always occur during any given marriage.  If you are asking if you should stay married no matter how bad things get...that is too vague of a question for me as every situation is different.

[keveland]

Im not sure if for better or worse should even be in vows.  I was married to an awful man for 12 abusive years and was very glad to get out of the situation.  My kids and I are doing great now but Im awful gunshy about any marriage or relationship!!! :-

[Sweetpea1228]

Yes I believe it does. Sometimes its hard but it's the commitment a person chose to make. Staying married doesn't necessarly mean that you have to stay together sometimes people seperate for a time to see if they can work out their difffernces.

[sdecaro558]

Most people in this day and age don't take commitments in general seriously - including marriage.  Put another way, there is nothing sacred in this day and age.

[sweetsweepgirl]

Not necessarily. It's hard to articulate my thoughts on this but in my opinion, the whole point of it is to benefit. If those benefits run out and you want to leave, leave. I know that sounds cynical but to me signing a contract and receiving tax benefits "for love" has always been such an odd concept in the first place. I don't think love and marriage necessarily go together.

[gennjen]

Yes it should be that way. You both promise that .

[vickysue]

I hate to admite to it but i also have been married 3 times. (1) married for 15 long hard years. Had two great boys, But i was always his slave. Oh yeah mental abuse is awful on a person. Then the sleeping around he did. also was not allowed to spend any of his money even though i worked my tail off on the farms it was all his.  (2) was a drunk, (i did not know he was a drunk until ater married) a womanizer and wen he did show up at home drunk he would beat me up, pulled a gun and choked me. Needlesy to say i did not stick around. Was single for a long time. Met my husband i have now. and i had him investaged before i woul date him smart) Laid down some rules and we have been married 20 years.

[lhz123]

For my opinion i want  to be better and for worse because when you got married you promised to be together forever.