Should marriage be for better or for worse?

[reiddb]

Wondering if anyone thinks when you marry and say "for better or for worse" you should mean it?  Another question would be, what does commitment mean?

[adg35]

Yes, it should mean it. Through thick and thin!

[Phx0808]

No matter what you should remain marry until death do part, if that is your promise.
I would like to see people promise for less time and then renew their vows. Yeah we will try for 5 years, then the marriage will terminate unless we renew our vows.

[msmoneybags48]

Marriage takes commitment; it takes work and compromise.   I have been married 3 times:  the first one shouldn't have happened; we got married after knowing each other for a month; I was too young to understand the ins and outs of marriage.  He got a divorce after I told him I would wreck his life if I got it.  I discovered that our marriage was not legal after the first 6 months and that he was a heel to boot.  I celebrate my birthday and our divorce, since our divorce was granted on my 23rd birthday.  The second marriage I promised I would actually get to know the man; we lived together for 3 years and got married; I just couldn't take it anymore.  He never could tell me the truth; all he told me was that his divorce (provided there was one) was arranged by his mother in-law and became final in New York or Indiana.  Later, when I pressed him for the truth, he told me it was none of my business.  That was the straw that broke the camel's back.  I left him in 2000 and never looked back.  I divorced him in 2011.  I was with my 3rd husband 2 years and we have been married 18 months.

[Timberlan127]

I believe that marriage should be a total commitment and something you work at daily to make work. I believe in complete loyalty and honesty. That said I don't believe anyone should stay in a marriage where there is physical or emotional abuse. Those are deal breakers. But I think everything else is something you should work on together by caring about each other and being kind to each other every day.

[ladavia89]

I think some people should try a little harder to make some relationships work but not all are meant to last. If there was any form of abuse towards me or my children, you cheat,there's trust issues,  or commit any crime that lands you prison time we're not staying married. Those are just the major things off the top of my head

[Screwedupclick4life337]

Yes you should mean it or don't get married lol

[lorettahknox]

It should be for real! Life is life and when you take vows of marriage you are saying to each other that you will walk though life together through all that it entails. Don't be a sissy, have some backbone. I think that marriage is falsely romanticized in movies and on tv where they show you this Lalala nonsense and people expect it to be that way. It is sometime but, not all the time. You have to know your role in marriage and perform it and you must do it everyday. To have a partner is a gift and a privilege. You must be unselfish and yielding. Nothing except your own survival should be more important than your union if you are to maintain your marriage. There will be good times and bad because life is full of experiences but it will be so worth it. 

[Nancy5]

I believe when you marry you must try to make it work, especially if there are children.  However, there are things that should not be tolerated and in my marriage would be a deal breaker and I would head for a divorce lawyer so fast his head would spin.  These include, verbal and/or physical abuse to me or our kids, cheating, excessive drinking, drugs, excessive gambling.  There are many marriages that are "well if it doesn't work we can divorce", that's not what marriage is.  When we got married neither of us said "as long as we both shall live", we both said "as long as we both shall love"., and we are still going strong!

[sak4kat]

I've been married twice and I and my plan is to marry one final time.  I married at 19.  True to my vow's I really tried hard to honor our vows.  After 12 years of marriage.  15 years into our total relationship...a home we built and 3 kids.  I divorced him.  My choice.  I couldn't tolerate the drinking and lies.  A couple of felony charges and jail time on his end while going through the divorce was plenty reasurrance for me I was making the right choice for myself and 3 kids. I married a 2nd time out of sheer desperation.  STUPID.  I started a business with some dude I met on the internet.  N'uff said.  2 divorces and 1 bankruptcy later I found my soulmate while working as a cake decorator in wal-mart.  He's never been married but has been through the the home sweet home experience with having children.  We are living together....our goal is to get married and I fully intend on for better or for worse this time.  Bottom line.  Vows are made to honor one another...when personal destruction begins on one or the other... the vows aren't meaning much at that point any longer.  It takes to to honor vows. 

[bremer51]

Certainly, the marital committment should not be taken lightly.    You can't just waltz up to the altar and commit to "until death do us part" before God and man, and not mean it.  Marriage is one of the holy sacraments ordained by God.

[hstille]

Yes you should mean it when you say your marriage vows for better or worse till death do us part.....commitment is when you stand by your partners side no matter what and you are always there for eachother no matter what the situation be!

[nhendrickson]

No matter what you should remain marry until death do part, if that is your promise.
I would like to see people promise for less time and then renew their vows. Yeah we will try for 5 years, then the marriage will terminate unless we renew our vows.

I agree.  Even though marriage is supposed to be a contract, the law doesn't treat it like it is.  Otherwise, you could negotiate renewal clauses and other items that are typically in contracts.  Society has kind of romanticized views about marriage that make this unlikely to happen though.

[yaayme]

No, I don't believe in "for better or for worse" in some instances, like infidelity and abuse. However, I believe you should stick by a person through "sickness and health". Or if you don't see eye to eye on certain issues like money, chores, communication problems or how to raise kids...those things should be talked over and worked out. They are not legit cause's for divorce...but infidelity and abuse is a no-no for me. It depends on the person/couple.

[mstevenson2]

yes inless your getting beat