want to hear some opinions please...

[LuckyDeutch]

How many of you think it is right to take home the flowers after a funeral? I am asking this question, because recently we had a death in family and one of the kids brought us back a huge plant from the funeral home.. I do NOT like that idea...but hubby says its not hurting anything but I do NOT want it in my home!  So what do you think??

[bowrunner]

It never occurred to me that there was anything at all the matter with doing that.  The flowers will mostly go to waste otherwise.  I brought flowers and/or potted plants home after my father's, mother's and husband's funerals.

[kapeh12]

It would probably depend on the family for whom the funeral is being held.  Most flowers at the home come from people sending them as a means of showing their condolences.  If the family suffering the loss doesn't care to keep the flowers, I see no reason why it would be a bad thing to take them home.  I've been to funerals where the family told people to take the flowers home so they wouldn't go to waste - they just wanted to make sure to keep any tags that might have been sent in the plant.

[annettefayeroach]

My family has always taken home the live plants. Some plants have to be inside.I have the ones from when my Dear Sweet Mother passed away. I would not give them away for anything.

[6265AT99]

How many of you think it is right to take home the flowers after a funeral? I am asking this question, because recently we had a death in family and one of the kids brought us back a huge plant from the funeral home.. I do NOT like that idea...but hubby says its not hurting anything but I do NOT want it in my home!  So what do you think??

Well, I'm on your side - I think it's creepy!!!!  But, maybe "donating" them to a hospital ward might cheer others up!

[Nancy5]

I have never taken flowers from a funeral, nor have I ever noticed anyone removing them from my parents or my in-laws funerals.

[alice44]

I think it depends on you.  If you are uncomfortable with then in your home - donate them to a hospital or nursing home.  If they are live plants, you have a living memorial to the person who passed away.  I see no problem either way.

[cloudsoup]

i always grew up thinking that's what you're supposed to do 
live plants are something that grows, hence the person's spirit living on?
i mean, nobody has ever TOLD me this is the reason they take the plants
home, but i've just assumed from a young age...

why would you want them to go to waste? the funeral home throws them
out or donates them if they are not taken. they're flowers for goodness
sakes, not an urn full of human ashes.

give the plant to someone who will appreciate it, if you're not going to.

[camellia0]

There's no harm in bringing plants home. When my dad died, my mom planted the plants outside. It was nice. It seemed like a part of my dad was still there, outside.

[mperez7372]

i always grew up thinking that's what you're supposed to do 
live plants are something that grows, hence the person's spirit living on?
i mean, nobody has ever TOLD me this is the reason they take the plants
home, but i've just assumed from a young age...

why would you want them to go to waste? the funeral home throws them
out or donates them if they are not taken. they're flowers for goodness
sakes, not an urn full of human ashes.

give the plant to someone who will appreciate it, if you're not going to.

That is what I was thinking.  If it is a plant (not flowers on a wreath, then it is a symbol of living on and still being with you.  I don't think that's creepy.  The big huge wreath of flower mums with a photo attached in your foyer???... creepy.

[ben50]

People do take them home and I have seen it done, I would not want it in my home though, too eerie, it belongs at the cemetary

[luvh8tragedy87]

Hmmm I don't know. I guess it depends. My grandpa passed away last year and my mom brought home the roses he had with him. I also think if you paid for them then it's ok to bring them home.

[LuckyDeutch]

ok/ maybe I should and will explain a little more. They were from my step daughters funeral. I just feel very uncomfortable having them here and I just now found out that it was her plant. My husbands kids know I do not like big plants in my home because my home is so small. I can not sleep in my bedroom because my husband says that plant gives off a lot of oxygen and is good for us. he will not comprimize i asked him if we could please give it to my 8 yr old nephew who is obsessed with plants but he refused. I feel I lost my bed due to this. I just get the feeling she is in that room and feel so uncomfortable, but husband says it stays and its doing no harm. Guess I will have to live with it til the plant dies. I even suggested giving it to the vets home or nursing home(thats where the kids brought all the rest of the flowers and plants that were at the funeral home. Besides, he even mentioned the nursing home and the day we were going to bring them there, he changed his mind.  I grew up that donate or put on grave..that is the respectable thing to do..thats whatmy family and grandparents had always told me. Thank you for everyones opinion.

[katie322]

I Honestly have no problem bringing home a plant from a loved ones funeral! My grandfather was admitted to a hospital in which he passed away 10+ years later the plant is still heatlthy and produces flowers!

[catherinedwhite]

Many people send plant with the intentions you will keep it after the funeral.
My mother had a peace lilly which came from her mother's funeral and it gave
her a lot of comfort. 
After my dad passed, my house was filled with plants.  I had so many I had
to give some away.  But, I kept my favorites.

If it makes you uncomfortable, then get rid of it.