sleeping trouble

[aggie49]

i don't no why i can't sleep since my mom passed away i guess it gets me that's what everyone is telling me i still have a hard time dealing with the fact she isn't here anymore

[samrhett2]

Although I have not suffered a loss like yours, I do have real problems sleeping from time to time.  It goes in cycles and sometimes lasts for months.  It is related to my stress level.  I am bi-polar, so I guess it is mania, although I have a different form that the stereotypical mania.  Some of my most productive work gets done during those periods of time.  You can try sleep aids that are over the counter.  My doctor gave me Ambien, but I got up in the night and felt like I was so drunk I could fall down so I don't feel safe taking that anymore.

[pitbullsigh]

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my mom a couple of years back. I didn't sleep well before and I don't sleep well now either 
I hope that you find a solution that works for you, I have had varying degrees of success with over the counter stuff.

[kapeh12]

I lost my mom several years ago when I was in college.  I had problems sleeping for a while after that as well.  It's not all that uncommon.  As an above posted noted, often increased stress levels (regardless of the stress trigger) can interrupt sleep patterns.

It's reasonable to make the assumption your difficulty is related to you mind trying to process through your loss.  My advice will be to not worry about your difficulty sleeping - that will just make it worse.  Just accept the fact your mind is preoccupied which is keeping you up and that it's normal and okay.  Then let yourself grieve as you need to - don't bottle it up.  Once you get to a point in your grieving process that you've accepted your loss, you'll probably start sleeping better.

[o2bnocn]

I'm so sorry. I hope you can start to sleep better soon. If it doesn't get better you may want to go to the doctors or a therapist.

[Clandestine1]

I'm sorry for your loss. I have sleeping problems too. Sometimes I can't even fall asleep at all and sometimes it takes me hours to fall asleep. I know that it's because I think about stuff when I should be focusing on sleeping but I can't help it. Maybe it's the same with you or maybe it's because of stress as another poster said.

[catherinedwhite]

I am very sorry for your loss.
Getting back in to a normal sleeping routine after a major loss
can take quite some time.

I have found once I did fall asleep, it was a deeper sleep because
I was so mentally drained.  If this is the case for you too, then
you won't need as many hours of sleep.

Try exercising... it may sound silly but you need to tire out
your body so your mind will rest.  Add walking a mile to your
daily routine and see if that helps.

[de3ik]

I'm sorry to hear that your mother passed. I hope you will be feeling better. Even though I have never experienced the same loss I can say that when I'm very stressed I don't sleep as well. You might want to try a medication like Melatonin which helps with sleep or maybe a soothing tea that helps with sleep. My mother takes Yunnan Pu Erh tea which is oriental and she says it relaxes her for a good night sleep. If you are still having trouble I would suggest using therapy or a support group to help ease the pain of your mother's loss and the stress that came with it. Maybe that can help you to sleep better.

[lbryanwf]

My heart goes out to you d I am sorry for your loss. I think you are still in mourning. Please see a doctor to ( temporily) get something to help you sleep, so your health does not suffer. You might also get some grief counseling if you have not already Good Luck

[nguzman1]

oh wow sorry to hear. my mom is dealing with the same situation since my grandma passed away.

[twelton]

So sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my Mom in 1997 and had trouble sleeping. Over time it got better and I was able to sleep, but now I'm going through a lot of other stress and menopause so that isn't helping. I found that listening to soft music, drinking a calming tea or taking a calming bath helped. You can find calming tea at your grocery store and the bath wash usually has removing stress or the word calm, Aveeno is what I've been using now and I've finally been able to sleep some.

[alamedann]

I'm sorry to hear about your mom passing.   That's tough.  You've just been through a significant life event (according to the experts) and so it's normal to notice disruptions in how things are going for you.  You are also feeling very sad; that kind of emotion can definitely disturb your sleep--sleeping more than usual or not being able to sleep.  When I can't sleep, I find doing meditation helps clear my mind.  Usually, I'm feeling anxiety and the meditation helps alleviate that.  In meditation, I try to clear my mind and focus on what's actually happening in me in that moment.  If that doesn't help and I'm having a really tough time, I'll take Xanax, for which I have a prescription.  Again, sorry about your mom.  It sounds like you had a really special connection with her.

[rghvac69]

When I have trouble falling asleep I take a melatonin tablet and read for about 30 minutes. It works for me.

[diala84]

I'm sorry for your loss. Hopefully time will help you deal with this loss.

As for sleeping I would suggest some natural supplements to help you fall asleep.
Melatonin or Valerian root have helped calm me down and put me to sleep when
I would feel really awake and my mind wouldn't stop thinking. I hope that can help
some.